Guys, Is it a red flag if a woman is 33 and has never had a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

[Aggon1998]

I'm relieved to see women like you exist. I've always wanted one partner for life.
A woman that had not slept with someone before, just like me. A vulnerable woman with whom I can slowly build strong trust. I would be most compatible with a woman that loves spending lots of quality time together with the two of us. Not going to clubs, discos or hardcore parties. I know for sure that I don't want children, since I don't feel affection for them. I want to take care of a wife and live life with just the two of us. I would love to have something like that. And I also imagine that the true life-monogamy can make the sex-life feel extra safe and exciting full of fire and completely with the two of us since no one else was ever involved in the past. Preferably I would wait until marriage, since I want one partner for life, but if I would've really found my SO and I would be sure that I want to grow old with her, then I would agree with it.
You're a bit too old for my age (that would be the only reason not to do it,
but I will tell you that for every woman is a right man. It will not always be easy to tell whether you have found him. The fact that you're still virgin (which I assume), really has a boosting value in my perspective though. It's the most beautiful gift a wife can give her husband in my opinion.

[bzcxx]

Well, it depends on the situation. There’s no fixed answer to this type of question.
However, if I met a girl who is 33 and never had a partner (both romantic and sexual), I would have my doubts and questions.
If the girl has had sexual partners but no romantic partners, that I would consider to be a big red flag. Most girls that age who have had sexual partners but no romantic partners tend to have commitment issues.
I would definitely have a chat with the girl and dive to the real reason why she has been single all her life. I would then be able to determine if it’s because she has poor character or if she had just placed her career above all else.
As long as it’s not due to poor character, I wouldn’t think it’s a red flag.

[Guy13]

Yes it is because apparently I am missing something. And if I discover later that I was misled then I know why she is single. Commitment Phobes, whether men or women, is a reason for concern as it relates to a long-term relationship.

[Avicenna]

It deserves an explanation, but by itself it may not be a dealbreaker

[Miristheiss]

More details would be needed.

I'd have to see her. If she was really overweight and unattractive it would make more sense. If she were attractive and had an average or better figure I'd want to know what "never had a boyfriend" means. Is she really shy and doesn't go out? Has she been dealing with her sexual identity and dating women for the last 10 years? Does she go out all the time and have endless casual sex with hundreds of men but they are all one night stands and never reach the "boyfriend/girlfriend" level? Is she just really busy and focused on education and spending time with friends and pursuing passions and never took the time for relationship?

This could go in a lot of different ways.

[TripleAce]

I would if it’s not for religious reasons or something along those lines yes of course it’s a red flag. That doesn’t mean it’s something bad. It just means you need to understand her specific situation.


I met a few girls around their 30’s never really dated much and it showed. They had a lot of insecurities, lots of being unsure about themselves or others, overall not going with the flow as much as a girl that has been through all that at a younger age


It’s not significant, but it can be, she did adjust fast but there was always something different. She sometimes lacked the understanding of what makes men tick. You only learn that by being around men and men know how women tick by being around women. Usually in intimate situation or just being closer together

[JSmuve]

Depends on the why, though none of the reasons are particularly good. In this day and age, where women claim they get attention from men "all of the time", a woman, at that age, never having a boyfriend, unless she grew up and lives in a nunnery, means she

a) is unattractive

b) has commitment issues

c) is aromantic/asexual

d) has an off-putting personality

e) is super picky

f) isn't social and doesn't put herself out there

g) rejects all advances

h) has horrible taste in men

i) just hasn't had any luck (least likely if she gets half as much attention as women claim they get)

[Adam1978]

Yeah something has kept her from having one, either it's her behavior or her looks. In most cases it's her personality. So you should expect her to remain the same unless she actually done the hard thing and changed. Not so much a red flag since redflags are for those who can't keep a boyfriend. The one you don't even engage with has no need to be flagged.

[ZXCwWRQWz]

Yeah, very much for me. But maybe you have a charm that gets through that. Probably not though. I've interacted with so many women. All that you got going from that is cute. But I don't like cute when it's like I can't talk to her without offending her so easily.

[QuadDamage]

Don't worry about all the norms and oddity. Everybody is frigging odd in their ways. EVERYBODY!

Who we've been only matters if people have nothing to talk about. Who you choose to be now, may it be 33 and never been in any relations. So be it, tells very little about someone. And who you are.

There are some circumstances of the past that can make others wonder and take distance/be very careful. Being single, should NOT be one of them.

[mstbooblover]

Not necessaryly a red flag if a 33 years old woman never had a boyfriend, because she maybe had girlfriends, and may wanna try a guy for a change. I'm certainly candidate with such a lady, and by the way, I like it when ladies have also some kind of sensitivity for the female charms ;0)

[TheVigilantOne]

No not really, if someone I was going to date told me they’ve never had anyone I wouldn’t be at all bothered there’s millions of reasons why they’ve never had anyone, I’d obviously ask them as to why they haven’t had anyone and take it from there, if they said something like my last girlfriend “everyone I’ve ever had keeps leaving me” yeah I’d run as she’s obviously insane and the problem. But if they told me they didn’t have anyone due to abuse or trauma or anxiety I’d understand.

[Juxtapose]

It absolutely is! How are you the gender that has people throwing themselves at you day in and day out, and you don't ever have a boyfriend? It makes me think you are really frigid or uninteresting, maybe not that engaging or intelligent in conversations

[600blue]

While I can see the wisdom of waiting until you and your immediate peers have reached a certain point of emotional maturity before entering into a serious relationship, if you're north of 30 and never had any romantic relationships, then there is a good probability that something's wrong.

[Anonymous]

It's not a red flag but it's shocking and unexpected to hear of a woman being single this long more so than a guy due to how women have always had the luxury or never have the pressure of being expected to start an interaction with the opposite sex or be the ones to make a move like men always have

[YourFavoriteFriend]

I prefer someone that had no boyfriend rather than one that had 5 or more failed relationships.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

No, she wants to remain a virgin, and it makes no deal, I'm an older male virgin.

[TheSpaceGnome]

If she's attractive, its a huge green flag. It means she is picky and knows what she wants, so if we match, It's more likely to be genuine.

[Berethor]

If she a ho that do casual sex then yes, if she a good girl then no, is she an asexual?

[Kaneki05]

Nope. Only idiots would judge based on that.

[exitseven]

No, everyone has different life experiences and situations.

[FinalFantasyBro]

I mean I am 24 and never been with a girl yet so I logically couldn't tell others it be bad if I haven't either.

[loveslongnails]

It's very unusual and it would make me wary.

[Rockstarrrrr]

Nope... It's not a red flag or a green flag.. It's just a fact...

[genericname85]

that would obviously depend on the reason that she never had one.

[IHateBeingaMan]

last thing you would expect to happen to a woman at an age like this, but for a guy, man, not unusual or just not unheard of

[Nigjt]

No because I've had Woman much older then that who are just shy an I got them to give it up to me.
God Bless

[User3191989]

id rather her be, 33 with no boyfriend ever, than 34 2 kids, and divorced/separated

[Pudsmucker]

She may have never found the right one in her dating profile.

[HugeDikEng]

No, wtf? Some people only end up dating and marrying one person. It not that big of an issue surely the people you do end up with will understand.

[msc545]

Unless it's because she's been gay and is decided to try men it's pretty much a red flag.

[Anonymous]

22 guys say yes. And 36 mean they simply don't care thatt it is. 🤣