Are you put off a potential partner if they are a cluttered untidy type?

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D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

It's extremes I avoid. A complete slob is probably going to be a host of problems that an extreme anal retentive perfectionist, although not exactly the same, will provide you. Problems won't be the same, but they are gonna have some problems that are not going to be easy for an average person to deal with.

Cluttered, untidy are what I've seen the most out of women, but in a lot of the cases it's because they just excessively buy shit and don't have a place to put it anymore. I'm not really a fan of that or the idea that they spend money just to spend it. The guys I know that buy shit just to buy it are usually doing it with big things like classic cars because they know that material object is going to retain its value better than the American dollars sitting in the bank. Beta bux bitch males will buy cars because they want to impress chicks. Back to chicks though... I see them do weird shit like buy shoes they don't ever wear or purses when they don't even use a purse.

I prefer to be a minimalist. You can't make a mess when you don't have enough bullshit to make a mess with. I started to slip when my son was young and I'd buy him toys... shit was all over the place and he prefers his phone anyways. Toy would get played with for like 5 minutes and then I would step on it. I just quit doing that shit and started throwing them away. Now nothing is on the ground and he keeps track of his phone and cares for it unlike those useless toys.

molonski2 · Accepted Answer

Yes , a little messy is okey , but clutter means it will flow to other areas of life , Clutter and genuinely untidy is not acceptable , Messy can be worked with and improved.

Its a statement on their life , its like making the bed first task , that discipline is required for certain , its organisation.

fartingspinster · Accepted Answer

It bothers me lol
I struggle to keep my papers/mail organized. So I end up having piles. But once I have a cleaning streak... my place looks amazing.
I need a partner that can help me keep things tidy 😂
I dont mind a lived in feel, but i practice minimalism to help me keep things uncluttered. I really dont like clutter or too much furniture in one room.

4ngelic · Accepted Answer

if they're just disorganized, messy and cluttered but aren't living in filth, i can do with it. but if they're the type to have 2 weeks of food trash in their room, i can't

Finchie40 · Answer

Doesn’t bother me unless they are extreme slobs , but a little clutter here n there isn’t that big of a deal. To me , I actually prefer a girl to be a little laid back that doesn’t constantly worry about cleaning constantly, I was with a girl that had OCD and she was a nightmare , she could barely ever relax unless things were spotless , she would scream and yell that things weren’t clean, like we were preparing for the president to come visit us every day , she was insane , after we broke up and I saw some dishes in the sink , I actually smiled and left it there until I felt ready to clean them lol

Summeroflove · Answer

It depends on how extreme it is being a little messy isn’t a huge deal unless you’re just filthy and a slob… There is no reason for anyone to be like that and especially inviting other people into your life being that way. Is a no thanks…

Blunky · Answer

Only if they refuse to see it as something that needs to be tidy'd up every now and then. Clutter happens. Some people just don't know what to do with it or how to organize. I can work with that since I myself like cleaning a lot. The ones that think it's fine to just leave clutter there forever are the ones I'm put off by.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

It depends. I like tidy clutter that many would suggest is untidy, but having garbage everywhere or stuff all over the flood is bad.

But cluttered shelves filled with collections of books, action figures, video games, decorations, art, art supplies, terarriums, etc, to the point of near overflow? thats all good.

exitseven · Answer

I dted somebody who was a real slob. She had her clothes piled on her bed and just poked through the pile when she needed something to wear. She had a dog and the dog had a litter box but half the time he missed the box and she never would clean up the mess. At the time it didn't really bother me but now i am a little horrified.

kellytheman · Answer

It depends how cluttered their place is. If they are very unorganized and things are in places and have to dig through stuff to find something might be a little off putting. I think if her room is a little untidy like if bed is not made, clothes on floor or end table is full of stuff I be okay but if her whole place is like that I feel like I just want to clean lol.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Depends on the level we are talking about… if it presents a hygiene issue , yes. Otherwise no. I don’t mind a bit of clutter and mess … that’s called living.

No time to be a clean freak , life is too short

IslaTheWitch · Answer

personal hygiene and clean clothes... it's a bare minimum...

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

There are nuances here, but I think it's the opposite for me, I get a better impression from "cluttered untidy" girls as it usually goes with a certain personality I blend well with

Abbycado · Answer

Yep, I would be. I like things neat. My one roommate drives me insane.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Yes but It depends how and where. If you want to throw clothes all over the bedroom floor I can probably live with that but the kitchen and bathroom need to be clean and organized.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Yeah, I'm a neat freak and minimalist. I do best with a partner who is at least somewhat similar in nature. I couldn't live with a hoarder, slob, or procrastinator.

Zack-Bann · Answer

Leaving clothes lying around? Not a problem at all Doesn’t shower or take care of her personal image? Big problem

sawno · Answer

No, just means we have to keep an eye that it doesn't get to far out of control.

denzooo9 · Answer

nooo but it interferes with daily life, it’d make me upsettt

xcheerleader_jessx · Answer

It's not a deal breaker but I question if it's apathy or depression.

RingOfFire · Answer

To tell you the truth it's a real turn-off for me when a woman doesn't keep things neat and tidy. I find it very unfeminine.

holhartedly · Answer

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Lokiion · Answer

No because I'm not tidy till I go on a little cleaning spree so her being like that would mix better with me

Pterodon · Answer

Complicated. My girlfriend that I love very much is a hoarder. I won’t live with or marry her till she does something to treat her problem

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Yesssss! I can't stand that it's a major turn off for me definitely a deal breaker

WatchMeCumXD · Answer

Cluttered is not the same as dirty. Dirty is not ok but cluttered is. I bet you have ADHD like me. Clutter is a part of life

Anonymous · Answer

You're really 45? You look like you're 20 something.

rizzzz007 · Answer

Yeah definitely I don't think anyone like undity person. I'm like I want near and hygienic person

Alexa6 · Answer

If few things but when it’s all over if it filth no.

Jennz6 · Answer

Doesn’t bother me

katiesmuff · Answer

That wouldn't work for me!

NathanDavis · Answer

if there's wildlife... I'm out

faith_it · Answer

If I can clean it myself no

Anonymous · Answer

It doesn't bother me.

jahaims · Answer

I can handle disorganized but not dirty

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Extremely put off

Zoe04 · Answer

No but filth yes.

PaleDale · Answer

Not if we connect deeply. Worth it.

krin_m · Answer

Yes, I'm a neat freak.

Chargirllll · Answer

Not necessarily

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yes.

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