Is it a red flag if the person you're dating lives with a roommate of the opposite gender?

[msk01kxx]

Guys:
Just say you met a great girl
Been seeing each other
But she tells you that she is living with a male house mate

Girls:
Just say you met a great guy
Been seeing each other
But he tells you that he is living with a female house mate

Not a red flag

Yes its a red flag

[CallMeDave]

I don't think it's a red flag but it's certainly something you'd want to fully understand. People can share a house or apartment without having a romantic/sexual relationship. I know someone that shares a place with two other people - one male and one female. They each have their own bedroom and there are no relationships between any of them other than roommates/friends. At least one of them is in a relationship with someone else that doesn't live with them.

I have several female friends that I've never had a romantic/sexual relationship with. I never lived with any of them, but some of them I would have been willing to share a home with under the right circumstances. I went on vacation with two of them once for a week and we shared a 2 bedroom place. Nothing sexual happened.

Some people seem to find it hard to believe, but men (at least the ones that view women as people and not just sex objects) and women can be friends and/or roommates without having sex.

So if you're considering dating a guy with a female roommate, I don't think you should assume that they have any kind of relationship, though you'll probably want to fully understand the situation before getting too serious with him.

[Finchie40]

It can raise some red flags of insecurity in some people , my friend had a girl roommate and some of the girls he dated they were concerned about his room mate. But once they met her then they realized it was fine

[Tia_Maria]

No. Just because he shares a flat with a female , that doesn't mean he can't or shouldn't be trusted. People's character determines if they'll cheat, not their circumstances or situation

However, if they've ever hooked up or had a history together, that could be a potential red flag

I imagine most people wouldn't be happy with that living arrangement though. I used to share an apartment with a guy, but he was gay, so my boyfriend at the time didn't see him as a threat lol

[kangy]

yes to me it is. I would feel insecure about it. somehow I feel that when a single man and woman live under the same roof , feelings can be developed over time

[kangy]

Thank you for MHO

[Warmapplecrumble]

If he shares the bedroom with her then it's a red flag. But if it's just a flatmate in a separate room then no it's not a red flag. I've lived with many men like that. Nothing happened. Like I didn't even come out of my room. 😕

[WhiteShoulder]

Good point

[Warmapplecrumble]

@WhiteShoulder thanks 🙂

[Anonymous]

The guy I’m seeing has a female flat mate it’s no big deal to me because I know with everything he and I have been through I know I can trust him to be faithful

[metalhead_66]

I'm not saying that if they are roommates that necessarily something might be going on between them, but the problem is that you can never be so sure!

[Anoniemus]

That’s so sad and pathetic. Then why date? You can never be sure that they aren’t cheating.

[Anonymous]

Yellow Flag!
https://thoughtcatalog.com/january-nelson/2019/05/33-yellow-flags-that-arent-actually-dealbreakers-but-mean-you-should-be-very-careful/

[Jamie05rhs]

That's a good list. #18 is bullshit, though. People need to grow up and be responsible for themselves.

[WhiteShoulder]

Maybe

Could be innocent, or there could be A LOT of sexual tension. And tension always pops eventually...

[WhiteShoulder]

Could be totally innocent. But sometimes it’s not. Not a red flag, but watch how he and his flatmate interact the first time you see them together. If it seems like they’re just friends, then I wouldn’t worry about it.

Also, I’ve never roomed with a platonic guy roommate (except once in college during a summer internship), so my opinion is based on the experiences of friends who have had long-term roommates of the opposite sex.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea if its not a blood relative then i dont trust it... sorry not sorry... and its some nasty incestual mfs these days so i hardly trust coed with fam too 😂 ima need you to live alone

[Anoniemus]

How is that possibly a red flag? What if it’s a sibling? Or a good friend? What if they aren’t attracted to that person? There is no reason for it to be a red flag aside from insecure people.

[naturallywonderful]

Nah. There are plenty of people who can have purely platonic relationships with a member of the opposite sex.

[arabgoddess]

Who the hell knows what goes on in that house.. It wouldn't seem right at all.

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Nope but I been the girl trying to date with a guy roommate no one believes your just roommates.

[Anonymous]

I'd most likely be insecure about it, but it really just depends on the type of girl he's living with

[DiscomfortZone]

Sure, some idiots might say it's a "red flag", but that's their problem.

[Rangers]

That's not so much a red flag as it is a clear confirmation that you shouldn't date them at all

[AshleyMadison00]

Perfect honestly to see how he interacts with a female he doesn't like

[admles]

No, it's not.

I'm not that insecure.

Now if they shared a bedroom, that might be a different situation lol

[SHIR0SAKI]

When you believe in you and your partner, when you are open and tell each other anything what you think, it won't be a red flag. Trust him/her ans she/he will trust you.

[dthomas89]

Female roommate? THIS isn't THE 90's ANYMORE, AS GREAT AS THAT DECADE WAS

[TallAnon]

Nope, I wouldn't date a girl who wouldn't act responsibly.

[Anoniemus]

It’s responsible to share housing with someone so you can afford it. Most women wouldn’t date a man so insecure.

[TallAnon]

Think you misunderstood me, a responsible woman wouldn't cheat on her boyfriend, so I would be fine with her sharing a room with someone of the opposite gender.

[mnthan7]

Of course not cause sometimes have a share in the room too. It doesn't mean anything wrong

[Anonymous]

Only very insecure people would have a problem with that.