Why is it not a good idea to say "I feel like I've known you my whole life", and why do many people say it to people?

[Bethany22]

Dating experts suggest not to say that to your date. Why do they suggest against it? Why do people often want to say that to their date in the first place?

[SwellStroke]

In which the manner it is being said, while generally its associated with being said within a shot amount of time of the initial meeting. A lot of the time people have viewed it as a pick up line, in the manner that it could lower ones guard because of the feeling of familiarity. Though they are still a stranger.

There have been instances though, where to those on the reincarnation track and old souls use this expression to call out to a soul to whom they had a connection *friend, lover, whatever* in a past life or hundreds of past lives ago.

I personally am in the belief that it is expressing the nature of the persons energy, aura, vibe, what every one would like to call it. As its something you have felt before as it resonates on the same frequency or close to as yourself. *me in this case*

[snackthatsmilesback]

It's kinda creepy. Like someone knows you but you don't know them. Maybe something like "I feel safe/comfortable around you" would be better, cause that's usually what they mean right, someone you knew forever is someone you can be yourself around.

[NathanDavis]

way more often than not... it will give a few bad impressions

idealization... not a good thing

lack of genuineness... not a good thing

rushing into things... not a good thing

the pressure for the other to feel like they have to reciprocate... not a good thing

and a few other things, that could seem not good, the one case in which I can think for this to sound "good" is when you actually are so connected with someone that feels the same way about you, but these instances are rare, lol... and when you have them, it will not mean that much because it sounds like an "awww" thing that people always say in the movies and romcoms

also... this is something that liars tell you a lot, when they are just trying to get sex, lmao

[Staximus]

If the feeling is mutual then the person you say that to will like, agree, and accept it. Maybe they also feel like they have known you forever but that scares them off because they weren't ready to accept those emotions and feelings. Maybe they do not feel the same way and it scares them off because they think the other person is coming on too strong with the feelings and emotions. There's just some people that you instantly connect with and interact with them like you have known them forever. You are not awkward and closed off to each other, there are no formalities, there is open communication, you are completely comfortable around each other.

[Speedydude]

LIVE HER ALONE !
I DON'T GET IT!
WHY WOMAN MY AGE LIKE OLD MEN UR AGE?
STUPID!

[SnowedIn]

I've never heard that it isn't a good idea but trying to look at it from the listener's perspective, at best it sounds trite and tired and unoriginal. It also sounds pompous and assuming. The point is, I think, that it's supposed to be a compliment and an acknowledgement of some sort of connection -- if that's the case, just say that.

[exitseven]

I met a girl at a New Years party. We hung out the whole night amnd after we went for a walk and sat in my car ans listened tom music until the sun came up. I told her that I felt like I have known her my whole life. She agreed that it was the same with her, It just meant that I really felt a very strong connection to her.

[loveslongnails]

"Dating experts" --- ever notice that most dating experts are single? LOL
There's nothing wrong with saying that if it's sincere and the timing is right. Anything can sound like a "line" when it's bullshit or you just say what you think someone wants to hear. I agree though, it's not on my list of "Best Things to Say to Someone You Just Started Dating"!!! LOL

[TheNameIsRob]

I think Nathan gave about as good of an answer as one could give. The last thing you want to do is add unnecessary pressure because nobody wants that. There are other ways to let the person know you are interested without creating too many expectations.

[MendaciousMarxist]

Because it's manipulative and makes you sound like a love bomber if you say it too early

[dustybiker]

Are these “dating experts” single or have multiple divorces?

Most “dating experts” are experts because they have been dating a loooong time.

Who you need to ask this to are people who have been married a long time.

[jayhams]

Because it will more times than not just come off as a cheesy line and not genuine.

[Fireguy17]

it's old, completely meaningless, sounds corny, but those that say it think it is great.
I've had great luck with nice sneakers. FYI they kind of need to be wearing sneakers at the time.

[ArrowheadSW]

It comes across as a bit intense, and not realistic. It sounds goofy to say something like that so early in knowing someone.

[bayoubob]

Who the fuck cares? What is the Divorce Rate? You should be more concerned about being a responsible human being, and smart.

[FilmGuy93]

It's a pretty intense thing to say so early

[FunkyMonkee]

I guess you'll have to ask those so-called dating experts about that.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I agree with you, that makes me wonder about things when meeting a date.

[BJP21]

To me it makes people sound like they have a low IQ. Or when they say things like "I haven't seen you in a minute."

[TheSpaceGnome]

I really don't see how it's negative. 🤷🏻

[pizzalovershouse]

Cuz it makes guys feel uncomfortable an if a guy does that with a girl they sound clingy

[Shy_Steve]

I think it in a lot of cases it might make your relationship a bit boring that's why.

[Tracker1958]

Comments like that sound like pickup lines.

[krin_m]

Honestly, I do not think I ever felt that way about anyone in early stages of dating.

[Smoothing]

Key word. I feel. It is a feeling.

[Wise4myage]

It’s not in my opinion.

[Guardian45]

NO clue! Why do they say that?