Is that a joke or he is being serious?

[Anonymous]

There's a guy I met online. We've been talk about many things.. We have many same opinions about many things. He is under my age about 7 years under my age. He ask me "If someday he propose to me. Will I marry him or not?". Is that a joke or he is serious?

[Finchie40]

I guess it’s a little bit of both but all in all he is just testing you and seeing if you like him more than just a friend and seeing if he has a chance with you. in a way he is flirting with you , I came across girls that I had a lot in common with and very attracted to that gave me the butterfly feelings that come very rarely , so when I get that feeling about a girl I go for it , I feel like this is my opportunity to let her see me before it’s to late , and unsure if I will get this chance again , but the reality of it is, I barely know her , so jokingly I would ask her would you marry me with a smile on my face letting her know how infatuated I am about her by flirting and joking with her , to basically see her reaction on her face , if she smiles and laughs at me that’s an indication for me to keep pursuing her in a way it breaks the ice , if she is freaked out and turned off by that comment to me she isn’t really into me like I am to her and feel she doesn’t have a good personality and doesn’t get my sense of humor , it’s a silly way of letting a girl know you like her so I stopped using that line lol because I am not going to marry a girl I barely know. When a guy really likes a girl he tends To say stupid shit cuz his mind is racing of things to say to get her attention and to get her to notice him, why so many guys are nervous to approach a girl they are very attracted to , his mind is racing with so many things and he doesn’t want to say the wrong thing and then take the chance of being shut down and embarrassed if she denies him or her calling him a creep , so that’s why so many guys don’t take the chance. So that comment is basically hinting to you that he likes you and to see if he has a chance or to see if he is just wasting his time. Sadly in most cases something you girls need to know about men , we can’t just be friends with a girl , we can if we aren’t investing a lot of our time into her but when a guy is investing a lot of his time into her he wants to be more than just friends most girls’ are blind to this and will think oh he is just a friend , when really he wants to be more than that , he is only a friend if he isn’t reaching out to her all the time , so if this guy is reaching out to you a lot throughout the week he more than likely wants to be more than just friends with you , He probably already pictured you naked in his arms and pictured having sex with you and kissing you sorry to sound dirty but that’s how guys our made we aren’t going to waste our time with a girl that we aren’t interested in , why girl’s that are in relationships should limit opposite sex friends out of respect for her partner , us guys know what other guys are thinking just like you girls know what other girls are thinking . They did a study on this and sadly it points to being true , so remember if you get into a relationship with a man you are best to limit your opposite sex friends especially the ones trying to invest a lot of their time into you , same goes for guys that are in relationships with opposite sex friends. There have been so many times when I was out in public just having fun and mingling with people and being friendly to a girl , not hitting on her in the least and she took it the wrong way that I was flirting with her and me not having a clue that she looked at it that way , the same goes for a girl being friendly with a guy and him taking it the wrong way thinking she is into him.

[Asker]

Wow. You explain it clearly. Thank you for your good advice. Love it

[SamIam96]

Judging emotions online is not easy. It sounds like he's asking a provocative question to start a discussion. When he asks, how do you respond? I suggest you take the bait. Use it as the beginning of a meaningful conversation about your relationship.

[Guy13]

He’s testing your feelings.

[Asker]

For what reason?

[Guy13]

Guys typically are trying to understand your feelings for them personally, your general propensity for sex, and your track record.

[magiusX26]

rewrittingnyour question with all the details you needed to provide

"i met a guy and he asked me the question (i were to propose to you would you accept?) . was he joking?"

likely he was not. its most likely a case of asking where hevstands as far as your feelings are concerned.

[Asker]

So, what do I do? If I say no, I am afraid that i don't have a friend like him anymore. It's hard to find a person who has many same opinions like mine.. I like him but as a friend, never think in a romantic way.. but, I don't know, maybe in the future I can accept that.

[magiusX26]

repeat what you just said to me to him

[Asker]

It's not gonna hurt him right?

[magiusX26]

there is no way to keep fro. hurting his feelings but at least you are not leading him on, you are being honest with him, not wasting your's or his time. and before you ask, he may never speak to you again but then again he mite. also this may help him open up if he has/had any doubts about a relationship with you too which could turn out to be its a more mutual agreement to split too.

as for hurting his feelings, further info/advice, sorry but going through life trying to never hurt another's feelings (especially someone you have positive feelings about) is not realistically possible. sure you could try but that will only result in you staying always unduely overstressed out and still in the end hurt feelings. it will also lead to sort of being a type of fake person as you will only be presenting a false self to everyone and in the process loose yourself. it will cause you to become a liar of sorts as well, mostly by lies told to yourself.

[boggboss]

Most likely likes u and was seeing this to see how u feel so not wanting to marry u now but see how u feel towards him

[Asker]

Ok. Thanks for your response

[spartan55]

This is an online thing. If you are taking ANY of it seriously then you are clueless.

[Summeroflove]

Ask him

[Asker]

Ok. Will try

[Summeroflove]

Okay Asker wish you the best

[WhitneySnow]

I think he’s serious

[Iron_Man]

How long have you known him?

[Asker]

3 months..

[Iron_Man]

That’s impossible to want to marry, somebody within three months way to fast

[Asker]

Agree. Thanks for the comment. Just need someone to make sure

[Iron_Man]

You’re very welcome

[Anonymous]

I would hope it is just a joke.

[Asker]

I hope so.. because he is much younger than me

[magiusX26]

most likely not a joke. in fact this is a very common way us guys actually express feelings and this response is often how it gets treated. so that makes this kind of response a part of the general dating and romance problem plaguing society these days. basically it comes across as you more or less invalidating his feelings. we guys typically express our feelings differently from you gals. and a heads up fellas, just as am saying something to the ladies about how we express our feelings, that goes the other way too. tge ladies do not typically express theirs the same ways we do.