Do guys find it attractive when women are "needy"?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

[abc3643]

NO
ABSOLUTELY NOT.

I will let Dr. Barbara DeAngelis speak for me from her book "Secrets About Men Every Woman Should Know".

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Chapter 6: Men's Top Twenty Sexual Turn-offs
Turn-off 14: Women Who Are Excessively Needy and Clingy

"There's nothing that turns me off more than a woman who is always an emotional basket case. You know, she can't make decisions for herself, she's paranoid if I even look at another woman, she won't let go of me when we go out together. Women like this make me feel trapped, suffocated, and no matter how beautiful they are, I lose my attraction to them real quick!"

"My big turn-off is women who are victims, the ones who always blame someone else for their problems, or seem on the verge of emotional collapse. I had a girlfriend once who threatened to kill herself every time we had a fight. I knew she wasn't serious, but she would become so helpless that is made me feel guilty for even disagreeing with her. After about six months, I had absolutely no sexual desire left for her at all."

"Weak, wimpy, whiny women turn me off." I heard this complaint from the majority of the men I interviewed. Men aren't talking about sensitivity or vulnerability, but about women who look too much to the man to fill them up rather than feeling self-sufficient from within themselves.

Why This Turns Men Off

The more needy and clingy you appear, the more a man feels responsible to rescue you. He becomes the parent, you become the child, and sexual desire disappears.

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I will put it another way:

Men want partners - people who will help us get through the problems and crises in life. Somebody who will help move things from life's Inbox / To Do box to life's Outbox / Done box.

Women who are needy, whiny, chronic damsels in distress don't do that. They ADD to his Inbox / To Do box and that's the last thing he wants.

[chocolatesinpockets]

Depending on "neddy" in that, it's not clingy.

It's one thing for her to view me as her rock or even as a god-like man (jokes), but honestly, I just find attractive women who have light, airy vibes.

Like, they're not helpless, but they're not domineering either. And they're not stuck in the middle either, I certainly don't want hot cold hot cold hot cold. Urgh. I've seen enough of that drama.

Lol, so realistically, needy, but no clingy. Needy, but not doesn't want to lift a finger. Needy, but let's keep it real, as adults. Lol.

[Summeroflove]

Depends on what your definition of needy is. I’m a little needy myself not gonna lie. So she needs to be a little. But there is a extreme.


I couldn’t be with someone who has absolutely no life outside of me. But the right amount of needy since I am

[djmzes]

Some do, some do not... Now it is up to you to do what need to be done.

Either go for those who accept needy people or change your needy personality.

[NathanDavis]

hmm... excessive need for attention? being overly-attached? insecure clinginess?

these are the ones you meant to ask? because of all these are signs of immaturity, and that's hardly ever alluring or appealing for anybody, men or women... lol

[Fireguy17]

Life is too short to be with someone who is needy.
I have a very busy life and I need to be with someone who is independent and can function on her own.
I am gone at odd hours, April through Oct I am gone out of town quite a bit, so I need someone that can handle things on their own.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

No. When I get an email date from a dating site, she almost always requests money or something similar. I don’t like that, particularly when she’s lying. My true love seems needy, but at least She doesn’t request material rubbish.

[Anonymous]

No because most men are lousy providers these days.

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope. Clear dif between being mature and stating your needs vs being needy and clingy.

[BarryLiverstone]

Which one did you ask about?

[Kaneki05]

Needy as in clingy? Always and myself is like that anyway.

[FilmGuy93]

What do we mean by “needy?” Because having needs is not the same as being needy.

[Danny_dan92]

Yes and no. There needs to be some balance.




If she’s needy 24/7 it’s a turn off

[Anonymous]

No, neediness equates desperation.

[BLP11520]

Actually, yes I do