Yes, If I'm UNHAPPY in my relationship and have done everything in my power to make things better, but didn't work.
No, if I am happy in my relationship.
I see many comments here calling someone who leaves for better things like "scum" for choosing a better partner for them. I believe this demonization is only justified IF the person was leaving a good partner. You don't get to call someone "scum" for leaving an abusive relationship and finding someone who is better for them. Whether the abuse is physical, mental, or emotional.
I've dealt with emotional abuse & racism (from her family) in my previous relationship with someone who turned out to have a personality disorder. I've invested more into the relationship than she ever did. The relationship drained me of my energy and left me dealing with complex PTSD even years after the breakup. Although I didn't leave her immediately for someone else, I knew someone else would have much more to offer for me than this emotionally abusive relationship that was DRAINING me of my energy.
And I did find her. She does everything right that my ex did wrong and we are growing together both as individuals AND as a couple. I don't even dare to think about leaving her for "someone better". Whereas my ex regressed in all areas of her life and was clearly holding me back from my personal development. So yeah, I have no regrets being with someone better. Good riddance.
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Not surprised that a woman asked this to be honest.
I don't do "upgrades." Whoever I got is who I got, and I'm going to be loyal to that. Unlike most men, I'm a one-woman man. Even if another woman had a bigger chest, sweeter smile, or funnier character, the woman I have is who I'm going to be faithful to.
There is always going to be someone out there who has something better than us or your partner, but also things we or our partner have that's better than them. You can run through your whole life constantly going with someone you think has 'more to offer' and you'll never reach the end of it or be happy.
If you do, then you're scum...
Sorry if I offended anyone with the truth, lol.
If you really loved said person, then ideally you wouldn't leave them: no matter how bad things were, or if something or someone better came along.
To me, if someone does that, I'm assuming they never loved you in the first place. But were just with you and/or using you for what you could give them.
Only if your current partner/relationship isn't doing well or just extremely harmful to you mentally, emotionally, physically etc. In that case most people will get tired of such relationships and will want to search for something more stable. But other than that, no.. why quit a relationship that's good?
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I could not say I would leave someone I love for someone else. But I have left someone I loved, because real life issue started to impact the relationship. I mean they were still the same person, and I cared for them deeply. But they were not growing as a person, and the burden of the relationship became too much for me. It changed the nature of the relationship. So, I did not leave them for a specific person, but I did leave them to find someone better... and I think I have
I would only marry someone with a good enough personality that I know I could be faithful to them forever, if they get ugly and old, if their weight changes, if they become sick, if they lose their intelligence, if they develop mental issues etc…
No. Unless you're in an abusive situation... There is never any excuse for this. If the answer to this question is "maybe" or "yes"... you shouldn't be in a relationship with your 'Lover'. You are with them for convenience. Most people aren't ok with being the convenient choice.
No but that is what women are biologically impaired to do... monkey branch from one to another who has better resources.
I don't think that's possible for a person you don't love to offer more than a person you love. Only people who are heartless value money and empty promises over a already bounded love. And you deserve to be the one grasping for too much and ending up without anything.
No, you don’t leave the one you love just because someone else offers more. There’s always going to be people who have more to offer one way or another. You chose your person, you love them, and you take on the world together. You don’t ditch your partner just to get ahead…. That’s pathetic.
No. One thing I take very seriously is loyalty. I cannot expect a loyal partner and then cheat, that will make me a hypocrite. I cannot expect a loyal partner and then leave them for someone else. We are who we are at the end of the day, if there's something wrong going on I would let her know. I have unlimited hate for those who go behind other people's backs and do these things, they are nothing more than worthless cowards.
If I call a lady my girlfriend that's it. There's nothing anyone could offer me to change my mind. That's my future wife and mother of my kids. I've done all the background checks. That lady is good for life so there's nothing anyone in the world could possibly offer me. Loyalty is the only language I speak.
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A new one, but not a committed one. If I commit, I really mean it in the sense that I forego everything which might actually be better for me for her. That's what commitment means in my opinion. Of course, there will be way better opportunities later on. That's what commitment means. It means saying "no" to something which is way, way, way better.
If we’re still in the first 3 months or less and he’s not doing a good job as a boyfriend, um yea
Yes, but it's more than money and sex. My girlfriend doesn't help me financially, and while our sex probably isn't the best sex either of us could have, we enjoy it enough to not seek better sex. So she'd have to offer more love, trust, support, etc. than my girlfriend and her family already do. Since I make my girlfriend happy, her parents love me and make sure that I can continue to make their daughter happy.
No, that’s a lot of bad Karma
Just Because the Person you’re with at the moment doesn’t have much to offer, doesn’t mean he won’t later on on the road…
Possibly, but only if I was unhappy with the current lover. I wouldn't leave a perfectly happy relationship just for a POSSIBILITY of being happier with someone new.
And the grass is always greener on the other side right? Smdh.
Unless you are truly unhappy with your current relationship then you are being very entitled and selfish miss anon.
That is the whole point of a "lover" deary.
If you're a good businesswoman you'll work in such, and always be looking for better. What makes you think sex is any different?
Most have done it.
Maybe not directly, but if you break it off with them and later get with somebody else, that you are more compatible with etc. Then does it really matter if you wait a week or 2 yearsNot likely, no. There would need to be serious problems with my relationship before I would leave. And if I did leave, it wouldn't be for another woman.
No I’m sorry but I’i worked hard to win her I’m not just giving her up… If I thought someone ride could do better for her then Ide just be better…
No, because I believe in karma and I've seen when people think the grass is greener on the other side. Lol
Once you base a relationship on what they can offer, It no longer is about love, but how much you can drain a person dry before jumping to someone else. Don't be a parasite. Love should never be a parasitic relationship.
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