Why won’t my boyfriend tell his parents about me?

[Anonymous]

Some background information. I’m 22 and he is 23. I moved out and live in an apartment but he still lives at home with his parents. We’ve been officially dating for over a month but have been seeing each other for almost 6 months. Every time he hangs out with me he tells his parents he’s hanging out with a friend (they assume one of his guy friends). He keeps saying he’s gonna tell them soon but never does. I wondered if his parents wouldn’t approve of me because I’m mixed (black/white) and his family is Russian but he said that wasn’t the concern and that he is just nervous cuz he’s never been in a relationship before and he has never told them about a girl before. When I go to pick him up he makes me park a block away from his house so they don’t see me. Should I be concerned that he hasn’t told them? And how much longer should I wait for him to tell them?

[Tenebrae_mentis]

Giving this guy every benefit of the doubt, maybe he just feels like it's too soon and doesn't want to introduce you to the family until he knows it's serious.

But more likely, maybe his parents do have issues with race and upsetting them could jeopardize his relationship with his parents and, arguably more importantly, his ability to have a roof over his head (as well as the financial assistance I expect they provide). Maybe he's waiting until there isn't anything they can threaten to take away from him.

[Asker]

Ya I guess your right I’ll wait it out a bit then. We live in one of the most diverse areas in the US so people are generally acceptive of race here but there’s always that concern. He also makes over 6 figures for his first job so he can financially move out, but says he’s helping his family a bit since they just bought a new house, I’m hoping he moves out in the next couple years but doesn’t seem like she’s thought too much into it. Thanks for the advice!

[Danny_dan92]

Imagine being more independent than the dude you’re with lol. Sad.

[Anonymous]

A month is not long at all, so be patient for the time being.