Can a new love cure your depression?

[Blackmoonsns]

Can someone you just met cure a lifetime of depression?

[Mermaidess]

It depends on the type of depression and its severity. If you're talking about a lifetime of depression- then I would say no, it seems like a genetic thing.

If your depression is light or only caused because you aren't in a relationship- then yes.

If the depression is severe, I having a new relationship may only provide a temporary relief, but not a cure. I had depression when I was in my first year of uni due to the social isolation and bullying I faced by my close friends the previous year, but being around other people and didn't cure my depression. I did not want a relationship at all at that point as my energy levels were too low for a relationship and I would practically shut the door to guys. I also felt that although I was able to have crushes, this overwhelming emptiness kept following with me. I would look out the window and wish I could be like normal people, but I somehow couldn't. This feeling of void made me feel no emotions, I felt cold and empty. Although I wasn't suicidal, the only thing that game me some level of happiness was suicidal ideation- it was the only thing that felt real to me.

Besides that, I would push people away from my life. If guys I was interested in tried asking me out, I would just want to run away and hide and tell them to leave me alone. I could not have experienced a relationship or having crushes in the same way a normal person would typically experience it. It felt like being trapped in some prison cell, and having some form of temporary relief in the form of a crush. It was not even close to being enough in getting me out of the cell, but was enough to temporarily make me forget my problems.

[Redhead1981]

My answer would be no, having a new relationship might temporarily increase your mood and happiness but will not be a permanent fix. It is also not fair to your potential partner for you to put the expectations of keeping you happy all the time on them (rather they know it or not) . Noone will ever meet those expectations. You need to work on yourself and learn to be happy on your own and happy with yourself to truly have a happy relationship.

[NathanDavis]

there is no cure for depression...

especially if you refer to major/clinical depression when you say a "lifetime" one

and it would be highly irresponsible for someone to think that a new person in your life is going to fix your incredibly complex and complicated lifetime, which as this point would be a chronic issue

one situation that pretty much anyone with depression has to ask themselves is, can you even love yourself, and others properly, are you able to really love someone? or are you just becoming dependent on the infatuation with someone in your life, if you are able to and you can actually manage a relationship that is also a successful one, one of love then yes, this could help the situation somewhat, but you are still going to have to deal with the major/clinical depression

there are no cures for depression, there is treatments that can work and help you to manage, but not to cure it... and the irresponsible part would be to see another person as your personal source of treatment, that usually does not end well, either you will burn them out, or you will fall even deeper into despair if something happens to them

clinical/major depression can be managed with treatment, and that is meds + psychotherapy

[TruthBringer]

Absolutely well said, Nathan! You're right. It is very irresponsible to burden the other person to be a personal therapist. I've been that guy who took that burden only to get emotionally and mentally burnt out. I stopped enjoying many things I used to enjoy and it took me a few years of recovery before I felt ready to date again. My parents warned me about dating someone with depression and I did not heed their warning.

Never again...

[Datboi65]

Sorry to upset you, but the word "depression" is often overused. It's a chronic condition that isn't ONLY related to mood disturbances, but has physical manifestations (decreased motor activity for example) as well as a lack of interest doing tasks that are otherwise joyful. Clinically, depression is due to the deficiency of monoamine neurotransmitter in the brain. If you have been diagnosed with Clinical depression, you would know two things:

A) There's a scale that lists the severity from mild to very severe/potentially life-threatening depending on symptoms.

B) The course of disease isn't likely to go away on it's own. More likely than not you need prescribed medication in the form of anti-depressants.

So can a new relationship cure depression? I wouldn't say so. Can it decrease symptoms? Perhaps, but you still need to take prescribed medication and follow a treatment plan from a psychiatrist in the form of psychotherapy + pharmacotherapy.

[AmandaYVR]

I was going to answer 'yes', but you added "cure a lifetime of depression." That's kind of a tall order.

