I (20M) went on three dates with her (F18) about 2 months ago. On the first date, I met her family. She asked me my political opinions. Our values align perfectly I ask her on a second date. She said yes.
Second date was good. She calls me cute. I told her I was looking for something serious, she is on the same page. Then I asked her what she saw in me and how I was looking for someone. Then I asked her if we could hold hands. She says yes. Then she asked me what my plans were, if I wanted a family, could relocate, kind of house I wanted. I then asked her on a third date, which she said yes, but not with as much excitement as before.
A day later I find out someone at work knows that we are dating. I tell him to not say anything to anyone and he agrees. I then tell her what happened and she told me that it is okay, that is not my fault. 3 hours later she says that the guy would have known sooner or later, so it was all good
Then the week goes by and the texting is flirtatious
Midweek, she wants to see a movie with me. I agreed, she gets all excited. The day comes, gets me my favourite candy. But when I pick her up, she is a complete different person. Sad, reserved, quiet. During the movie, I ask her if we could hold hands, which she turned down. Later she says that she didn’t want to hurt my feelings, that her family was going through a hard time, and when that happens, she distances herself
Two days later, we go on a third date. She is in a better mood. We have a lot of fun. So I asked her if I could hold her hand, which she said no. I said it’s all good, and just continued like it never happened. At the end I ask her on a fourth date and she says she needs to think about it.
A week goes by, she tells me that after praying a lot, God indicated to her that we were not going to end up together.
I asked her when she felt that. She says between the second and third date, before the movie, which makes sense since her whole attitude changed.
Yes, we are both religious.
What happened, did I come too strong?
