Would You Leave Your Lover if somebody had a lot more to offer you?

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TruthBringer · Accepted Answer

Yes, If I'm UNHAPPY in my relationship  and have done everything in my power to make things better, but didn't work. No, if I am happy in my relationship. I see many comments here calling someone who leaves for better things like "scum" for choosing a better partner for them. I believe this demonization is only justified IF the person was leaving a good partner. You don't get to call someone "scum" for leaving an abusive relationship and finding someone who is better for them. Whether the abuse is physical, mental, or emotional.  I've dealt with emotional abuse & racism (from her family) in my previous relationship with someone who turned out to have a personality disorder. I've invested more into the relationship than she ever did. The relationship drained me of my energy and left me dealing with complex PTSD even years after the breakup. Although I didn't leave her immediately for someone else, I knew someone else would have much more to offer for me than this emotionally abusive relationship that was DRAINING me of my energy. And I did find her. She does everything right that my ex did wrong and we are growing together both as individuals AND as a couple. I don't even dare to think about leaving her for "someone better". Whereas my ex regressed in all areas of her life and was clearly holding me back from my personal development. So yeah, I have no regrets being with someone better. Good riddance.

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

Not surprised that a woman asked this to be honest.

I don't do "upgrades." Whoever I got is who I got, and I'm going to be loyal to that. Unlike most men, I'm a one-woman man. Even if another woman had a bigger chest, sweeter smile, or funnier character, the woman I have is who I'm going to be faithful to.

There is always going to be someone out there who has something better than us or your partner, but also things we or our partner have that's better than them. You can run through your whole life constantly going with someone you think has 'more to offer' and you'll never reach the end of it or be happy.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

If you do, then you're scum...

Sorry if I offended anyone with the truth, lol.
If you really loved said person, then ideally you wouldn't leave them: no matter how bad things were, or if something or someone better came along.

To me, if someone does that, I'm assuming they never loved you in the first place. But were just with you and/or using you for what you could give them.

BlueScorpio · Accepted Answer

Only if your current partner/relationship isn't doing well or just extremely harmful to you mentally, emotionally, physically etc. In that case most people will get tired of such relationships and will want to search for something more stable. But other than that, no.. why quit a relationship that's good?

DaveJord · Answer

I could not say I would leave someone I love for someone else. But I have left someone I loved, because real life issue started to impact the relationship. I mean they were still the same person, and I cared for them deeply. But they were not growing as a person, and the burden of the relationship became too much for me. It changed the nature of the relationship. So, I did not leave them for a specific person, but I did leave them to find someone better... and I think I have

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I would only marry someone with a good enough personality that I know I could be faithful to them forever, if they get ugly and old, if their weight changes, if they become sick, if they lose their intelligence, if they develop mental issues etc…

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

No. Unless you're in an abusive situation... There is never any excuse for this. If the answer to this question is "maybe" or "yes"... you shouldn't be in a relationship with your 'Lover'. You are with them for convenience. Most people aren't ok with being the convenient choice.

coachTanthony · Answer

No but that is what women are biologically impaired to do... monkey branch from one to another who has better resources.

Adam1978 · Answer

I don't think that's possible for a person you don't love to offer more than a person you love. Only people who are heartless value money and empty promises over a already bounded love. And you deserve to be the one grasping for too much and ending up without anything.

Datboi65 · Answer

No. One thing I take very seriously is loyalty. I cannot expect a loyal partner and then cheat, that will make me a hypocrite. I cannot expect a loyal partner and then leave them for someone else. We are who we are at the end of the day, if there's something wrong going on I would let her know. I have unlimited hate for those who go behind other people's backs and do these things, they are nothing more than worthless cowards.

DoctorSex · Answer

If I call a lady my girlfriend that's it. There's nothing anyone could offer me to change my mind. That's my future wife and mother of my kids. I've done all the background checks. That lady is good for life so there's nothing anyone in the world could possibly offer me. Loyalty is the only language I speak.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

ZXCwWRQWz · Answer

A new one, but not a committed one. If I commit, I really mean it in the sense that I forego everything which might actually be better for me for her. That's what commitment means in my opinion. Of course, there will be way better opportunities later on. That's what commitment means. It means saying "no" to something which is way, way, way better.

Mybeachlife8888 · Answer

No, you don’t leave the one you love just because someone else offers more. There’s always going to be people who have more to offer one way or another. You chose your person, you love them, and you take on the world together. You don’t ditch your partner just to get ahead…. That’s pathetic.

DizzyDesii · Answer

If we’re still in the first 3 months or less and he’s not doing a good job as a boyfriend, um yea

Twalli · Answer

Yes, but it's more than money and sex. My girlfriend doesn't help me financially, and while our sex probably isn't the best sex either of us could have, we enjoy it enough to not seek better sex. So she'd have to offer more love, trust, support, etc. than my girlfriend and her family already do. Since I make my girlfriend happy, her parents love me and make sure that I can continue to make their daughter happy.

