my boyfriend and I have been together over 2 years and we've never had any problems, we always trust each other. Recently my boyfriend has been "Playfully bullied" by his female colleague. She sent him a friend request which he accepted, but today during work she sent him emails confessing her feelings for him, she knows he's in a relationship and it makes me feel uncomfortable. I feel uncomfortable for my boyfriend too but I just can't not feel a bit weird.
Terrible situation and very sorry you're going through that. Definitely enough to give you stress. First off, his co-worker is completely disrespecting you and your relationship, and she knows that. She's one of those females who wants a man that is taken because she feels like a taken man is more attractive or better able to have a relationship.
But, your boyfriend is entertaining it by allowing her to "playfully bully" him. I won't say too much about him accepting her friend request because a lot of co-workers add each other on social media, myself included. But I think at this point since she's sent those desperate and pathetic emails to him confessing her infatuation - NOT feelings - he needs to make it clear to her that nothing is going to happen between them and that he loves and respects you and will take a stand for that.
His actions in the situation are what will be the deciding factor to this whole thing, and that's what you need to be concerned about and watching closely to see if he will maintain his loyalty to you.
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Talk to him about your concerns and ask him how he's going to deal with this. He may need to go to HR.
I feel like there’s more to the situation than he’s letting on. To be clear, she is wrong and vile for pursuing a man she knows is taken, I can’t stand women who go for a guy no matter who they hurt or what relationship they wreck in order to get him. At the same time though, I don’t think he’s completely oblivious of her flirting. In fact, I think he recognizes this yet labels it as playful Bullying, whatever the hell that means. Keeping that in mind, he should’ve never accepted his friend request, or given her a window to express her feelings. What he should’ve done was set boundaries and show that he’s taken with both his words and actions. That is his responsibility to you, because your peace of mind should matter more than saving face with her. I understand that’s his colleague and he doesn’t have to to be a jerk, but if he can’t tell her to stop or something to that extent, I’d really question him as a partner.
If he really cares about you then he should distance himself from her, work or not he could find a way to make things less messy or stressful. Something seems off about this situation, I hope you don’t end up hurt.
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Communicate your boundaries to him and her, not to us.
Been there. You and him cease all contact with her. I've done this by being bluntly honest with the other women. doesn't usually go well and there may be repercussions at work. But doing the right thing is always harder...
pfft. he's been giving her signals that he would welcome such a confession. what has gone on already who knows but know there is more to the story.
If he's is serious about you and nothing is going on between them both , he'd distance himself from her. If he doesn't, I'd question why.
You need to explain to your boyfriend the concept of boundaries.
Trust that your boyfriend handle it. Don't do anything his loyalty is being tested. You will find out soon.
He needs to tell her to f off and she might need to meet you for a girl talk.
Tell your boyfriend to invite the girl over for dinner or coffee or whatever so all three of you can talk it over.
Read between the lines , why would he befriend someone without your consent or knowledge
? That's a type of betrayal.You can't do nothing with it your boyfriend can handle it.
Then why did he tell you?
I assume he was the one that asked you out
Is she prettier than you?
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