Is it possible for someone to be Instantly interested when first meeting me or should it built up over time. Is that suspicious?

[laurlaur101]

[Guy13]

Why are both not possibilities?

[RavVid]

There can be instant mutual attraction and chemistry. It might be uncommon but it is not suspicious.

[laurlaur101]

They seem interested quickly but than later on dropped me and no longer talks to me

[RavVid]

Well that can happen too. You quite possibly have been fascinated by some guy than lost all interest when he has shown himself to be a dork.

I don't think it hurts to see if someone is sufficiently interested to stick around. If there is instant attraction/chemistry than it is pretty obvious on both sides and I think both will be willing to wait a little. The dividing line for me is if the girl is going to continue to be in my social space.

If she is a random girl at a club then I will just go with it. If she is a friend of a friend I am going to be more cautious. I'll want to see if she is flaky or has some character because for some reason I have a vulnerability for flaky girls and it never ends well.

The net upshot is you have instant attraction but take the time to also build it up in slower time.

[GOOSEBOY78]

yes. it is possible its rare but it does happen