Shiface92 · Answer

No, that’s a lot of bad Karma  Just Because the Person you’re with at the moment doesn’t have much to offer, doesn’t mean he won’t later on on the road…

MCheetah · Answer

Possibly, but only if I was unhappy with the current lover. I wouldn't leave a perfectly happy relationship just for a POSSIBILITY of being happier with someone new.

RangerBlue22 · Answer

And the grass is always greener on the other side right? Smdh.  Unless you are truly unhappy with your current relationship then you are being very entitled and selfish miss anon.

Lis-the-librarian · Answer

Most have done it.
Maybe not directly, but if you break it off with them and later get with somebody else, that you are more compatible with etc. Then does it really matter if you wait a week or 2 years

Tina19 · Answer

If he loves me more and make me feel more safe than my lover then yes i will leave

jshm2 · Answer

That is the whole point of a "lover" deary.  If you're a good businesswoman you'll work in such, and always be looking for better. What makes you think sex is any different?

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Not likely, no. There would need to be serious problems with my relationship before I would leave. And if I did leave, it wouldn't be for another woman.

VanillaSalt · Answer

No I’m sorry but I’i worked hard to win her I’m not just giving her up… If I thought someone ride could do better for her then Ide just be better…

Labokachulaa · Answer

No, because I believe in karma and I've seen when people think the grass is greener on the other side. Lol

dragoblack · Answer

Once you base a relationship on what they can offer, It no longer is about love, but how much you can drain a person dry before jumping to someone else. Don't be a parasite. Love should never be a parasitic relationship.

t_time · Answer

Not a chance. my boyfriend and i have an amazing relationship. No amount of material things could break what him and I have

LingyRolls · Answer

If you do, then you're not really his lover. You don't love him. You love something else.

DrBanana · Answer

No unless the situation has to go nuclear and for a good reason.  If I wasn’t happy in the relationship I would let them know as an adult and leave as best I can

SphynxUK · Answer

I would leave them if they didn’t love me, or if I didn’t love them.

Adaeva · Answer

That is what women do but not unless they are certain.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

If I’m not happy with my lover, maybe. But if I am then no I won’t consider anybody else an option.

Anonymous · Answer

HEARTBREAKER ALERT!!!

Ironic_Method · Answer

I'd probably just take both. Not sure what someone else could offer more than what my wife is already giving.

exitseven · Answer

Nope, I think loyalty is an important thing in a relationship.

aaron210419 · Answer

No this is cowardly and the reason why the divorce rate is so high.

Anonymous · Answer

If you mean a Lover as in a fuck buddy, yes in a heartbeat.

Anonymous · Answer

If I was unhappy, I wouldn't hesitate in leaving.

Anonymous · Answer

This could certainly be the path to the dark side if you're not careful! You can't build your happiness on the misery of others. Abuse or mistreatment is entirely different.

AmeerX · Answer

What is a lot more to offer to you? Can you give specific details?

LiamJHayden · Answer

The grass always seems greener till you step in what the dog left hidden in it.

SpokenTruth · Answer

If someone else had more to offer then would obviously not with my lover to begin with.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Nope it's not just about what they have to offer it's also about compatibility and how we vibe together

Anonymous · Answer

Never. If she has "that much" to offer and my partner wanted her or him, she'd suggest bringing them in to the relationship.

PainusNdeeAnus · Answer

You mean like a girl who does anal and front sex?

dexter234 · Answer

Not a chance, because there will always be somebody who has better to offer.

Sailormoon95 · Answer

No. Especially if I had all intentions of marrying that person.

Nigjt · Answer

No but they could join us I have 12 Women already so more the better. God Bless

Sofi-a1997 · Answer

No, unless I stopped loving my partner for some reason.

Anonymous · Answer

You don't have anything to offer so you might aswell stay where you're at

trina_x · Answer

i wouldn't leave somebody to be with somebody else

EmmaMary · Answer

No, absolutely not.

Emilyis · Answer

OMG NO! Only a jerk would do that!

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

No. I'll work harder to keep what I've got.

Confusedashell123 · Answer

I’m in love with my partner so no

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Fuck no! This isn't a game of Monopoly!

Minahh · Answer

If he treats me badly once, I'm out

msc545 · Answer

Almost all women would. This is hypergamy.

ItsMykolaJenkins · Answer

A lot more like what?

Songomatic · Answer

No. But if thts what they prefer, tht is def ok.

SnowedIn · Answer

Not a chance.

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Only if the partner is awful

sheenagwapa · Answer

nope

slatyb · Answer

In wouldn't.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Nope.

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