Why doesn’t my boyfriends parents know about me?

[Anonymous]

Found a letter from his dad saying how he hoped my boyfriend and exwife had a good Easter. He spent Easter with me and the whole weekend. I spend every weekend at his house. I have clothes there. I’ve meet his friends and coworkers. Haven’t meet his parents yet. They live out of state. He said he will take me this year. We’ve been seeing each other for a year and 8 months. Officially dating for a year. How do I confront him about this? I know he is still friends with his exwife. He said before that he would show me any messages between them that I wanted to see. Why does his dad thinks that he spent Easter with his exwife? Or am I misinterpreting the letter

[kylee2437]

Kind of odd that this hasn’t been discussed even though everything else surrounding why he hasn’t taken you to meet them has been discussed. How did that much time go by without an explanation?

[Asker]

Well the last time he went go see him it was during the holidays. I definitely couldn’t take off work. Though I asked him when I do I get go with you to meet your parents. He said next year which would be this upcoming holiday season (Thanksgiving). That’s when he visits his parents

[kylee2437]

That still doesn’t explain why he hasn’t mentioned you being apart of his life to them. It seems like a dance around. I’d be mad

[Asker]

I asked him before I found this letter if his parents knew about me and he said yes. Though apparently they don’t or they wouldn’t have mentioned his exwife.

[kylee2437]

Hmmm who knows though. Maybe they had a good relationship with the ex wife. My exes parents are like that also. When I broke up with their son, they said I can still join them for a drink at their house anyday. I’m sure if I was to message his parents they would still allow me over to this day even though my ex is engaged with kids.

[Asker]

They did end the marriage on good terms. They have two adopted sons together. They still meet for dinner once in a while. Though a lot less now that he meet me.

[kylee2437]

Mmmmm I’d be careful with this situation. What was their reason for breaking up?

[Asker]

His wife was the one to ask for a divorce. She fell out of love with him. There was a lot of things about him that she didn’t like. Nothing horrible. Just personal preferences. Like not taking control of the kids, being too slow. He said she wouldn’t touch him the last 9 years of there marriage. She told him they only stayed together for the kids. They also fought a lot about how to raise their kids and how to spend money.

[Wise4myage]

Seems fishy, have you mentioned it?

[Asker]

Not yet. I just don’t know how to approach it. I know he’s divorced because I’ve seen tax returns and he told his tax accountant about me