Why do guys get turned off whenever a woman shows a lot of interest? (Page 2)

[Paul09]

Maybe he thought of you as a friend? Wasn't interested in you romantically? Has nothing to do with you asking. If a girl I was interested in , asked ne out , I'd be so happy.

[Akam93]

Because some men dont like it when a woman comes on to strong.

[Camson22]

Personally I dont, if you're really interested in me then I like that, as long as you aren't crazy and dont get crazy. It is a big turn off if you start acting like a deranged person.

[MountAverage]

Oh, so because your personal experiences were like that, it means men in general are like that? Wow.

[Philyouup]

it’s all subjective. and it’s painting with a wide brush.

[Shiningtempest]

Some guys get turned off whenever a woman shows a lot of interest because he knew from the start she's incompatible with her

[Surely]

Sometimes the difference between showing interest and being clingy is a fine line.

[Anonymous]

Here's a hint: when he issues a "cease and desist" order, it's time to back off.

[Figurine89]

Some guys don't like it when a woman plays the "man" part. Others do

[Asker]

He asked me to both dates we went on. All I ever did was show interest

[Figurine89]

Right, they don't want the woman playing the "man" part. That's just how some men are

[Asker]

Showing interest is playing the man part?

[Asker]

By showing interest I mean I was flirtatious when we talked

[Figurine89]

Yeah, he just feels like he should be the one chasing, not you

[Asker]

The problem is you’re reviewing any remote amount of interest as chasing. If you want to chase someone who’s completely uninterested - why? That’s not playing the man part that’s just chasing. There’s a difference between being the lead of a relationship and chasing someone.

[Asker]

And I strongly believe that anything aside from complete disinterest shouldn’t be seen as chasing. Is talking to someone chasing? I don’t think so.

[Asker]

Seems to me like you’re probably one of those people that pulls away when someone shows too much interest. For that I appreciate your answer as it really helps me understand. If your answer is right I think needing to be a man can also be a sign of insecurity. If you need to “be a man” to even be in a relationship that seems like a problem. An insecurity or ego problem at that.

[Figurine89]

I'm just telling you what he's likely doing

[Asker]

Yeah I guess I’m just shocked cause he definitely hopped on chances to be the man before. And somehow those chances still didn’t make him feel manly enough.

[Anonymous]

I feel the same way. And its because it takes us out of control. We know what women want. Gifts, free food, endless attention. Its like a job.

[Anonymous]

Maybe your case was particular, I would love a woman chasing me, would be a great turn on

[sheenagwapa]

he is just not into you

[Shamalien]

Women do the same thing. It’s human nature

[Asker]

Is it really human nature though or is it an indicator of insecurity. I don’t get why someone being very interested would be a bad thing to someone who is genuinely confident about themselves - shouldn’t confident people expect that kind of thing?

[Shamalien]

It’s messed up. If you’re interested in a person and their returned interest in you makes you pull away you need therapy in my opinion. My ex did this to me. Showed me more interest than I showed her and when I began returning it she began to pull away. This is why people play eachother…because it seems that’s the best way to keep a partner around. I fucking hate games though so I’ll wait until I find someone who is as mature as I

[Asker]

I feel the same frustration. It helps to know the problem is them though and not you

[Shamalien]

It does…a bit at least. Still fucking hurts tho doesn’t it x. x

[panamared1]

Some guys like the chase

[Anonymous]

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