If the guy that you are seeing is sick but you need to talk to him in person, would you wait until he got better first?

[Anonymous]

He’s been throwing up and has had the flu for a week, but I need to have a serious convo with him I prefer talking to him in person about. Do I wait until he is feeling better? What if it’s in regards to us ever talking again? How should I go about it? Should I distance off? Should I not reply to his texts until I know he is feeling better to talk in person? Should I just tell him I need to talk in person right now?

[Guy13]

Do it face-face if you want to make an impression and are serious.

[Asker]

Should I wait until he’s not sick or should I just tell him today that we need to talk even though he’s sick?

[boggboss]

All u can do is wait if u don't want to talk on the phone as for how u act with him that depends on what u want the outcome of this situation to be

[Asker]

I think it’s a conversation that needs to be done in person at this point. I think it will be a lot meaningful because I do have some deep shit to say but yeah I don’t know how to exactly text him until the point of seeing him because my feelings are pretty much starting to shut off as far as this one

[boggboss]

Again how u act will kinda determine what happens even with this thing u have to tell him

[Asker]

Right which is why I’m wondering should I distance or should I continue to just act like everything is okay until the point that I can speak to him in person

[boggboss]

Thats what I mean what do u want after the convo depending on that either act normal or distance

[Asker]

I want to know if he’s actually taking this as seriously as I am. We have been talking for almost 3 months and I just want to know what is in his head since he isn’t good at expressing emotions so it makes me nervous that if he wasn’t feeling this situation, he wouldn’t even tell him

[Asker]

So basically I would want to know what page is he on and if it doesn’t match up to how I’ve been feeling, we can call it quits right there.

[boggboss]

OK but are u more pushed to stay or not as let's say u start to back away he might decide he ain't serious when u have this convo

[Asker]

Which is why I am saying should I just play it cool and keep texting like there’s nothing wrong until we can get to a point of hanging out again , so then I can talk to him?

[Asker]

I don’t want to create a distance but I feel like sometimes he takes advantage of me replying regardless of how or what he texts me

[boggboss]

Thats somthing for u 2 decide I would say don't acr in a way that can damage the situation before u have his answer

[BlueScorpio]

Just wait. He's sick and the last thing you want to do is catch the flu cause of impatience. It can wait, he's not going anywhere

[CoolCatMar1]

Lol this is the opposite situation. I am sick snd my boyfriend is waiting for me to recover lmao

[CoolCatMar1]

It's best to wait yeah

[tonamimargaux]

Gosh give him a break. The guy is sick. Can’t it wait?

[Asker]

Me and him haven’t seen each other in over a week, so I have been giving him a break, however I’ve been seeing stuff that I don’t like coming from him and I feel like it’s time to sit down and talk. Me and him text everyday and I’m tired of texting him pretending everything is alright just because I don’t want to create a clear sense of disinterest

[tonamimargaux]

That’s where we go wrong. Stop texting and start calling instead. If you guys are not poles apart sit and talk face to face in person after he gets well.

[Mangospacho]

If you’re seeing them already then you’re gonna catch whatever they already have anyway. You might as well go and see him.

[In_Trance]

What do you need to talk about that's so urgent?