It's probably not an entirely healthy way to look at depression. Some people are more prone to it than others (with genetics, etc.) And life continues to dish out challenges, throughout.

But otoh, one person really can make a hugely significant impact on another's life.

So overall, I'm going to answer... potentially, yes. Sometimes at the root of depression (amongst many roots) is loneliness. And loneliness does kill, by depressing the immune system, which means we cannot fight off illness, etc. Feeling loved, appreciated, does wonders for one self-esteem, and outlook on a future.

[Guy13]

You deserve to be happy and obviously he’s not giving you what you need 🙄….

I am taking the perspective of in an unsatisfactory relationship that is Depression affected.
Let’s do a checklist on the current relationship since the Buzz cure has worn off…before one jumps into another relationship at a second guy’s expense.
—Let go of one’s pride and individual leading to couple counseling yet…you mean she’s serious about me/us?
—Read up on what your Partner may be feeling.
—Put away Self-medicating?
—Determined to get this behind me with plan, timeline, and Conquer Date.

Food for Thought 🤷🏻‍♂️: Doing and or Not Doing the same thing over and over again while expecting a different result is the definition of Stupid.

[BlueScorpio]

Possibly. Some people can be a huge blessing in your life and make your entire world seem better. However, it's best not 100% depend on others to make you feel whole or happy cause it can lead to more disappointments. In the end the only person that truly make you happy and whole is yourself. I also believe God/Jesus can make a person feel complete love and whole.

[suzzieQ]

Tell that to people witch cancer

[BlueScorpio]

@suzzieQ My father had cancer and passed from cancer. The day he died he said he was going home to see the Lord and was thankful God gave him 5 years instead a few months like doctors predicted.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Jesus is a lie

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Y’all are too old to believe in a magic dead man in the sky 😂

[BlueScorpio]

@PainusNdeeAnus For your sake, you better hope you are right. If you don't want to have a relationship with God then that's totally up to you.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Dude god isn’t real why would a loving god create people who he knows will reject them only to destroy them

[PainusNdeeAnus]

I realize some people need the idea of god but when you think about it
It’s really no more ridiculous than Santa claus

[BlueScorpio]

@PainusNdeeAnus sad you feel that way, God is definitely real and if He wasn't you wouldn't be here today cause you are made in His image. You can't find God if you don't make the effort to search for Him.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

I’m here today because of money not your make believe sky daddy

[BlueScorpio]

@PainusNdeeAnus shrug. You have free will so it's up to you to believe or not. I don't why your trying to get personal about it, I'm just letting you know God is most certainly real and so is the Lord Jesus. I'm letting you know now so that you will have the time to find Him while you're still alive on earth. Tomorrow is not promised and Christ is definitely coming back sooner than most people think. God still loves you regardless anyway.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Here we go with the free will bs
I didn’t ask to be here? Where was my free will then? And tell me what good is free will if he wants you to only do things his way? Christian’s never have answers every single one of you have that “Well as long as I get mine” mindset that’s why you people talk down to others I hate Christian’s

But you’re right about getting to personal I’m not gonna take it out on you

[BlueScorpio]

@PainusNdeeAnus that's fine, Jesus said if they hate you, remember they hated me first. No one is forcing you to accept God.

[suzzieQ]

Lol except god... "accept, serve, and worship me... if not I'll torture you with fire for the rest of eternity"... but that not force lol

[BlueScorpio]

@suzzieQ you have choice to accept salvation or reject it. God isn't going to force anyone to be in heaven where they don't want to be. You decide where you go in the next life, God makes it final through judgment. You can lice your life the way you want to now, but cone the day you die you can not say you didn't know about the sacrifice of Jesus.. you fo know but chose to deny it and Him. That's all I have to say. I'm not sure why yge both of you got weirdly offended when I mentioned God cause my original comment was no where directed to any of you.

