I’m insanely jealous of girls that get male attention. Men never bat an eye at me, what’s wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

I’m 5’7” 117lbs with some curves, long hair to my lower back and at least decently pretty face. Men never talk to me, approach me, or even look at me unless it’s online. I’m only even complimented by women and I’m insanely jealous of girls who get male attention.

I dress well but I don’t try to hard, I do a very very good job to hiding my insecurity so they’re a no reason I should be giving off desperate or jealous energy. I’m friendly and sociable. I’m confident in myself and I focus on myself but you have to understand that never having anyone of the gender you’re attracted to ever acknowledge you is beyond shitty.

What should I do, what am I doing wrong?

[quaranta]

If you get hit on online but receive no attention in real life, that is definitely not something related to your appearance but to your vibe, and what you communicate indirectly.
Three things are mostly repulsive: the guy senses potential negativity in you; the guy is intimidated by you; the guy is weirded out by you.
Something is telling them:"danger here, look elsewhere".
And it's hard to say without seeing you for some hours interacting in a place with males, so it's really up to you to understand what is putting them off (considering that the presence of other single women might make the dealbreaker easier, for much less than being "repulsive").
The key is being positive and accessible, confident too perhaps but without crossing the line of "weird".
For example, if you try hard to seem confident by agreeing with anyone to everything very vivaciously, they would read it as if you're kind of hysterical and thirsty of integration (one of the many examples, I have no idea what you do).
If you are too sarcastic and judgmental of what others do for the sake of making "allies" through being cool in criticizing the same things, they would think you are intimidating because you could judge them for any move they could do, or that you would get offended easily (another one of the many examples).

[Aerissa_Jade]

It isn't all that great to have guys constantly coming up to you, it sucks actually.

If you look busy or aren't smiling, they do not approach, but smile, look happy, look like your having fun and more will approach you.

Look like you have RBF and they won't approach... I know its hard to consciously think about how you might be looking as that is often like a dogs tail, it does it automatically.

[Asker]

I mean I always look very joyful when I’m out. When I’m with my friends I’m always laughing and smiling. When I’m by myself I’m usually just smiling in general.

[Blackmoonsns]

If you're constantly hanging out with other women this could be a problem. Is the energy you're giving off a open warm inviting energy or is it a closed off energy. Are you sweet when you talk or you quick to use sass. Don't be afraid to approach a guy and drop subtle hints especially when a woman touches me I know they give away she's into me and then I start making my move.

[MCheetah]

If you're not getting male attention in today's Age of Simps, you either live in an anti-male country like England, where saying Hi to a woman gets you two years in prison, or it's definitely you. Maybe try being more friendly, approachable, and giving men more clues that you're open to being talked to.

[Asker]

I’m always very happy and joyful when I’m out I shouldn’t look like I’m in a bad mood.

[MCheetah]

Based on your language and replies in this post alone, you sound like a pissed off Karen all he time, to be honest. If you're this angry and aggressive on the internet, I can't imagine what kind of body language you're putting out there in real life, or if you're ready to dial 911 on any ugly dude who makes eye contact with you. Just to give you some valid criticism.

You can take it and reflect on it, ignore it, or insult me and call me names. Let's see which one you'll do!

[Asker]

The fact that instead of genuinely telling me my additude seems off you went to saying I have sand in my vagina tells me your old ass man who I don’t wanna be taking advice from. Guy cuss, girls cuss, no man has ever had an issue with me cussed unless he was some crazy high horse misogynistic old man like you. I’m angry and agressive because the girl I was taking to before was rude so I responded rudely, and you were rude so now I’m cussing your ass out. I don’t give a shit about how I’m presented on here because that not how I act in real life.

[MCheetah]

"you went to saying I have sand in my vagina tells me your old ass man who I don’t wanna be taking advice from"

Ah! Option three, I see! Name-calling from the bravery of anonymous mode. Nice to know you're predictable, too!

"Men never bat an eye at me, what’s wrong with me?"

You have a shitty attitude, a lack of accountability, are deluded to the point you actually think you're "friendly and sociable, and happy and joyful" when you're clearly not, and are objectively a cunt.

"What should I do, what am I doing wrong?"

Work on being less of a shitstain, grow up, and maybe get some therapy. There ya go. No need to respond back; I'm done caring about you.

