Would you stay with your partner if a better option comes along?

Question

Mofunfour20 · Accepted Answer

Most men would stay because we dont invest emotionally if we cheat. If a woman does it, she's already checked out of the relationship. Something the guy said or did made him unattractive taking her interests elsewhere to attract the male gaze

Jesus_is_the_guey · Accepted Answer

What tickles the fancy for a second isn’t worth risking a lifetime of happiness

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

I really have trouble with the entire premise of this question. The thinking behind it seems so wrong to me.

If your partner is not your VERY BEST 'option'. You should not be in that relationship. If you can imagine the POSSIBILITY that some better option could come along... you should not be in that relationship.

So... if you are in a relationship... someone "better" coming along will be such an overturning of EVERYTHING. If you find yourself in that situation, where someone better exists... you just learned in a crystal clear way that you should end that relationship. EVEN IF that "better option" is not actually 'an available option'. The mere existence of "a better option" means you're not with the right person.

To me that applies equally whether you are talking about a relationship of 2 weeks, or a marriage of 20 years (kids and all).

I would be SO hurt if someone stayed with me while thinking anyone else was 'a better option'.

This just seems so... calculated and practical. Like "better option" is something that you could put a number on and compare directly in a chart. Like measurable things. To me the "best option" isn't something that is a collection of measurable things... it's Love. Stumbling on a 'better option', to me, shatters the foundational premise upon which your current relationship is built. It's like pulling the rug out from under your relationship. The relationship must necessarily fall.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If I have just met - perhaps in a social setting - a woman who might be a better partner. . . how would I know that? My girlfriend and I have spent every weekend together for the past 4 months, we have been dating for 6 months, we have talked about dreams and goals and values and beliefs and we know each other to some extent. We are very comfortable around each other, relaxed, and we can be ourselves.

This potentially hot prospect. . . what do I know about her? She is attractive - apparently - and I know the sound of her voice. I may have spoken with her enough to know that she is above average intelligence.

I don't know that she is a kind and gentle soul. . . like my girlfriend.

I don't know that she is nurturing. . . like my girlfriend.

I don't know if she is sweet and pleasant when she wakes in the mornings. . . like my girlfriend.

I don't know if she will want to do things to please me. . . like my girlfriend.

I don't know if she will enjoy many of my interests. . . like my girlfriend.

I don't know if she and I can have fun just going to the grocery store. . . like my girlfriend.

And, most importantly, I am not in love with her.

There will always be other people who are more attractive than your partner. There will always be other people more affluent, or more popular, or more connected, or more widely known and respected than your partner. But those are not things I am looking for in a partner and I have found The One who makes me happy.

Pass on by, pretty girl!

Aguysopinion4799 · Answer

In what way do we mean a better option though? I mean, if it is just based on looks then I can say now that if I was in a relationship and saw someone else who looked a bit prettier, I would never consider going for them, my loyalty to the relationship I wish so deeply for would make me never want to choose someone else if we were so compatible that we got into a relationship ^__^

But, I believe there is a case of exception for this category such as like if a better option came along where your current partner is mentally abusive or manipulative and you come across a better option of a person who is supportive and proves to be better in that category, in that way I think it is actually healthy for you both for your own welfare and also for a healthier relationship.

I have never been in a relationship, but I know already that the one I want to have is one that is very much devoted, I would never consider someone else nor even make moves on someone else or allow someone else to make moves on me if I was in a relationship, it would mean too much to me.

tiffany_g · Answer

They don't become my partner if I don't think they're the best option. I'll give my body freely when I'm single, but if I have better options the best a guy will get from me is a one night stand or booty call privileges.

My heart, on the other hand, is very difficult to obtain. A man or woman has to tick all of the right boxes to get me to stick around when the clothes go back on and to get me to tell a man that he'll never have to share me with other men or a woman that she'll never have to share me with other women.

When I'm with someone a better option never comes along because if someone makes it past friends with benefits they already have absolutely everything I'm looking for in a partner.

Crystal28 · Answer

No, I wouldn’t. Why you be in a relationship with someone who you don’t think is your absolute best option? For example, if I’m in a relationship where I see that me and him argue a lot, have less in common than I thought, and he doesn’t treat me like absolute gold and then I notice that there is guy out there that I have so much in common with and get a long with so well, why would I stay with someone who is clearly not my best option, and could enter a relationship where I’m so much happier?

To the people who say that they’d stay even if they noticed “better options”, how? If you’re even noticing that there are “better” options out there, clearly there is something that your relationship isn’t fulfilling and that you should know your worth and what you deserve.

yourbabygirl921 · Answer

If I am in a relationship or married I will never pick someone else "better" over my partner because it's not about the first impression or looks if I am with someone I don't care if someone has better money or looks it's about my lovere heart and his whole being.

WolfBaneGal · Answer

Let's see. I've been with my boyfriend for three years. He's a patient very kind man who is more than willing to help others at his own expense even. He may never win an award for looks but who cares.

What's a "better option"? More importantly *how* do I know someone's better & why would I bother to take the risk. When it turns out to be a mistake then I've nothing & an idiot all the more for it.

Anonymous · Answer

I love him, in his good and bad moments, or else I wouldn’t be with him. Who knows, when I leave him for that better option, who says that it won’t happen again and that I won’t leave the next person for an even more better option? We cannot just jump from one relationship to the other all the time because we think that someone else might be a better catch. Everyone has their good and bad qualities, that‘s what makes them so unique. And by the way, the grass is not always greener on the other side.

HOAAH · Answer

There is no other options. He is my till death due us part.

Anonymous · Answer

That rather depends how happy you are in the current relationship doesn't it.
I'd like to think that after all this time and investment, family and children, there is little better out there.
However, if I were 21 and in a play relationship, it's much easier to move on.

