What do you do when you want to get married and have kids but no one wants you?

[Anonymous]

That's the case with me. I'm an unattractive girl, never been asked out, never been flirted with, never had anyone have a crush on me, never had anyone complimented me, never had my first kiss or even held hands, none of that. And to men I am invisible.

I really want to find a guy I can spend the rest of my life with. A guy around my age that I'm compatible with and has the same religion as me. I want to get married and have children, but I don't know how the heck I'm supposed to find someone when men won't even look at me. What should I do?

[SnowedIn]

If you're profile age is accurate then I'd tell you that, yes, it sucks for no one to want you. BUT... it will happen. I know that's not exactly what you want to hear from an old guy, but it will happen. There is a person who will desire you and love you.

In the meantime, you can help by talking to people. Being inquisitive. Being noticeable either through what you say, or wear, or do.

Remember this, too: even if a guy your age notices you, he may be petrified of approaching you. So although I acknowledge that you feel invisible, the truth is you're probably not.

[Asker]

I hope so, it just feels like everyone wants to get away from me. When I speak I'm called annoying, it hurts when I'm just being myself and people tell me to shut the fuck up. Now I barely speak anymore because of all the times I've been called ugly and annoying.

[SnowedIn]

That sucks and I'm really sorry that's happening. I know it's easy for me to say as someone older, but just keep speaking up. Maybe you don't have to open your mouth about everything, but you'll know you're right when you do. In fact, very often, when I was called "annoying" by people I went to school with or my brothers it was because I was right or was saying something they didn't want to hear. Keep talking. Look in the mirror and tell yourself "I know this." "I've got this." Incrementally (and it may be really slowly) you'll find less people call you annoying. Or, better, other people will take notice and say, "she's got her shit together". It takes time. And the process sucks. But one day at a time, like taking a beach in a war.

[Avicenna]

Get to know liked-minded guys who share your religion and values. Widen your social circle.

[Asker]

No one wants to get to know me, whenever I try to speak to people they always try to get out of the conversation

[XHopelessRomanticX]

You're still young, there's plenty of time to find someone to have a family with. There's no rule saying you need to be married and have kids by a certain age. In the meantime, enjoy your single years! This is the time in life to develop skills, start new hobbies, make friends, find passions, develop your style, grow as a person, and learn to love your own company.

Be kind to yourself, and be kind to others--- and you will be radiant!

[kylee2437]

You need to put yourself out there. Pretending you don’t have options doesn’t make much sense

[Summeroflove]

Everyone has options. Some just…. Don’t want the options they have

[kylee2437]

@Summeroflove exactly and that’s an issue.

[Summeroflove]

It can definitely be a problem. When you have people who like you. But you’re not into them.

But. Hey not everyone will be into you and you won’t be into everyone.

I think everyone has a soulmate as long as they keep themselves a. Good person

[Asker]

I'm serious, not one person has ever been interested in me lmao

[kylee2437]

Because you haven’t put yourself out there and made yourself available for options

[Summeroflove]

Surely there is someone out there

[Summeroflove]

Yeah good point kylee

[Summeroflove]

I mean. I have no idea what she looks like or how she acts. Surely someone has to have been into her at some point

[Asker]

How do I put myself out there?

[andreasderjuengere]

It says in your 'profile' that you're under 18. I had been ignored myself until I was 19.

Not to worry yet :)

[Asker]

Thank you!

[AsaKyo]

Same, no one wants me either

Just gotta take take the garbage crown and wear it

[Asker]

At least we're not alone, stay strong you got this💞

[bamesjond0069]

Date 40 and up year old men. A much older man way out of your league will probably snatch you up. Or get a train wreck your age, like find the ugliest man you can and see if he will go for you.

[Asker]

Well I'm too young to go for a guy that's a lot older than me, but maybe in the future. And yes I've tried to find ugly men but not even they want me.

[bamesjond0069]

How old are you?

[Asker]

I'm 15

[bamesjond0069]

Oh baby. You're young. Don't worry about this stuff so much. Just wait till you're older. Lots of people don't date or have a relationship till they are older so you really aren't behind or anything.

[Asker]

But I'm still unattractive, my facial features won't change magically when I'm 20, but thank you.

[bamesjond0069]

Facial features aren't the end of the world. Are you overweight?

[Firesparks]

I marry a girl regardless of her have kids n if it's ok have at least a baby between us... I love kids...

[Summeroflove]

Ask someone out

[Asker]

I've tried multiple times, went horrible 🥲

[Googlemyahoo]

Find someone equally as unattractive as you?

[Anonymous]

Go Dennis Rodman and marry yourself.

[Asker]

Lmao

[Hulk30]

ya need to self-improve overall