Just because your child is special needs doesn't mean they deserve special treatment am I wrong?

[Puppystarfish23]

I live in a town that has a high population of learning disabled people because of its out standing special needs schools.

I myself have learning disabilities such as dyslexia and some other stuff but I did not grow up I'm this town so I had to go to a normal school and learn to fit in.

My boyfriend also has a down syndrome uncle in his 50s. He's great and we all love him very much but at his day centre he is miles in front of the others. I talk to my boyfriends grandparents about this and they say they treated him the same as they would have treated any other of there children and that's why he's the way he is now.

I myself briefly went to a special needs school which I hated. the boys there were highly inappropriate but the teachers would do nothing about instead they'd victim blame.

I had a boy try to kiss me once whilst there and the teacher said it was because my school skirt was too short and this boy didn't get told off or told his behaviour was wrong. These kids didn't know how to learn or behave because they were spoon fed and treated like a victim instead of being pushed to better themselves.

I see this now when I'm out about and its really frustrating. I understand I'm not a parent especially of a special needs child and I can't imagine how hard it is but my parents did it with two 3 children and two happened to have learning disabilities so I understand a little.

For example I'll be in a shop and a child will start having a tantrum, throwing stuff around, hitting etc and the parent will be like "it's okay everyone he's ADHA" and were all suppose be not shocked by that child's behaviour and the fact the parent isn't doing anything besides making excuses.

If you want your child to grow up having a normal life and to cope in the real world you gotta start doing it whilst there young.

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10 mo

I also went primary school with a down syndrome girl and I ended up being really good friends with and it was because I treated her like I'd treat anyone else. All the other children were scared of her and wouldn't play with her and I didn't know why but I soon learnt why. I went to play with her and she smacked me in the face. I cried and the teacher took her away and told her off. She later wrote me a card saying sorry for what she did and we became friends that's a good example of what should

[exitseven]

We had special needs kids when I wa in Jr high. Most of these kids were 3 or 4 years older than the rest of us but they were mainstreamed into the student body. I had gym class with these kids. One of these kids was 17 years old and had a tattoo of a black panther on his forearm. He was really crazy and. one day I was in gym class and was climbing the ropes before class and I felt something cold on my leg. I looked down and this kid was squirting me with the fire extinguisher. I had to have gym class looking like I peed my pants.

[EmmaMary]

@Puppystarfish23

Having thoroughly read your extremely interesting question, I really couldn't agree more with you.

Of course we must remember that there are exceptional circumstances which will fully warrant having such special treatment and attention as required.

I wish you all the good luck and fortune in the world in your quest for finding love and happiness. x

[Puppystarfish23]

Yea I certain situation you need to be more understanding I agree but these days every child has ADHD or something like that and we all have to excuse them from behaving