Do you feel like your options and your dream partner are different things?

[jennifer_bloom]

In 2019 I met a guy who was gorgeous and smart and nice, and he was disabled so I thought I had a chance with a guy at least twice as smart and cute as me. There were other guys that were good options but not dream status and one guy who was dream status but I did not think I was strong enough to address his medical history if my dream guy had another medical crises again. Now it seems any guy I like can find a younger girl that looks like me and I’m thinking I might have to sacrifice half my standards.

[Zolly99999]

There is no such thing as meeting your " dream partner" because we're are all human beings and we all have flaws

[TroyDT2]

Yes. I have quite a few options. My dream partner likely does not even exist.

[Bethany22]

Don't tolerate half perfect men any more than you should tolerate half boxes of cereal for double the price of what they were years ago. Having said that, men being nice should be the priority. If they are smart and attractive should just be seen as a bonus.

[Avicenna]

I‘d assume so- isn’t that the very nature of a dream partner (they aren’t real)?

Funny thing is, my dream partner is one not because of her physical traits and I’ve actually met a few women who would have been a dream partner had it not been for a bad personality.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

It's not YOUR mistake. That's what happens when people now date based on the outside.

Women: Young, beautiful face (no fake-up), fit body, low body count, cute, submissive

Men: A lot of money, tall, attractive face structure, great body structure

And the list goes on and on. People don't feel "special" to each other anymore. What I suggest is to try to ask guys you like out and never think that someone is "out of your league". Mathematically speaking, someone will want you.

[ZackBan]

You're half right and half wrong.

Right: yes you do need to sacrifice half your standards if you wish to be woth someone.

Wrong: The dream guy you think of never truly existed as no one is perfect and in fact no one is even close to being perfect.

The bottom line is no matter how old you are the only way to find companionship in this world is to accept that people are all a collection of good and bad and it's a full package deal.

And yes your age makes harder that's also true but ultimately it comes down to what you're willing to welcome into your life.

[Jdjfjcjj]

Dream partners are the perfect person right? Even if such a person existed, you are not perfect so what makes you think they'd want you?

Stop trying to find Mr. Perfect and instead find someone who is a good man. Regardless of who you date, there will always be issues you'll have to deal with.

Instead, layout a baseline, of the can't do without traits and go from there. Consider how full of shit you're being with each case by trying to pick holes at it. For example, If has to make over 100k is a must, ask yourself if 90k would work if he had X, Y, Z though.

[mickmrly]

I think the truth is that anyone worth having is also able to find other people as well. If you want a good partner you should go for the best person you can who will be a net improvement on your life and then hopefully the relationship will work out. Dreams are not real. You can't eat with dreams, talk to dreams or create a family with dreams. I hope you find someone that can make you happy, they may not be perfect but at least they will be yours.

[Looksnicholas]

I'd say so. I mean sure I could dream and say I wish I had a partner in her mid to late 20s with big boobs, a gorgeous face (to my opinion) and a terrific temperament and wonderful smile. But. That's not reality. So realistically, I see a lot of average women, and that's just fine too, because I'm kind of quite set in my bachelor ways anyhow. I mean, it's just me.

[FilmGuy93]

Umm… I would say that I kind of feel the same way as you. I definitely feel like my desired partner is a rarer gal than I expected she would be (although I knew she would be hard to find). I had no idea how big of a deal emotional baggage would turn out to be.

[ChiTown33]

I just don't know anymore. I'm 46 and frankly I just don't want to waste the mentally energy anymore on WHY people think what they think anymore.

I've seen enough of women to see that life is just simpler being single. And I'm not really missing out on anything by being single. So why change.

[art84]

I don't have options now but I think my dream girl that I found years ago in reality just wasn't meant to be with me. She was the girl that I wanted but in reality she didn't act like I pictured in my dreams (she was rebellious toward authority). Never met another girl but I think I shouldn't set my expectations on a girl being perfect as we all have faults and imperfections as humans.

[JDavid25]

Nah, I don't have or want any options at the moment, and I don't really have a dream partner, just a cute girl with a round booty, where we laugh, do things together, and eventually get married..

[CallmeTheKnight]

So so. I'm pretty realistic and I expand or reduce my options as I see fit. If they're a fit for me I'll make the decision to be exclusive with them, if not they'll just remain an option or I'll no longer see them.

[Lis-the-librarian]

Why hunt for perfection without bringing it?🤔
Focus on making each other happy.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Not really, dream partners are part of the options. They are just Up there on the options tier list.

[AsaKyo]

1. I don't have a dream partner
2. What options? 😂😂😂

[Anonymous]

I think there is a severe disconnect between what women can get VS what they actually want. Basically 2's believe they deserve 10's.. whin in reality they do not.

[TopTier]

Of course. My options aren't what i envisioned they would be most of the time. Occasionally i get someone up to my high standard.

[Nominal]

Now, my options in life align with my dream partner.

[DermalPunch]

Aren't everyone's 🤣🤣🤣

[melanieeeB]

Not at all