The_Maphio · Answer

If you'd leave somebody you're fine with to go with someone else that's better off economically or have something more in common, you can very well do it.
Whether that makes you a good person or a piece of crap though, is up for debate.

Hanzyxw · Answer

Depends sometimes a better person that you don't know very well is not exactly a better person but just trying to make you think they are better so I would be very cautious with that

FunnyLady · Answer

Of course. I don’t play games. If I’m with someone, I’m with that person and I have no reason to look elsewhere. People who do that are scum. They shouldn’t be considered your partner, or you in what’s considered a relationship, if you’re keeping your options open. That’s called dating.

midnightcavern01 · Answer

If you think there is a better option then you might as well say your relationship is over. You might be bored with it already

Anonymous · Answer

I would stay with my partner for sure, i not only love him for looking hot af and being 6’4 , but I love him for who is too. He’s kind, caring, optimistic, smart, and overall a genuine and kind human being. Yea there may be other hot guys out there, but I know for a fact my boyfriend is perfect one for me:)

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Once I'm in a relationship, I don't go looking for "better options.". The only reason I would leave is if I find out that we're not right for each other. (Personality conflicts.)

BADballie1 · Answer

Kids do not make a marriage better, it can be a destructive process with no clear winners. Never believe a child will love you more if that was indeed the case there would be far fewer divorces. ALL THAT is a load of CRAP. Children prove very little except a financial burden if they go to very good schools and the biggest breakup of marriages!!!

scott04sa22 · Answer

Usually when a girl finds better opportunities she doesn't stay with me too long either is better career opportunities or finds a better partner with a deeper more emotional connection. Like the sex is way better from her new partner then her ex like someone like me 🙄

whatdoyouwantt · Answer

If you truly love someone, there’s no better option!!! Period

FreyaRed · Answer

A. If I'm happy with a guy I ignore all those shiny mr. Perfect.

kannettava · Answer

What is a better option anyway? I wouldn't know if someone is a better partner than my current partner, before actually being in a long term relationship with that other person. I don't have any reason to end my relationship over someone else.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Not sure how well you can really know someone without being in a relationship with them. The grass may seem greener but not always the case. If any flaws in my relationship I ought to be addressing them and working on solutions, not looking elsewhere

CurlyGirl42 · Answer

no, because I would not even know if another person is a better option until we have been together as a couple for a longer period, and I would certainly not start something on the side.

Jjpayne · Answer

To me, while I'd bite my lip with a curvy girl that loves video games and campy movies, I think there is something to be said about time investment. How much you invest time in a company is seen

es20490446e · Answer

Yes, because the relationship we have is what is the most important for me.

Twalli · Answer

Someone better would only be better looking, because I wouldn't know how a relationship would be with them.

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

Here's a good way of putting it for me:

Backspin2 · Answer

Loyalty is important, even if you aren't married. To throw something away for something that is perceived as better shows that you never truly cherished what you had the entire time.

pink_and_inlove · Answer

To me he is the best option no matter what and the only person that I want to be with

Anonymous · Answer

Typical Female self talk is.. All guys are 💩... Blah.. Blah... Me.. Me.. Sad.. Now a days that's all that's left for a guy to date.. Someone's girl.. Either a gold digger female or some, girl not sure.. But their is nothing wrong with leaving some one because they didn't pan out.. But if you are not the above.. So long as your open about it to your man.. Life is short, find someone you can't live without..

Joshua0213 · Answer

I would stay yes. I love her too much to leave haha

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

If the relationship isn’t toxic or anything then no

rodeschaap · Answer

I would stay, even if we weren't married or didn't have a kid.

NathanDavis · Answer

I never ever seen people as a "trade-up" possibility. Not even a consideration.

HugoThe2nd · Answer

I've never been in that situation, but I assume I probably wouldn't stay with them.

KatherineJ · Answer

Better option? What is a better option than the man who loves me, even with all of my faults and history? I’ll stay with the one that I vowed “until death” to.

DevylasArsaukas76 · Answer

I'm not dating or married, but yes I would stay, it doesn't matter if the supposedly better option was 10/10, I'd still remain in the relationship I was in, sometimes love doesn't give you many chances

Ironic_Method · Answer

I dont think there is a better option as a better option would be happy to move in with us if she was in fact "better".

Nazgol · Answer

I probably would, unless it gets really bad. It'd be the last resort. I wouldn't like betraying someone for no good reason.. dont have the heart for it

Mac-One · Answer

I can't imagine a better option for me; have no intention or desire to look.

Ripper_E · Answer

I chose to be with her, so what is a better option supposed to be?

Dkc123 · Answer

I let my exception be exception and my option be my option..

In_Trance · Answer

Your profile says your an influencer on the relationship topic, yet you ask more questions about them and with respect, don't have one of your own...

Hanrej · Answer

Yes, I would. Loyalty means a great deal and there's no garantee that "The better option" actually works out better.

innerman · Answer

if you curious about the relationship your having, as in describe a better option, then I’m certain you know where your heart lies

mido96 · Answer

Cuz if i have a partner i don't care about any other options she is my only option

pigoat · Answer

All options are the same

vee31 · Answer

Marriage just paper..  Having kid is an option

COMMODOREII · Answer

I did stay when i should have dropped her.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

Don’t give us many options 🤔

Texasguy99 · Answer

We can always think something else would be better

pratik3434007 · Answer

Yes I would stay because I believe in my choice

Anonymous · Answer

I would LEAVE and take my kids

Anonymous · Answer

I would say... i gotta go, there's my ride...

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Better in what way?

ItsMeItsMe1989 · Answer

yaaa

Anonymous · Answer

White man loving 💩

Would you stay with your partner if a better option comes along?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Would you stay with your partner if a better option comes along?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

We're glad to see you liked this post.