I’m sorry he feels that way. For you as well as himself. But honestly in my experience w a lot of black people it’s always been violence towards others or causing chaos, crime, etc. a majority of what I see on the news usually involves black people. Sadly that is how a lot of society see it. I worked in the prison for 8 years, always problems w the black men, yes white men as well as brown men had issues here and there but none like the black men. I tend to see black women the same way. But when most of your encounters are like that w certain things you start to be cautions. My neighborhood used to be good, it’s not the worst that’s for sure. But slowly it’s been getting bad. Two streets over from the housing neighborhood I live in is an apartment complex. Lately a lot of black people have started moving in. Since than, w in a year we’ve had 7 black men killed by other black men who were all caught. I go to 7-11 before I head to work, you see them outside not even trying to hide, smoking up. Your boyfriend has trauma, he needs help w that. Just like people who don’t want to get into a new relationship because they’re afraid they may get cheated on again. I know I’m stereotyping but when that’s all you seem to see your mind thinks that.
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Let's call a spade a spade, black guys are far more likely to attack someone; so, he's actually being smart by avoiding situations like that. If you've been with him for 6 years you know he cares about you- is it really important that he not recognize the issues black people bring at far higher levels (crime, aggression, etc.)?
You're expecting him to forget his personal experience, and be blind to the fact that black guys commit over half of violent crime; so, he just puts himself in scenarios that are dangerous.
If you're that sensitive, you shouldn't be dating a non-black guy. Only a black person would give other black people such an extreme benefit of the doubt.
You should cut him some slack. His feelings changed after a very personal and dangerous experience. He is well within common sense to now want to avoid a similar situation.
Take the 'black' part out of it, and consider that he was attacked by a cougar while on a hike, or a bear in the woods, or he fell off a boat and almost drowned, or got food poisoning from eating bad seafood. We avoid that which caused us harm before. You should pull yourself back from your feelings, and recognize that he has suffered a trauma, and his feelings actually do take precedence here. His are about safety and his mortality. Yours are about feeling slighted. They are both valid, but one is far more intense a survival mechanism.
I think he has trauma and needs therapy.
However if you're serious about him.
I would have concerns with him teaching his half black future children that black men can't be trusted.
Actions and values rub off on children. Once i noticed my white partner showed racist tendencies i ended things.
I did not want that for me.
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When a person is out on the street and senses danger, numerous self-defense experts will say to go with their gut feel and avoid the situation if at all possible. It is almost impossible to distinguish between people who imitate gangsters because that’s what their pop cultural icons do from actual gangsters. Your boyfriend has been burned before. He is absolutely right to follow his instincts to reduce his (and your if you are with him) odds of being attacked. If you cannot accept that about him you should probably reconsider the relationship.
It may seem racist in your eyes, but you dont know what emotions he maybe feeling on the inside. It was a traumatic experience that he hasn't been over with yet. Its no different than a woman who has been assaulted by a man in her past then choosing to avoid a group of men completely a long their path. People won't say she is sexist. Its no reason to break up with him. Instead you should help him threw it
Don’t break up with him. I’m not racist, but he has a point — it’s good to be safe if he lives in a racist city. As long as he doesn’t get any racist ideas/stereotypes, You two should be fine. Love him with all Your heart. Hug him and kiss him every day. Introduce some Black friends to him. He might get the fear out of him.
I know you're not gonna want to hear this, but the truth is he has a legitimate reason for this. According to FBI stats you are almost 4x more likely to be murdered by a black person than a white person. You are 2x more likely to be raped by a black person than a white person. You are 4x more like to be robbed by a black person than a white person and you are almost 3x more likely to be assaulted by a black person than a white person.
put yourself in his shoes. if you were attacked by a certain group of people, wouldn't you put your guard up whenever you encounter said certain group of people?
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Not really sure why u wpuld stay for 6 years if u know these are his behaviours as yo what u should do thats upto you is this somthing u cannot look past or not
Blacks are a very criminal race, but glad that you not get beat by black boyfriend.
You should break up with him. He doesn’t need a girlfriend who is constantly accusing him made up bias.
If he's with you, he's not racist. If he wants to go by his gut thats fine. Im black too.
Next time you see a group of white people you walk across the street too😂
I dont think it going to work for the two of you as you have seen it. and now asking us too.
your race commits the most crime compared to any other race
Spank him
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