Why is dating so mentally draining?

[Anonymous]

I see all the hoops people have to jump through just to find someone. Like, how do you all do it? What motivates you to keep going?

[MCheetah]

Women's standards are too high and entitled, and men's standards are too low and desperate. I quit dating or pursing a partner for a few years now; I'm too short for women to desire apparently (180 cm), and I'm sick of the expectation of either being a loser simp to some ungrateful 5 out of 10 looking woman, or being told from women I'm too short to deserve love and should die alone.

I think I told you, OP, this before, but also told you you're not that old or unattractive looking to find a desperate simp man of your own; there's no such thing as a woman who can't find a good man out there. They just don't want good men; they want perfect men. But I don't blame you for giving up; I have too. Too many women out there are lesbians/dykes, e-whores, feminist c*nts, or trannies. And too many men out there are soy boys, simps, cuckolds, pedos, or sick degenerates.

It's better to be single and true to who you are, than with someone who doesn't truly want you or love you.

[virtue2332]

Like you said there can be a lot of hoops. Take it one hoop at a time and be happy you are one hoop closer to that one. You will get better at jumping through the hoops and you will learn how to pick yourself up faster if you fall. Focus on the positive and you will see more positive outcomes and try to enjoy some of those hoops along the way it might be worth the experience.

[Adaeva]

I don't have difficulty getting dates and they are seldom stressful.

[Anonymous]

It's not to me. I have a strict rule. I never put anymore effort into a woman than she's willing to put into me. Since 90% of women aren't interested to begin with. And since 90% of those women don't want to put equal effort forth that means I typically date about 1% of women. Well when you know yours odds are that low you really don't expect success. 😆😆😆

[Weapon77]

Because most people make it unnecessarily difficult now. It's like a philosophy or math test when it's supposed to be a chemistry experiment haha

[dowser19]

Because in the West, it's dead. I'm just being honest. Those who are just about money only, being a fuckboy, or straight pimping... aren't stressed. That's the truth.

[BJP21]

Not having high hopes until it becomes official with that person of interest.

[Ryfyle]

Nah, I think its a you problem.

[Asker]

Eh…probably 🤷‍♀️

[ProVox]

The booty motivates.

[Anonymous]

What hoops?

[Asker]

Like, you have to do so much just to impress someone in order for them to make you their potential partner.

[jimmy2]

Man it's been tough