My boyfriend is into Bedouin women?

[Anonymous]

Today I asked my boyfriend what other types of girls he likes. he told me that he is into bedouin women and to be honest he had always been sexually attracted to bedouin women. I'm a white woman and I felt very insecure. I wish I was Middle Eastern or North African 😔😔 I love my boyfriend more than anything... so if I can tomorrow I'm going to buy traditional bedouin dresses, dye my hair dark brown, wear brown lenses, wearing kohl and start going to the solarium. I'm so afraid of losing him...

[NamerOfStars]

Okay, STOP! Yes, he is attracted to Bedouin women, which you are not. He is also (presumably) attracted to YOU- if not, he wouldn't be with you, would he?- which you are. If you're going to insist on being the ONLY person, or type of person, who you're partner's attracted to, I'm going to tell you right now that you're wasting your time; that's never going to happen.

Suppose he was attracted to blondes, which you weren't, and hair dye didn't exist. Do you really think he'd find something like hair color a dealbreaker? It's the same thing here. You're not a 100% match for his ideal in terms of physical attractiveness; do you honestly find HIM practically perfect in every way? We all have our flaws; don't let acknowledgement of them spoil what could otherwise be a wonderful thing.

So find what else he wants in a partner, and strive to be that. Physically, you are, at the very worst "good enough". Making radical changes to the way you look might jeopardize that, especially if it's something that doesn't look as good on you as it does on them (a change of clothing is probably fine; be wary of anything that takes a lot of time or money to undo). But there's a lot more to being a good girlfriend than how you look; if you're feeling concerned, find other aspects of what he wants and do your best to fulfill those.

Learn to cook a favorite food of his, or how to give a good massage. Ask him to tell you about an interest of his you don't know much about.

[Anonymous]

Ok first of all have some respect for yourself. Be proud of who you are. If he wants that type of woman he will seek out that type of woman. Just cause he likes other women doesn’t mean he’s going to leave. You screwed up by asking that question to begin w. I don’t know what kind of answer you were expecting from him. I have a Hispanic girlfriend, but I also love white women, Indian women, Asian, etc, but I have not left my girl.

[In_Trance]

So what's your question?

[Asker]

He loves bedouin women what should I do?