A reject test or testing my reactions or what I really came for?

[Anonymous]

We went out on a causal date... we've known each other for a while. I'm a guy that's straight to the point I don't beat around patterns and phrases. I told her I like her and I'll want to be more with her... in mind I was ready for a rejection and also ready to take things up if she gave a chance cus dating is a woman's territory. As if I knew she told me NO and stated her reasons... telling me she doesn't feel us and I'm not the kind of guy she dreams of... already we have broken the touch barrier and she feels nervous somehow. This wasn't my first rejection so I told her it's cool and my heart returned immediately back to the 'single life zone'... Financially I'm okay, my background is stable buh I chose to disguise because my past dates wasn't based on love. As we kept talking she started telling me she's confused about what she wants, asking me what's my plans for her and what I liked about her and In my mind I was like (yo' you just rejected me and you're bringing up topics of interest what reading on your mind? Meanwhile the feeling quenched when she rejected me and I didn't even felt it. I'm wondering was this a 'reject test' or manipulations trying to see my reactions or what? Because I don't believe in pursuing and trying to convince girls after getting rejected cus I have a lot on my head and I'm building the best version of myself so no time for that.

[kylee2437]

So the first date is way too early to convince someone to date you or be totally into you. People go at different paces and just because you are straight to the point , doesn’t mean everyone has to be. She’s allowed to question what she is getting herself into and who you are as a person especially because you went on a casual date. I think your delivery is a bit off and can be terrifying because I would be scared honestly if a guy said “I like you , what is this situation “ basically. You could start by asking what she is looking for and such. Going on a date doesn’t mean you have earned the privledge to be in a relationship with her

[Asker]

She's the one that liked the idea of the causal date... and b4 now she has been telling me about her exes and past relationships... she also complimented me that she knows I'll treat her different, care and spoil her. Buh she isn't feeling the same for me.

Buh what I think is that if you should unveil a little about yourself to a girl the chances of getting her is low... The more you guys aren't gisting mates the more attraction she feels... cus we've been talking and I felt that sharp friend zoning coming close.

[kylee2437]

@Soloalone of course don’t unravel yourself all at once, but you opening up about yourself here and there is a turn on. We like knowing about you and we also love earning a man’s trust in terms of him opening up. I think you are stuck in your head about the friend zone. If a woman friend zoned you, she was probably going to do it regardless of what info you share with her or not

[Anonymous]

You are being way too pushy and that is a turn off.

[Asker]

I wasn't that pushy we've been talking for sometimes b4 I brought out the interest of liking her

[Anonymous]

She's not interested in you, but she is interested in the attention and validation of hearing what you like about her. She probably dropped some subtle hints to give you hope so you'd open up thinking you have a chance.

She just wants you to simp for her.

[Guy13]

You are too intense and at this point in your life no woman can emotionally connect or bond with you. You'll get it... girls do emotion before sex.

[Asker]

Intense in what way... please shed more light

[Guy13]

Women can detect authenticity in person. You’ve got all kinds of secrets or games and the tone of your post is intense and direct. Woman can’t bond with that…which means no touchy feeling, therefore, no jealousy in anything else you date.

It’s okay you rejected me and then ran back to single.. ran from relationship over that little bit of Test equals F for serious with a backbone

[Anonymous]

Not sure