[suzzieQ]

I don’t know why any sane person would chose to serve a bloodthirsty, jealous, narcissistic, genocidal deity who all read all but wiped out the planet, and slaughtered innocent women and children

[BlueScorpio]

@suzzieQ you need to reread why God flooded the earth, it wasn't for no reason.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@suzzieQ exactly god is punishing everyone for his mistakes why would he kill Jesus and no satan that doesn’t make sense

[Account]

No, it cannot. In fact, when bad times occur, it will make the situation much worse.
The only things that can somehow help the process of combating depression would be to talk to a therapist, to start medication, to start an activity that will boost your mood, to eat healthier, to meditate and at least once per week to spend time close to nature.

[ManhattanMan1212]

Can I ask you a question?

[Aerissa_Jade]

Yes and no, it can help to lift moods for awhile, but depression is a disease, having a new love isn't going to cure a disease. It can help ease the symptoms but it will come back.

[Kabluie]

Facts, I know this first hand. You may catch someone on their emotional high phase but it could come down like a house of cards.

[TruthBringer]

No.

A new lover cannot cure your depression. It may be all honey and roses in the beginning, but over time you will notice that the relationship is equivalent to applying a bandage to an infected wound. It didn't heal the wound.

You CAN date while having depression AS LONG AS you are proactively seeking help and trying to combat your depression. You also need to communicate this to the new person so they know what they are getting themselves into. But don't expect another person to fix your problems. They can't.

I'm going to be very blunt here. Dating someone with chronic depression as a 'healthy' person is self-inflicted self-harm. But on a psychological level. Because depression is known to affect others. This is why I always recommend people stay away from someone suffering from depression if they want to stay on the safe side. That doesn't mean you as a person who suffers from depression are not deserving of love. It simply means that the odds are significantly greater that your depression will contaminate the other person's mental state. UNLESS you take the right measures, which from my observation, most people who suffer from depression don't. They enter in a co-dependent relationship and burdening the other person with being their personal therapist. This is very draining.

I used to date a depressed girl who on top of that has a personality disorder. It DRAINED the living fuck out of me. Mentally AND emotionally. Why? Because she expected me to fix her depression for her. And me being a naïve teenager thought I could do it. Only to find out that I was breaking my own self while trying to fix her.

So dating a depressed person can be dangerous for BOTH parties if not dealt with correctly. Either you indulge in how you can deal with it in a healthy way so you can lead a healthy relationship, or don't date at all.

[Anonymous]

It helps, but it's not healthy since you'll be good as long as the person is there, and even if you're in a relationship and he/she needs to be somewhere all day, that can affect you.

It helps, but the correct thing in my opinion is to be healthy before entering a relationship, or to at least be working on yourself, not just waiting for someone to make you happy and fix everything for you. We all have problems, and we all deal with stuff, but my problems are mine, and his problems are his. Of course, simply being next to your loved one, go for a walk, talk about stuff, watching something together, etc, are things that make you feel good, and I think that's ok, perfectly fine. But using them as your therapist and saviour is just wrong, and not fair for them, neither you.

[sage2021]

A new person can really lift your spirits and even make you laugh.

It's hard to be so depressed when a new person in your life allows you to feel better inside.

It depends on what you've been so depressed about before I can answer your question.

My own experience has taught me that a new love can make you feel so good and happy inside, and if you end up married to the new person, then you found someone that might have lifted you out of your depression and on to bugger and better things!
When I broke up my boyfriend of three years and 6 months later found a guy that I got along great with. No fighting like with my ex-boyfriend. The new guy was so sweet to me and most of all he didn't do drugs!! It made a bug difference.

[Samscott456]

Reality is you only truly have yourself in this world. You need to love yourself and be happy alone before you can be truly happy with someone else. That being said it will take away some of your depression initially but why would you want a person to be your only source of happiness. In general those dynamics result in unhealthy relationships. I am sure there are exceptions where you can heal in the relationship, but generally that’s quite a high expectation and burden to put on someone else.

