Do u believe that if you're in a talking stage with someone , that u shouldn't entertain anyone else?

[TheeTrybrid]

Why or why not? Personally I believe I'm single until we make it official and establish a relationship. I don't believe u are entitled to my undivided attention if u not applying pressure 🤷🏾‍♀️ u are not owed my loyalty till we are locked in. We may not even make it past the talking stage and u think you're the only one I'm gonna date? No sir but share your thoughts

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[mandyfire98]

I don't. What if the person you are talking to ends up before you even start dating proper, to be a waste of time? What if through talking to them you find out you're not overall compatible.

If you have a couple of people talking to you around the same time why shouldn't anyone give each person a shot and see which person they are ultimately best suited for?

Technically until you are officially in a relationship you're still single. I find that people who say you can only talk to one person at a time are just insecure about being compared to other people and scared of competition.

[savagewolf22]

Mandy you didn't make my dream comes true yet. 😔

[mandyfire98]

Huh? What you talking about?

[TheeTrybrid]

I think he's flirting Mandy lol

[savagewolf22]

@mandyfire98

You forgot old days were I used to hold your hands and we stare to the moon together.

After sex 😜

[mandyfire98]

Sir, we have never even met much less had sexual relations.

[savagewolf22]

Ma'am we had.😜

[TheeTrybrid]

Okay yeah he's trolling

[savagewolf22]

@theetrybrid

No ma'am I'm not trolling
I swear of @mandyfire98 boobs.

[savagewolf22]

@mandyfire98

I gave you more than I gave myself,
So loyal to you that I betrayed myself.😔😘

[mandyfire98]

Sir this is a Wendy's

[savagewolf22]

Mandy you were looking sexy last night 😘

[mandyfire98]

Now it's definitely trolling

[savagewolf22]

Mandy no i saw you in my dream last night... you were looking hot in bikini. 😘

[Aerissa_Jade]

I agree with you, until things are talked about and made official, then I still date other people.

When I lived in the city, I would often have a date each night with a different person, don't do that anymore as I don't live in the city and don't want to drive in each day.

Once we talk about it and decide to make it official, all others become friends and no more dating or if they don't want to be friends then this happens.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah some people are different on that threshold. I’m the same way. If I am really into someone then I probably ain’t really thinking about anyone else.

Like you said though if you’re not committed. I might explore what I like and my options and when I really start liking one person try to make it exclusive.

[coachTanthony]

No you should entertain anyone you want until you both agree you are committed to each other.

[Fuentes]

Lol who hating on you

[coachTanthony]

@Fuentes Someone who is secretly in love with me I think. lol

[spartan55]

@coachTanthonyI
Like death and taxes downvotes everytime for you...😂

[coachTanthony]

@spartan55 You know that's right

[Avicenna]

If you’re just „talking“, there is no need for exclusivity.

[Guy13]

Nope but I wouldn’t have them in my place or my pants…

[CrazyGirl2]

Well, yes obviously unless you want to make it official that we are B/F & G/F, then we BOTH have every right to continue to date other people. However I don’t know what you mean by “apply pressure”? Unless I’m bleeding, I don’t want anyone applying pressure to me either physically or emotionally. You’ll forgive my ignorance here, but to me it evokes images of a very controlling person. Now, I’m sure I’m wrong given the context, but what exactly does “applying Pressure” mean?
Thanks in advance, Laura.

[TheeTrybrid]

🤣🤣🤣 Laura apply pressure is basically a way of "becoming serious" about being with someone and "chasing" them. Like the normal things a man would do to let u know he wants u and only u

[CrazyGirl2]

Oh, okay thanks. I’ll definitely remember that going forward. I truly appreciate you letting me know.

[TheeTrybrid]

Of course 🤗🤗 no problem

[Chazmatazz269]

Depends on your goals. If you’re looking for “the one”, then you should understand a few things. First, you’re not as special as you think you are. Of course you don’t owe anything, but you’re also not owed anything. Second, if you’re dividing your time and energy, nobody is getting the best of you. Why should they give you the best of themselves for just a bit of you, and possibly NOT even the best bit? Ell oh ell! Lastly, “undivided attention” does not equate to a commitment to one person. It equates to your commitment to find one person. If you’re not looking for that one, then you’re absolutely right. But treating everyone you meet like a casual dalliance will not attract people looking for commitment or compel such people to stick around to find out more about you. Casual effort begets casual results. It has never been otherwise and it never will.

[spartan55]

@Chazmatazz269
Well said sir.

[Lkid23]

Finally answer with some sense. 💯

[TheeTrybrid]

I disagree with you but i respect what u said

[Jamie05rhs]

@AmandaYVR What do you think about this?

[HighValue]

The third date either equals exclusive LTR or end it and move on in my opinion.

If they have not been together in person yet or have no plans for a second + date then talking to others doesn't matter.

[Blackmoonsns]

I'm a firm believer that if you're not in a relationship and you're just talking or dating casually you can see and sleep with whoever you want if you have a problem with the person you're dating talking to other people or sleeping with other people it's time for you to have a talk with them and maybe make it official. If they have a problem with that it's time to let them go.

[AdithyaR]

I guess that depends from person to person.
Now me personally, I wouldn't entertain others while I'm talking to one person, but I wouldn't expect the same from them. However once it goes past the talking stage, which for menmeans generally past the second or third date or post any physical intimacy (yes just kissing also counts), after this point I'd be out off if they're still seeing others.

