Why do guys feel a type of way when a woman says the words "we need to talk"?

[koko22]

I have noticed that whenever i tell my boyfriend we need to talk he gets scared and will try by all means possible not to actually have the talk. He will come up with excuses like.. Am abit low i can't talk maybe tomorrow or am not feeling okey today can we talk tomorrow. I experienced the same in my previous relationship. Why is that? 🤔

[caring__1]

How would you feel if your neighbor asked you if you have plans for this weekend? If you say "no" he'll thank you for helping him move this weekend. If you say "yes" he'll say he has tickets to see your favorite band, but that's OK, as someone else would also want to see the concert. We don't like being set up without knowing where it is going.

Never say "we need to talk." Instead, say "I'd like us to find a time to discuss our vacation plans." Generally, when women say "we need to talk," they plan on either complaining and criticizing, or they plan on ending the relationship.

[JamesDiaz11]

You know that guys get nervous when you say "we need to talk," so instead of wondering why they do it why don't you communicate your desire to talk with them in a different way. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result...

[Guy13]

Probably because you lean toward Emotional Bombardment 💣 💣💣💣 Texters and this trait is prevalent in all Communications.
Women like this burn us out … 👻

[Anonymous]

It's the prelude to a long and drawn out heated and emotional conversation and often about what you feel they are doing wrong and what they should be doing. They can't discuss things objectively because you are you so it a game of managing your emotions for you and surviving so that they can think things through for themselves later. It gets easier with age and experience but if they're young men, I can imagine their apprehension.

[MementoMori777]

"Can I tell you something" hits just as hard, just so you know

[Guardian45]

Cuz that's what our mothers said before ripping us a new one!