Should we really want equity in dating?

[Anonymous]

Men have heard so many times that women won't date down. This mean that women should never date a man that doesn't make more money than she does. If we do the equity thing then men should never date a woman that doesn't match him dollars for dollars in the relationship. Men have dated and married broke women for thousands of years but it sound like we need to end those practices for good. It's not fare or equal to the man if she doesn't bring as much as he does to the relationship or marriage. What is your opinion on this? Remember, equally for both party's

[Anonymous]

I can’t speak for every woman but personally I disagree. My dealbreaker is if he isn’t at least looking in earnest for a job if he doesn’t have one. We also need to be able to be a team and pull our own weight, and that’s just real life, it’s hard to afford/support a stay at home parent in this economy. But aside from that I care about love, money can’t buy that.

[Kori1236]

I can’t speak for others but every relationship I’ve been in I’ve always made more; and made the smarter financial decisions with my money. I wouldn’t call it dating down, but rather dating who I’m attracted to

[Asker]

For every good job a woman gets, that one job that a men can't get to be the bread winner in his home. I not saying women shouldn't get good jobs, I just saying there's only so many of those jobs out there to get. If woman are going to get those great jobs then don't expect all men to have those great jobs.

[Kori1236]

Considering all the several fields and trades of jobs I really don’t think men are in any danger of missing out on opportunities. Unless you’re referring to the men that choose not to go to school to further their educations or the ones that choose menial jobs instead of expanding their horizons. Now I’m not saying those jobs shouldn’t be worked; someone needs to do them to keep society going but if a guy has loads of potential and opportunities and is still working at a fast food restaurant he really can’t complain if he’s happens to get with someone more ambitious than he is. As for the whole breadwinner thing, cost of living has gone up so much in recent years unless he’s making high 6 figures yearly he really can’t afford to be the sole breadwinner. It’s not a competition on who makes more in the relationship and the fact that dudes are insecure about their SO making more money than them is a huge turn off.

[Twalli]

Equity doesn't have to be monetary. My mom made more than my dad, so my dad did more of the childrearing and cleaning. So if I make a lot more, she has to do more of the homemaking. If she doesn't work, all the homemaking is her's. That's equity. Money and homemaking have to be shared and a greater earner has to do less homemaking.

[Guy13]

No. We should want follow our created Intelligent Design using common good sense. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[WildCard42]

I'm over being married (Been there done that) I want real love this time with no agendas.

[Asker]

Women are not capable of loving anyone but themselves.

[WildCard42]

That's true, but some of them worship a good dick.

[slatyb]

There already is equity in dating.