[MementoMori777]

Well it depends, I mean it's for your own benefit really, if a guy sees that you are talking to multiple at the same time as him he might lose interest and move on so I guess it depends if it's worth it to you.

[TheeTrybrid]

If he gets upset about me entertain ing other guys when he's not being serious about me then he can kiss my ass cuz if we aren't official , I'm going to do what I want

[MementoMori777]

Well you are free to do so but if it's seen as a red flag then there's nothing you can really do about that so, whatever floats your boat I guess

[TheeTrybrid]

There is something I can do and it's move on and/or talk to another man who is actually serious. But hey if u want to deal with that, be my guest... to each their own

[MementoMori777]

I'm talking about guys that are serious, if you are talking to multiple, you will look like the one that isn't serious and that can cause a misunderstanding, that's what I'm trying to say

[TheeTrybrid]

Oh okay okay I understand

[Blackcupcake]

I just like to focus my energy on the person I’m getting to know and I would like for him to do the same, because that tells me he’s serious about wanting to get to know ME…

[Jamie05rhs]

And that's totally fair, as long as you two make that agreement with one another.

[Labokachulaa]

No, if you are not exclusively dating then you don't owe them loyalty. I would just keep seeing other people until you come across someone who wants to be exclusive with you and someone that you see a future with.

[Jamie05rhs]

Even if you do see a future with them, if they're not on board then it doesn't make any difference.

[Labokachulaa]

That's why I just said keep it moving until you find someone.

[Jamie05rhs]

Yeah; I know. I was just clarifying that I could see a future with a girl but if she doesn't want to be with me then she doesn't really deserve my loyalty. Just my opinion.

[Labokachulaa]

Well, yes that's the point.. they don't deserve your loyalty until there's a commitment and more behind it. Lol most people date thinking the other person owes them loyalty. That's not how it works. Lol I'm glad we're on the same page.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay; cool. :)

[SphynxUK]

I talk to as many people as I like until
there’s only one I think about all the time.

[loveslongnails]

You're a free agent until you decide you're not, and that has to do with whomever you're talking to as well.

[Jamie05rhs]

"I don't believe u are entitled to my undivided attention if u not applying pressure." I don't understand this statement. Can you explain, please?
I was under the impression that pressure was bad.

[TheeTrybrid]

So if a guy isn't texting me or calling me or taking me out on dates , and not only telling me but showing me he wants to be exclusive , I'm not gonna be in a talking stage with just him. Every heard of the statement "if he wanted too , he would" ? If he's not doing the bare minimum like what I said above , he's not serious and I'm not gonna wait on him to decide when he wants to talk when I can have a man that will make sure he does all this cuz I'm what he really wants.

[Jamie05rhs]

@TheeTrybrid. Okay. I see what you're saying. (I just strongly disagree with the terminology that you used.)

So basically, both of y'all are playing games. You both need to stop being petty and just sit down and talk and find out where you stand with one another.

[TheeTrybrid]

I never play games unless I find out you're playing them

[Jamie05rhs]

Yeah, but that's not good either way.

[TheeTrybrid]

It is what it is

[petitedollbabee]

I personally only focus on one person at a time. I dont want to be juggling multiple people at once. Otherwise I get information mixed up.

[sheikalana]

Nah. Unless it's official you should always keep your options open and date whoever you want.

[RavVid]

I think it is better to have clean hands going in. If I am having serious thoughts about you and getting receptive signals back then I would rather not have entanglements to untangle.

[catiecatie]

You should talk to whoever you’d like. When it’s official then yes you can stop, but until then I’d say it’s okay.

[SpokenTruth]

Unless they happen to be Mr. or Ms popular why would it even be assumed they were talking to someone else? Popular types have popular options. Those were the types they may have been popular but not popular with me.

[ArtemisSilver]

Nope. The talking stage is nothing. As a guy you need to talk to lots of women at once to find someone who's serious about you.

[Anonymous]

I think it's irrelevant what I believe in this matter because that doesn't mean she has the same belief. I will say this though. If you hold that belief for yourself. Then the same belief should be allowed for him.

[Twalli]

You are in the talking stage and everything is fair game. If you have a friends with benefits and you're in the talking stage with someone else, you can continue fucking you friends with benefits.

[OddBeMe]

I think all participants of said relationships know when they’re supposed to be exclusive. Usually it coincides with sex…but I may be more prudish in my older age.

[Fuentes]

If u single u got freedom but dudes should not turn known hoes into housewives I'm not doing that.

[TheeTrybrid]

Lol y'all love hoes so why not cuff em

[prosmind]

Don't confine yourself to very limited circle, you are living in a world where isolation is impossible.

[Lkid23]

Why don’t you go one person at a time? It’s just disrespectful to date multiple people at the same time. Why would anyone do that?

[Alex8736]

if there are multiple people you keep it simple to explore each option

[Z1pTD]

Until you're official and at least somewhat public yeah free range

[Anonymous]

For me I'm single until i marry,
And I'm not gonna marry. Lol

[TheeTrybrid]

😂😂😂 u may chage your mind when u become middle aged

[Opinion Owner]

No never ma'am..
I'm not committed guy I can't spoil girls life. I believe in Karma ma'am.

[Songomatic]

Explore your options and make an accurate choice. So do what is best for you

[Veronica1111]

Yes simply out of respect

[LiamJHayden]

I'm a free agent till I sign.

[Noahzaid]

Yes!