(20F) How on earth do I find a relationship in university?

[Anonymous]

Never been in a relationship, never had sex, and I feel like I'm doomed. Nobody has ever really liked me in my life. And the one guy I really thought liked me and that I admired for over a year likes another girl. It seems that being in university everybody just wants to hookup, and the good ones are taken. They'll just lead me on for sex. And I tried hooking up with someone in the first few bases even though I knew he didn't actually care for me and I absolutely hated it. And yes, I made the first move as I usually try to do but rarely does someone give me a chance. I felt like crap. Why? Because frankly I want a meaningful connection. I never had that in highschool and I feel behind. I don't really enjoy having to force myself to hookup with someone because everybody says I need to because nobody wants relationships at my age. I just feel like a failure. And I've loved and worked on myself for years hoping that something might change, but it never does. It just seems like every other girl can get anybody they want, but never me. And frankly, I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm just so tired, and bored, and lonely. My confidence seems to just be slowly falling again like it did in highschool.

[RavVid]

Well if the other girls are offering hook up sex then they will get it and guys will likely hang around them so they have pseudo relationships. You obviously don't want a sex only 'relationship' and probably guys are sensing that is my guess and want to stay with girls that only want sex from them.

I'm thinking you might be better looking for guys who are a bit older than your classmates and more interested in a relation ship. Or outside of the Uni community. It is not working there for you so diversify is the best response. I think a guy with a few more years will value you.

Congrats on not wanting to slut around by the way. That is better for you in the long term.

[Asker]

Thanks man. It's not my thing at all, never has been. I think I might try dating a bit older. Never gotten a long with many my own age a lot of the time.

[RavVid]

All the best. When guys are looking for a relationship they are not wanting a girl who has built up a huge body count so I think that is your target demographic. Plus guy's brain are still changing till about 25 so males under that are not that mature and you need maturity in a relationship.

[Dreamclouds]

Be patient, don't let yourself influenced by all the chaos there even if you feel all the chaotical energy

[Summeroflove]

Ask someone out. Wait until marriage

[coolguy919]

Try talking to the guy that the other girls aren't

[coolguy919]

If possible

[Anonymous]

Wow, and at your age! Your life is over. 🤣🤣🤣

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Focus on your studies. Not boys.

[Asker]

But... I want to? I want a boyfriend lol. I'm 20 and never had one and I've wanted one since highschool. I'm good at school but I'd like to experience some kind of love life before I'm graduated when everyones settling down.

[Anonymous]

25 is when it seems to be the panic age button

[Asker]

Great. Five years to go I guess

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah just from what I've noticed for the past several years or more, the media and culture or society seems to make it out to be that 25 seems to be the magic age number in which people start to panic or feel insecure the most if they are either still a virgin or they have never dated or have never been in a relationship before