Is this that 736_switch_blade chick? I'm guessing the insecurity/shitty attitude is definitely you. Not that there's any shortage of shitty deluded females on here. Oh well, guess calling out bad women just makes me "an incel," right? 🤷‍♂️

[Asker]

I don’t really give a shit because everyone I know in real life loves my personality always comments on how lovely I am, just not the annoying fuck who can’t take the heat when they piss me off. Go suck a dick clearly you don’t like women. Eat shit die slow you old geriatric fuck xoxo

[CubsterShura]

I felt the same way until I learned about my autism and ADHD and suddenly a lot of things started making sense to me. I do better in one-on-one situations and I discovered that I'm better off approaching men individually and talking to them as that's how my boldness mainly comes through rather than group conversations.

If you already know what your strengths and weakness are you already are miles ahead of other people. Make the most of your strengths and enjoy your time.

[amccart19]

Either you're only looking at the guys you are hoping to be giving you attention, or something else is wrong that you may not see. Maybe your confidence makes them nervous or maybe something else I don't know. Maybe these girls are doing more than you think to get these guys attention. Guys will approach girls sure, but girls need to do some of the work to.

[Asker]

Yeah maybe but I’ve been out with my friends just talking to them and out of nowhere a guy will ask to pull them aside. They did literally nothing.

[johnmavick]

My honest opinion is that you should really start taking a look at your food choices for example at the amount , type and frequency in which you eat. This should be all taken into consideration and look into taking walks or hitting weights at the gym. Train mostly legs, they are the biggest muscle therefore use the most energy to create muscle therefore burning fat like crazy. Good diet and hitting legs and you'll be begging guys to stop chasing you around

[Asker]

I mean even large and medium women get hit on. I eat healthily and exercise.

[MementoMori777]

Sounds like a guys life 😂

Ever tried making the first move?

[Asker]

Yes and the guys I try to approach always seem confused and it just ends up being awkward.

[Asker]

Guys can literally go up to anyone and get a date

[MementoMori777]

If that's what you think then you don't know the situations most guys have, most attractive guys get dates easily but this is a problem a lot of guys deal with, things are awkward cause you make it awkward, have a topic and conversation and everything will fall into place if it's meant to be that way.

[Asker]

I have a topic of conversation usually I’ll start with a compliment then comment on it ask about what they’re doing, they look at me weird, sometimes we’ll get into a decent convo but they’ll never ask for my number before I go or approach me on their own later.

[Asker]

Comment on or ask what**

[MementoMori777]

You are approaching them with interest so them asking for your number is weird and unlikely, I recommend you don't ask them what they are doing cause a woman approaching them is probably very uncommon and it will make the situation awkward cause they are uncertain on what's going on, just tell them your compliment and when you want the number say you want to get to know them more and see where it goes from there

[RealMarek]

It must be the body language or facial expressions you are projecting. Have you tried online dating? It might be a way to make connections without being in a crowded setting.

[Lis-the-librarian]

Upload your picture and let us see what you are working with

[Asker]

only dumbass put their face on this shit knowing you can’t deleted it. Some of you need to learn about a digital foodprint

[Lis-the-librarian]

I can see why guys would choose others over you.

Nothing wrong with having your regular pic online, we are not that important, nobody cares. Or dont post it, if you dont want to.

Just asking what is wrong with you without letting us know anything about you seems kind of fruitless.

[Asker]

If you don’t see something wrong with having your face attached to a personal post online you’re fucking weird. It’s crazy that you thinks regard for not having all your business out online equates to not attracting men.

[Lis-the-librarian]

Do you also hide your face when speaking in public?
Im all for not posting bikini or otherwise exposing pics.

Also, it think its a good thing. People are always pieces of 💩 when hiding behind anonymity.

Your personality and manners that show from they way you choose to speak are making me have an idea why men dont approach you, not that you dont post pictures.

[MCheetah]

@Asker
You can upload your picture on ImgBB as a temporary post and have it auto-deleted after a certain time has passed. Or just uploaded a censored version that covers your eyes or only shows the bottom half of your face or something.

And I don't know what a digital foodprint is, but it sounds delicious!

I also agree with @Lis-the-librarian; all this cursing and ratchet-ass language is the total opposite of "happy and joyful." Sounds like the language an angry ghetto feminist c*nt would use, to be honest. Not necessarily that say that's you, but that's what all that cursing sounds like, and I wouldn't want to flirt with a girl with an attitude that sh*tty, no matter how she looked.

Seriously, what's with all the sand in your vagina? Is all that cursing necessary?

[Asker]

@MCheetah Good think I’m not trying to attract assholes like you.

