Would you date someone who has a roommate of the opposite sex?

[YourFutureEx]

In heterosexual relationships...

Yes

No

[AmandaYVR]

Yes. It means very little.

I was a single female and I unfortunately needed roommates after I left my parents' house and was starting out in my twenties for a while. I advertised my 2bdrm and almost all the people who applied were male. I allowed several to move in (one at a time.) Males at that age are messy, own almost nothing, and are flaky as shit. None ever stayed very long (which was very stressful, having to search all over again. Pro tip: A guy who has very little, moves in with very little, is a vagabond type, and also moves on without much notice.) I did become friendly with them, friends sometimes (sort ofl; we stayed up and had personal chats, sometimes) and I never slept with any of them.

People having opposite-sex friends is a good sign. They learn not to sexualize everyone of the opposite sex. They learn how to just be in each other's presence, and to empathize and understand them better.

[libsaretards]

I was an exception to this rule of yours. I did not have a lot of possessions, but that was due to being a military veteran and happy with very little. I am very clean and organized and give plenty of notice. However, I definitely agree with your point. Many guys like that are flaky.

Whenever I own my house and decide to rent out rooms, ladies will probably have first dibs on the rental. First, women tend to respect property rules a bit better. Also, women often have a hard time getting a start when they first live on their own so I'd like to do what I can to help. Finally, when it comes to renting to strangers, women are less of a threat.

[AmandaYVR]

@libsaretards That's good. Fair point.

I will also add that aside from living very briefly with my best friend for a few months here and there (and she would move out to be closer to school), I actually did overall prefer living with the guys. They stressed me out with the leaving and paying the rent flakiness (I was in no financial position to support some guy and that was really unfair of them to do that to me), however... the females really 'move in.' They have waaay more stuff, and all of a sudden they are decorating the living room and common areas with their stuff, inviting groups of girls over whenever they feel like it, cooking a lot more and taking up the kitchen all night... the list goes on. I felt like my place had been taken over, every time.

Guys go in their room more. Girls take over, with this "Well, it's 50% my place too, right." Girl, your name ain't on the lease. Mine is.

So, yeah, pros and cons.

But it's nice to hear your philosophies on it. Yes, I think females are conscientious about where they live.

P. S. It's curious to me how you have the correct paragraph returns between your paragraphs. I'm wondering how you managed that. Every since a GAG update a while ago, the paragraphs got squished together. And it used to be extra paragraphs if posting via iPad and app. Now it's reduced paragraphs even in the web version, no app.
So I'm doing a test here...
What devices are you using, and are you purposefully doubling the spacing between?

[libsaretards]

I just double the space between. I'm using my laptop

[Genie23]

I wouldn't get into a relationship with someone I didn't trust. So, I will just trust that his roommate doesn't think of him in that way and neither does he.

[Anonymous]

I've done this before. I thought I was being open minded. It was her ex who she still had feelings for, and I'll spare you the long story and say it didn't work out for us for obvious reasons.
But if it's a roommate and there's no history, I don't see a problem. I'm platonic friends with women, and it's unrealistic to expect someone to be rude to half the planet because of an insecurity.

[Guy13]

Nope, go ahead and marry him if you are going to roommate with him. We see no future in dating a woman who finds a man she can share a place with.

There’s obviously 🙄 an initial attraction, connection, or vibe. And, he passes her OCD Test and probably has slept with him too.
Either way, he obviously 🙄 has her heart. And the guy will constantly be measured by this roommate.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Sure why not, I've had male roommates before, even one was an ex boyfriend that I apparently turned gay, heh... we were and are still friends, but he moved back in after he broke up with his boyfriend for a few months to get things in order after that messy breakup and then moved out.

Only pervs would think that roommates always have sex with each other, that simply isn't true... besides someone could just as easily have sex with a same sex roommate.

[AviatorTom]

I have dated a woman who had a male roommate. No problem! They were just roommates. in her apartment, he helped her pay the rent.

