Guys, when you go out on a date, do you pepper her with too many questions about her that it's like an interrogation?

[sage2021]

I remember when I would just starting to get to know a new guy, they would ask me so many personal questions when I didn't even know them yet. One after another. Or they'd cut to the chase and say "So, what's your story"? I almost typed up a form with all the questions I would get asked and put the answers on it and hand it to them. Crazy huh? It's like they wanted my resume of my life history on our first night. Do any of you interrogate your date?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Honestly, no.

I almost come off as not interested, but that's because I prefer to let the other person set their own pace and share as they go along - I just do my best to make them comfortable enough and soon enough they are telling me stuff from ten years ago.

In my experience it's usually the woman that peppers me with questions and shares things. I never lie, but I know how to work my way around questions that I deem too personal and delicate to ask right away.

[TheSpaceGnome]

"I almost typed up a form with all the questions I would get asked and put the answers on it and hand it to them. Crazy huh?"

No, not crazy, that would actually be a great idea.

That sort of "interrogation" is required to find a match. No other realistic way to do it.

[Lliam]

That's interesting, Sage. What impatient, inept, numbskulls. "Let's have a conversation about how virtuous you are." LOL That's a great way to connect with someone.

Who would want to date someone who's as serious as a heart attack or who treats you like a prospective employee?

I never did that. I'd just have a conversation, just like I would with anyone I was meeting for the first time. Polite stuff about work, family, interests, etc. I wanted to see if we got along. If we decided to continue dating exclusively at some point, there would be plenty of time to gradually get to know more about each other. There is no rush, and the journey is enjoyable.

One thing I never asked about was "body count". No girl ever asked mine, either.

[sage2021]

@Lliam I tried to give you a like for your answer, but my phone wouldn't let me. So, here us me, giving you your well deserved like 🙂

[Lliam]

Thanks, Sage.

[blackgaletiger]

They many be nervous and silence can make it awkward or kill the vibe which is why they ask questions. We go based of the stereotypes that women like to talk more than men so asking a question could keep the conversation going until we have something mutual to talk about

[FunkyMonkee]

Last time I was out on a date was at least 20 years ago. We did a pretty good amount of talking but I have no idea which of us did most of it. I tend to be more of a question answerer than an asker. Or, I'll just try to start a conversation and hope it leads to questions being answered without actually asking any.

[Anonymous]

No, generally I let her set the pace. It may be a first date, but it's not an interview and I'm not in any hurry. Hmm. Over 40 and still single maybe I should be?🤣 I guess the way I see it is right is right. And right happens when it happens. And that can be at anytime or age.

[icedragoom]

Some guys just don't want to come off sounding like a douche and only talk about the. Selves hence why the ask you those questions

[slatyb]

No, that's just rude. A date is not a job interview.

[Danny_dan92]

If it feels like an interrogation or interview then the date sucks ass cause that means only one person is trying to get to know the other person

[Surely]

It is rather tough not to do if your date doesn't willing engage in any conversation with you.

[Ill_made_Knight]

No way, keep it light and have fun... maybe do something that prmotes swapping opinions about stuff. I like a museum for at least one early stages date.

[exitseven]

It was a long time ago but I am pretty sure I didn't ask too many questions Mostly asked about school and stuff like that. Once on a first date a girl just flat out asked me if I was looking to fall in love.

[Con29]

No that’s the wrong way to do, you need to take things slow and the guy can’t always ask questions it has to be both ways this is what I think anyway.

[Con29]

Thanks

[WTFdivorce]

Sure guys probably just get nervous and go into interview mode.

[Jamie05rhs]

If you don't want to be interrogated on a first date, then just put that information on your profile so he doesn't have to ask. 🤷

[Andres77]

Just ask a few key questions and let her go... on and on and on...😉

[Anonymous]

Thought that said 'pepper spray' for a second... phew.

[Stevefiveo]

Hmm, I usually let the girl do all the talking and listen.

[Brando10222]

I don't prepare anything but go with the flow

[misogynistic_pig]

Yes.

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