Is it possible to friend zone yourself?

[Anonymous]

Ok, context. I have no game whatsoever and rarely ever get a second date because of it. And yet I got a couple dates with this really pretty girl and have had somewhat of a thing going for a while. I got really drunk one night and the next day I found out I texted her "I appreciate our friendship" and "I don't really connect with people the way I do with you". To me this feels like "I like our friendship, so let's be friends". But is that what it seems like I said?

[ShadezMcgee]

Yes, that is how guys tend to get in the friend zone. You as a man need to let the girl you like know that you are interested romantically and want more than friendship.

This doesn't mean you tell her you love her or anything like that. It goes along the lines of, "Hey, I am interested in something more than friendship and would like to see where it goes. Let's go on a date and see what happens." While on the date you need to have a level of flirtation and fun and you need to reciprocate touch if she touches you first (That is important. No touchy unless she touches you first.) If the vibe is right, go for the kiss. Either you get turned down or she will return it. You will have your answer then and you would have demonstrated you had the confidence and balls to try.

[SnowedIn]

It doesn't sound like friend zone but it sure sounds awkward. I'd go on another date soon (when you're not drunk) so she sees and understands that you weren't friend zoning her/yourself but that you really do connect.

[Asker]

I'm less worried about the awkwardness because that fits with other conversations we've had lol. It was mainly the "appreciate friendship" part that sent me spiraling.

[Guy13]

Never heard of that.

[Avicenna]

Nope

[LiamJHayden]

It sounds like you friend zoned her.

[Iron_Man]

What?

[Asker]

what doesn't make sense so I can clarity

[Asker]

^^Clarify

[Anonymous]

I don't think so