[Rosexøxø]

heh

No I WOULD NOT 😂

[TenderFantasy]

That was part of the reason I broke up with a guy I was going out with in 2019. It's too intimate to have a roommate of the opposite sex. You don't live with them so you really don't know what is going on between the two, especially if the roommate is young and attractive. He was an asshole anyway and got defensive everytime I asked or complained about him being a bit too friendly with her. But at the same time, she wasn't the only one living with him, he had another girl and guy (that was a couple) in that apartment but still. It obviously made me uncomfortable but I wasn't that attracted to him anyway so it wasn't like a real loss.

[Screenwriter]

A Roommate is a "roommate." Not a sexual partner or relationship.

Now, it's true, there are some "roommates," who are more than roommates. If you spend enough time with someone, you'll find out what kind of relationship they have with their roommate.

Rely on your intuition and wisdom in the matter. And use your eyes and ears.

[Moose304]

No, I would not! If she wants to live as roommates with a man that is her business and I won't interfere with her and that decision. I also recognize this might have happened because of things she could not control. Still, she won't be my girlfriend. One thing I value in my life is for my relationships to be simple with limited drama. This situation at least from my point of view is a bad situation waiting on a place to happen!

[AimeeKyle]

Maybe. It depends on the situation. I was the one in college that made that happen…. One of my roommates left school and he sublet to the first person…. that happened to be a girl (and she was in shape and good looking). My other roommate’s girlfriend and my girlfriend were not to happy about it…. but we made it work…. and made it through the semester.

[ArrowheadSW]

I did date a nurse when I was finishing up college. She had a roommate who was also a nurse at the same hospital and he was a guy. I didn't think it was a big deal. We had sex when her roommate was working and not at home.

[Anonymous]

Once dated a guy who lived with his sister. Was a weird vibe between them so I ended it. Turned out they were doing it.

[JPresidente]

Yikes!!

[ohvanillalattegal]

Yikes how did you find out

[Opinion Owner]

@ohvanillalattegal they were caught out two years later but I was long gone

[ohvanillalattegal]

Like they were caught out on a date?

[Opinion Owner]

@ohvanillalattegal no caught f*cking in his car

[ohvanillalattegal]

Oh man that’s ugh… jw cuz sometime I get scare my recent partner might have an inappropriate relationship with his sis and it will disgusts / break my heart if it’s the same case.

[Kori1236]

I have. Just because the roommate is the opposite sex doesn’t mean they fuck eachother

[tfan1]

I love that picture. Either she caught him getting ready to pee or he just finished and she didn’t catch him with his pants down. Also looks like she was getting ready for shower or she just came out 👍🙂

[Kaneki05]

Of course. If a person is a cheater they would cheat with anyway regardless so it don't change anything.

[Anonymous]

NOPE. I was in a relationship with a girl who had a male roommate. All she talked about was the roommate and eventually cheated on me with him. So, never again.

[Sirenboobzilla]

It would be hypocritical of me to even think to say no as I've had a make roommate for 3 years

[TacosRAwesome]

Not at this point because I hope he's old enough to not have roommates but one of my exes had a girl flat mate at one point.

[Laura_Marx]

maybe it's different in Malta, but i think it would be hard to find a man in his 30s who is unmarried and has no roommates.

[TacosRAwesome]

@Laura_Marx i mean most live with their parents until marriage.

[Anonymous]

I have no problem with it. Most of my roommates in the past have been females. In the early 20s, women are a bit more mature and reliable. They are neater as well.

[Rockstarrrrr]

You mean babe is living with a strange man... Yeah, I think l'm gonna go with NO lol

[MountAverage]

Um, yes? Guess what, I'd also date someone who has a cat.

[Iron_Man]

Hmmm maybe only if it was before me not after

[NathanDavis]

I'm a grown up, so yes...

[TenderFantasy]

Maybe you are but is your partner? It takes two. And have you seen the attitudes and behaviors of "grown ups" in society these days? Lol.

[NathanDavis]

@TenderFantasy in many ways, she did grow up sooner than me, but yes, we're both grown-ups

and about attitudes, yes I do see what you mean, lol... but those, I call them grown in years time not precisely grown ups