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I don't. What if the person you are talking to ends up before you even start dating proper, to be a waste of time? What if through talking to them you find out you're not overall compatible.
If you have a couple of people talking to you around the same time why shouldn't anyone give each person a shot and see which person they are ultimately best suited for?
Technically until you are officially in a relationship you're still single. I find that people who say you can only talk to one person at a time are just insecure about being compared to other people and scared of competition.
I agree with you, until things are talked about and made official, then I still date other people.
When I lived in the city, I would often have a date each night with a different person, don't do that anymore as I don't live in the city and don't want to drive in each day.
Once we talk about it and decide to make it official, all others become friends and no more dating or if they don't want to be friends then this happens.
Yeah some people are different on that threshold. Iām the same way. If I am really into someone then I probably aināt really thinking about anyone else.
Like you said though if youāre not committed. I might explore what I like and my options and when I really start liking one person try to make it exclusive.
No you should entertain anyone you want until you both agree you are committed to each other.
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If youāre just ātalkingā, there is no need for exclusivity.
Nope but I wouldnāt have them in my place or my pantsā¦
Well, yes obviously unless you want to make it official that we are B/F & G/F, then we BOTH have every right to continue to date other people. However I donāt know what you mean by āapply pressureā? Unless Iām bleeding, I donāt want anyone applying pressure to me either physically or emotionally. Youāll forgive my ignorance here, but to me it evokes images of a very controlling person. Now, Iām sure Iām wrong given the context, but what exactly does āapplying Pressureā mean?
Thanks in advance, Laura.
Depends on your goals. If youāre looking for āthe oneā, then you should understand a few things. First, youāre not as special as you think you are. Of course you donāt owe anything, but youāre also not owed anything. Second, if youāre dividing your time and energy, nobody is getting the best of you. Why should they give you the best of themselves for just a bit of you, and possibly NOT even the best bit? Ell oh ell! Lastly, āundivided attentionā does not equate to a commitment to one person. It equates to your commitment to find one person. If youāre not looking for that one, then youāre absolutely right. But treating everyone you meet like a casual dalliance will not attract people looking for commitment or compel such people to stick around to find out more about you. Casual effort begets casual results. It has never been otherwise and it never will.
The third date either equals exclusive LTR or end it and move on in my opinion.
If they have not been together in person yet or have no plans for a second + date then talking to others doesn't matter.
I'm a firm believer that if you're not in a relationship and you're just talking or dating casually you can see and sleep with whoever you want if you have a problem with the person you're dating talking to other people or sleeping with other people it's time for you to have a talk with them and maybe make it official. If they have a problem with that it's time to let them go.
I guess that depends from person to person.
Now me personally, I wouldn't entertain others while I'm talking to one person, but I wouldn't expect the same from them. However once it goes past the talking stage, which for menmeans generally past the second or third date or post any physical intimacy (yes just kissing also counts), after this point I'd be out off if they're still seeing others.
Well it depends, I mean it's for your own benefit really, if a guy sees that you are talking to multiple at the same time as him he might lose interest and move on so I guess it depends if it's worth it to you.
s I just like to focus my energy on the person Iām getting to know and I would like for him to do the same, because that tells me heās serious about wanting to get to know MEā¦
No, if you are not exclusively dating then you don't owe them loyalty. I would just keep seeing other people until you come across someone who wants to be exclusive with you and someone that you see a future with.
I talk to as many people as I like until
thereās only one I think about all the time.
"I don't believe u are entitled to my undivided attention if u not applying pressure." I don't understand this statement. Can you explain, please?
I was under the impression that pressure was bad.
s I personally only focus on one person at a time. I dont want to be juggling multiple people at once. Otherwise I get information mixed up.
Nah. Unless it's official you should always keep your options open and date whoever you want.
I think it is better to have clean hands going in. If I am having serious thoughts about you and getting receptive signals back then I would rather not have entanglements to untangle.
You're a free agent until you decide you're not, and that has to do with whomever you're talking to as well.
You should talk to whoever youād like. When itās official then yes you can stop, but until then Iād say itās okay.
Unless they happen to be Mr. or Ms popular why would it even be assumed they were talking to someone else? Popular types have popular options. Those were the types they may have been popular but not popular with me.
Nope. The talking stage is nothing. As a guy you need to talk to lots of women at once to find someone who's serious about you.
I think it's irrelevant what I believe in this matter because that doesn't mean she has the same belief. I will say this though. If you hold that belief for yourself. Then the same belief should be allowed for him.
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