Would you want to be with a partner who is indecisive?

[Anonymous]

Yes I wouldn't mind

No I'd rather no

[Little_Bumblebee]

I would rather not.

I can be way too indecisive myself, so if he was as well, it would become chaos where nothing is getting done.

[InYourHead]

Honestly I'm not a fan of guys who are like that. Be decisive. Be self assured. And be willing to make mistakes and own up to it

[OlderAndWiser]

Me: Where do you wanna go for dinner?
Her: I don't care.

Me: How about Italian food?
Her: Probably not.

Me: You want Mexican food?
Her: Oh. . . I just had that like three days ago.

Me: Do you want barbecue?
Her: Not really vibing that tonight.

Me: So what do you want?
Her: I don't know. It doesn't matter.

That is an actual conversation that I had with my ex-wife on more than one occasion. It gets old REAL quick!

[Asker]

Haha. I can relate to this too, it's annoying

[DevinAM]

My mother is like that.

[zeitgeist057]

I don't actually mind indecisiveness that much, as long as it is not impairing my own ability to act. This is the difficulty when it comes to having a partner who is indecisive.

For example, if we are going to go to a restaurant, here are two acceptable and unacceptable dialogues:

Ideal:

Me: Hey sugar cakes, where do you want to go for dinner?
Her: I don't know. I'm so indecisive! I don't know what I'm in the mood for.
Me: Okay, well, let's go to La Super Rica, it's my favorite Mexican restaurant and you like their margaritas.
Her: Okay, papi, thanks for being so decisive! We're going to have a great meal <3

Unacceptable:

Me: Hey sugar cakes, where do you want to go for dinner?
Her: I don't know. I'm so indecisive! I don't know what I'm in the mood for.
Me: Okay, well, let's go to La Super Rica, it's my favorite Mexican restaurant and you like their margaritas.
Her: No, I don't know what I want, but it isn't Mexican.
Me: Okay, how about the brewery? They have great burgers and salads.
Her: No, that's too noisy.
Me: Okay, hmmm. Quiet, not Mexican place, let me think. There's that vegan place on the mesa?
Her: No, I don't know want to go there.
Me: Do you want me to cook at home?
Her: I do want to go out, I just don't know where.
Me: Okay, well I just suggested four different options and you said no to all of them, this is kind of frustrating. I am also hungry, maybe I should go get food somewhere without you, while you decide what you want to eat. Because I'm hungry enough I'm not picky. I will eat a can of chili and a raw avocado at this point.

Acceptable:

Me: Hey sugar cakes, where do you want to go for dinner?
Her: I don't know. I'm so indecisive! I don't know what I'm in the mood for.
Me: Okay, well, let's go to La Super Rica, it's my favorite Mexican restaurant and you like their margaritas.
Her: No, I don't know what I want, but it isn't Mexican.
Me: Okay, how about the brewery? They have great burgers and salads.
Her: It's not ideal for me, but I don't want to be a pain in the ass and shoot down every suggestion you make, so let's go there. I'm sure we'll have a nice time, because it's the company that matters.

So that's my point. You can be indecisive, no big deal. I can and will make decisions, that's easy. What's not easy is being restricted by someone else's indecisiveness.

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Be patient with them. Let them know there's no wrong answers (wheb applicable) and you will see them transform. I personally believe its childhood trauma that makes people indecisive.

Make the first move; for example: hey do you wanna hang out? Perfect see you at 2pm does that work? Great! Go to their house pick them up and ask where do you wanna go? Dont leave their driveway until they decide. Dont get upset if they narrow it down to two options try and give pros and cons to each. I think indecisive people are people pleasers so they always do what the other one wants rarely think about what they want they are indecisive because decisions were always made for them. Thinking for themselves will come natural with time unless they always lean on what other people think. That will lead them down a dark path of loneliness and depression.

[ChrisMaster69]

Erm not sure…

maybe

but then again

will get back to you

[midnightmoon05]

I taught him now to be decisive.

if you can’t decide… you need to not date and grow a bit. because this has to do with the heart and feelings … it’s not a game.

[HighValue]

That would only work if they just went along with all of my decisions all the time, but even then it would become a hassle to always have to decide everything for her.

[donnny2367764]

Fuck no. That would make the relationship worthless

[Asker]

How come😶

[donnny2367764]

Think about it. There's nothing worse than being around someone who can't make up their mind about general things, can you imagine what a bride to be must worry about before tying the knot? ¿What if he changes his mind? ¿What if I'm not good enough? Etc etc

[cryscrys1]

No why you are not a poop you have a brain to think and legs to leave right?

[Maroo9]

Nope because they will want to keep breaking up then getting back together.

[Asker]

Word!!!

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Thats simply just being taken advantage of!

[Asker]

@PeacefulRainDrop it's happened.

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Well when someone lets you go once dont give them another chance! We have all been in a on again off again relationship with a man who thought the grass was greener well those men will never be satisfied. So best to let them leave but deny to let them come back. If a man truly loves you there's no taking breaks... to improve bullshit.. he's just entertaining someone else!

[Asker]

@PeacefulRainDrop I know I blame myself, I was inlove and stupid

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Well sweetie blaming yourself doesn't solve anything! Take a moment and learn from it and vow to never allow yourself to be in that situation again! Know your worth!

Its living and learning at its finest!

[Asker]

@PeacefulRainDrop yeah I definitely won't allow this next time

[PeacefulRainDrop]

You gotta be your own best friend in this world!! Be kind to yourself. Dont ever settle! there's someone out there that will appreciate everything about you! :)

[Amy10223]

I am an indecisive person myself, or rather I weigh out everything before I make a decision. So I wouldn't mind being with someone of the same mindset. I'm Libra, you see, and we are this way.

[chaarvisingh]

I myself am an indecisive person!
So I wouldn't want my partner to be the one!
There has to be balance!😄😅

[Rahul8124]

Balance in what way?

[chaarvisingh]

Like someone has to be decisive so it'll compensate for me being indecisive!✌

[Rahul8124]

@chaarvisingh cool also madam you are hot and sexy don't worry itna. i think you have self esteem issue but relax nothing wrong with your weight too..

[lightbulb27]

I really appreciate that my woman is decisive and easy about it.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. I can’t handle someone who’s indecisive.

[MossyMan]

Sure, the decision making should ideally be left to me, anyway.

[Jamie05rhs]

That's okay. The only decision I need from her is whether she loves me or not.

[Flower7]

Nope…too much confusion.

[Anonymous]

unrelated but what is the difference between prefer and would rather.

[Asker]

They mean the same thing I guess

[Neosporin]

It’s a bad trait I try to not do it myself

[sheikalana]

Indecisive about what?

[Asker]

Everything

[sheikalana]

I'm not sure if someone can be indecisive about everything in life. If I was attracted to them I would probably still give them a chance.

[Asker]

You can. Even I am

[midnightmoon05]

@asker - are you dating? Or not sure?

[Asker]

@midnightmoon05 I'm not dating.

[Fuentes]

I'd rathet not but nost females are

[Wise4myage]

No, and I know girls don't like it either.

[DevinAM]

As long as they're open to suggestions.

[Wester1967]

I'm not sure

[htmndg183]

Nope

[Wymersley]

Not sure