[Asker]

This question is litterally stating I don’t feel like I get attention from men, why would I attract my face to that? If you don’t see a difference between this and a selfie online to your personal self curated account then I fear for what you post on the internet freely. My personalities pretty good in person, been told that my entire life from everyone I talk to. I was in a shit mood when you commented to responded a bit harshly, you responded

[Asker]

In an aggressive tone back so I can’t back down then might as well just go all the way out.

[FilmGuy93]

I'm sorry you're going through this! A lot of guys just don't approach women in person, on general principle.

[Berethor]

You sounds fine, but maybe there something that you don't tell us or you just unlucky.

[zagor]

Where do you go to meet men? Many men are reluctant to approach women in a lot of RL situations because they don't want to be seen as harassers.

[BJP21]

Eye contact is key. Make eye contact with your target. If your staring straight at a bar mirror we are going to assume you're off limits.

[Asker]

I’ll look at them, they’ll look at me. Then they’ll go about their business.

[ArtemisSilver]

Maybe you don't come off as approachable. I'd be happy to talk to you about your situation in more detail. Dm me 🙂

[Katyalov]

Work on your self worth and self esteem. Your worth is not dependent on how many guys you have chasing you

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Be outgoing. Go and ask men out. It’s not as fashionable but it’s in the First Habit (Be Proactive) of Highly Effective People.

[Twalli]

For starters you're a toothpick if you're 117 at 5'7". I'm 5'4" and 130, and considered at a healthy weight.

[Brando10222]

I haven't seen you and I don't know you personally so can't say

[HighValue]

You could just ask them out instead.

[ManHater]

Did you brush your teeth?

[Asker]

everyday and chew gum like a regular person🤦‍♀️

[ManHater]

Then, what's the problem? Do you smile? Have you considered your demeanor when you interact with people?

[Asker]

Im always very friendly and social. I always look like I’m in a good mood and I make friends easily so I doubt it’s now I interact with people. I don’t know why no one approaches me?

[Anonymous]

You're emotionally unavailable.

[Asker]

I’m not but, even if I was how would they know that from looking at me. Makes no sense

[Opinion Owner]

You think you're not. But in reality you are. What separates you from these other women is they're going on the offense. Guys have feelings to. Guys like attention. These other women make them feel wanted (even it's all an act. Because inexperienced Guys really can't tell when a woman is being genuine or just acting). You want Guys to pay attention to you you're going to have to start giving them a reason to. But you don't have to take my advice. What you're doing is clearly working for you. 🙃🤣

[Asker]

I've given them attanetion and they acted confused and don’t talk to me again. I’ve taken your advice and it doesn’t help🤷‍♀️

[Opinion Owner]

🤣🤣🤣 you think you give them attention. So many young women make this mistake. They never want to put forth enough effort. Like I said you don't have to take my advice. Because what you're doing already is clearly working. 🙂👍

[Asker]

I’ll walk up to them, compliment them and start conversation. I would consider that someone giving me attention if someone did that to me. What do you expect me to do, walk up and kiss the guy?

[Opinion Owner]

No. I expect you to approach guys who want you to approach them. If going up and complimenting every woman worked every guy would do it. You must be approaching the wrong guys.

[Asker]

No guys give me signals they want me to approach them. I said that in the original question description, men don’t bat an eye at me.

[Opinion Owner]

None at all? Or just guys you really have no interest in? Because I'm not telling you have to approach those guys. But what I am saying is beggars can't be choosers. If absolutely no guys truly are approaching you or showing interest in you then you're left with 2 options. Approach whoever and hope for the best (and don't be surprised by the rejection). Or simply don't date.
Not the answer you want I'm sure but you can't make people want you. All you can do is put the best version of you out there. And put in a sid effort. And learn to accept rejection. Cause that's a part of life.

[Loser94]

That's pretty much how I feel to regarding woman

[MyDreamsAreNotDead]

i think you are excessive selective

[Asker]

How am I selective. Only rejected 1 guys one of which was mentally ill and violent the other of which smelled like literal ass.

[MyDreamsAreNotDead]

Tens or hundreds of guys text every girl on social media

[Asker]

Yeah but those aren’t actual options. Dating whatever rando slides in to your dms who lives 2 states away makes no sense.

[MyDreamsAreNotDead]

How do you know if one of them is your soul mate?

[Asker]

No one meet their soulmate on a Instagram dm. Soulmates don’t exist your gonna be compatible with millions of people. On top of that if he was my soulmate , I wouldn't be able to miss him.

[MyDreamsAreNotDead]

I think you deserve your current situation and you will continue to live in the same way for many years.