[ArrowheadSW]

Basically, no. It might help add to a person's support system and somewhat help, but it wouldn't really be a cure for chronic depression. I know a guy who got married (second marriage) when he was 51 and then divorced 3 years later. I asked him what was up with that and it was a situation where his wife had dealt with chronic depression and getting married "didn't do it for her". They were in therapy almost from day one from getting married. It was tough to deal with.

Just my opinion. I'm not a mental health professional.

[Red-Blaze]

Not directly
When someone is in love stuff can drop and go to the side, but it dose not cure it, just shove it away for a while
To deal with depeasion one must work on them self, on there very views that is hard work at all times
When in love how ever is a great boost to work on it, and hopfully get the tools to fight it on steady ground, that will likely help the love as well
But its not something you cure with a pill medical or in the heart, its something you have to fight and work on to "cure" it

TL:DR Love will not cure it, but can give you the head, motivasion, and will to get the tools to deal with it

TL:DR TL:DR Yes, but inderictly

[Price511]

Love can help cut off the branches of the problem, but unless they are basically prince charming with a DSM-5, they can’t really cure your depression or address the problem at the root. It’s best to actually try and get some professional help rather than weigh all of your mental illness on somebody else (because it is a great undertaking, and in some cases it may make someone feel trapped so as not to set off a mental spiral if they tried to leave, not to mention the pressure to just keep you alive and happy in general).


A new love can be the start of the road, but it should not be the end of that road too.

[CaptainOverthink]

No.

But if you bring real change to your life that is not dependent on your partner's presence then I believe you can hijack the rush of being in love. Which it pretty much what anti-depresants are for (except the rush is no rush but a stabilizing agent).

Although it should be said that if you fail to implement change chances are it will pop into the background and ruin your connection.

[Literalbillionaire17]

No. I used to try and cure the problems I had with myself by getting into relationships and things but it doesn’t help. At first you’ll be on top of the world and happy but eventually you’ll realize that you still have this huge void in you and it just messes things up for the both of you.

[exitseven]

Yes, I was really sad about how my life turned out. I really thought that I was going nowhere and I really did not have much hope for the future. I met my wife and eventually I realized that I still could turn my life around and make my life something great. It took a while but somehow it all worked out. A friend who was a wellness coach told me that depression can be caused when you are out of the loop of control of your life. When I got some control back I felt better.

[TonyV]

No, and finding happiness in a partner is a bad idea, it leads to you being needy and co dependant of them, which if they a bad person means they can easily abuse or manipulate you, and if they ever decide to leave (maybe cause you expect to much from them) well then you are completely crushed cause you based all your happiness on them.

Don't be afraid to stay single a little longer and work on yourself, partners aren't supose to fix you.

[petitedollbabee]

Sure it can lift your mood, but you can’t rely on a partner to cure your depression. It’s something that should be treated with long term therapy and possibly medication if necessary. Your partner isn’t your psychologist, don’t dump your emotional baggage on them and expect them to magically cure you.

[MCheetah]

It can, but it's extremely unlikely. If you have to rely on another person to make yourself feel happy, then it's not really a cure, as much as a temporary band-aid. Because when that person leaves you or breaks up with you, the depression is only going to return, if not be far worse than before. That is why they say you shouldn't rely on others for your own happiness.

[JessicaEarl]

Depends on the type of depression! If it’s situational (sad about something) then I can sure help! If it’s clinical and you’re not being treated, it could make things harder for both of you. If you have clinical depression, please make sure to see someone just like you would if you had asthma!

[Tina19]

I know a friend who was going through a divorce in 2017 and that put her in depression soon after a year she met her now husband and they are madly in love happily married now that guy loves her a lot doesn't miss a chance to show her how much he cares but she is still in depression and having her medication regularly so i am not sure if love can cure it but definitely the care you get from your partner can make the depression manageable