Being attracted to our partners certainly makes it *easier* to ignore red flags.
Seems we all put up with red flags in our partners for various reasons, of which attractiveness is only one.
Not so much beause our partners are "hot" (well, they probly are hot to us) but rather simply that we are attracted to them as our partner, and we benefit from seeing our chosen partner in the best light despite despite red flags.
With enough red flags, we are presented with choices that come with self awareness: dump the partner, let red flags slide, or work with partner to see if changes can be made. Sometimes we just aren't ready to face the reality of these choices so we continue plod along with our attractive partners and the red flags. Ignorance is bliss. ;)
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Her attractiveness doesn’t rose up my glasses. Her looks are merely the initial attractant. I would need to be ridiculously in love with someone before I am able to overlook certain character flaws. Since that isn’t going to happen anymore it really no longer matters what they look like.
Hun let me tell you something:
only naive people lacking in wisdom or experience would overlook flaws
just keep in mind that one day their looks will disappear and all you have will be the personality and character of the guy you married. If you have problems that you were willing to overlook in the beginning , it will only resurface later and start bothering you by then
Looks also do not define the quality of the relationship. Sure it may be super exciting during the beginning but it tends to die down shortly within the first few months. Then it’s really based on their personality which defines the rest of the relationship
I pretty much have no romantic feelings anyway, lol, so I don't have to worry about it!
But, based on prior experiences, I wouldn't put up with anything I normally wouldn't. Once you start letting the little things slide, they tend to snowball into even bigger things IME, even with friends and family. I simply have been let down too many times by giving people too much of a pass, and refuse to do it anymore.
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I appreciate beauty as much as anyone, but my tolerance of drama is much lower than average, so I'm not nearly ad likely to let those red flags slide. It's way too easy to get into big trouble that way.
Beauty fades but kindness and love is usually permanent and most of the time it’s the only stable quality because a car accident or illness or house fire could eliminate everything else
I think most people would ignore quite a few red flags, if the person they are looking to date is hot.
I don't think in terms of red flags though, if I come across someone who was an evil person, that wouldn't stop me from socializing with them, or befriending them. I'm a curious person, and learning human behavior is like eating cheese burgers for me. Evil people are rare, so I wouldn't get many chances to read one, I wouldn't want to risk losing any one of such chances.
I might even date an evil person, to be able to peek into their minds further. I doubt I will fall in love with one though. As for treatment, I treat most people the same, regardless of their character. The only people I am extra understanding towards are women, though that is only because they have almost always been there for me.No, red flags are avoided no matter how good looking he is. But no relationship or person is going to be perfect either so realistically as long as he's not toxic your attraction to them determines wanting to put the effort in, ie you have to like his looks and personality to make it worthwhile. If you're not that attracted to them then you probably shouldn't be together anyway, so many people settle for less than what they want and some end up cheating etc. An dif they're with you juts for looks it also won't last, guarantee that.
I love this question! And i love the fact that you asked it. Because this poll shows how much people lie even to themselves. Look at how many people put " i won't put up with it". If that were true there'd be no G@G. lmao
How will i put up with. Well it depends how jealous my guy friends get over me being with her. I imagine it's the same for women. Honestly it's the main reason people date to begin with status and sex. Love is nothing but chemicals in your brain that trick you into thinking you care more about somebody than you do.A few things by accident, maybe, but not much. I'm someone people often call attractive. I don't seek attractiveness as much as I seek shared world views, for example. I don't feel like I need arm candy, because I'm already good-looking, but I think sometimes girls seek hot men to feel hotter by proxy.
I know there no way I will be able to put up with certain things. Like if they have a bad personality, I won't be able to look past that, ill be reminded constantly and really nothing is more unattractive than a shitty personality. I can look past a lot of other things though, but thats a big one I can't look past personality
Though looks may draw you in initially, they do little to hold a relationship together long-term. It would be nice if people truly looked for qualities that make a relationship special rather than these types of superficial qualities. I'm not saying it's unimportant to present the best you you can, but putting so much emphasis on things that are merely preferences and not directly tied to the quality of the relationship will only lead to future frustration and disappointment.
You can overlook a lot when you're young and looking for short term fun. It gets more serious as you look to settle down when a little older.
Who wants to spend the next couple of decades with a princess who thinks her fading looks make up for a lack of personality and capability, and are an excuse for poor behaviour.The red flags you ignore now just end up being the reason you leave later. I'll admit I used to look past a lot, but I'm working on it and I'm taking a break from dating so that when I start again, I know how to value and protect myself when I need to
It greatly depends on what the flags are. If he is flirting with other girls, calls me by the wrong name, talks down to me, ignores me to much, keeps dating apps on his phone or anything of those nature, I’d leave in a heart beat.
if it’s he has a weird hobby, he doesn’t know how to say the right things at the right time, he forgets my birthday, or stuff more along those lines, I’m willing to ignore itReally depends on what kind of "relationship" it's going to be.
One night stand or something else so considered sorry term? Damn near anything.
Something longer term? I could deal with a few things that I would consider yellow flags. Red flags should always be listened to when it comes to a longer term relationship.Well it depends on my intentions and what I'm overlooking. Like if I just wanna have sex with there person I'm not finna overlook your hygiene habits or past sexual history if your giving it up to Dave , Jacob and Dexter all at the sane time your a dub both as a relationship interest and sexual partner. Gotta always look out for red flags but if it's sum small like she has a weird quirk than idc as long as we vibe.
Hahaha... I'm bitchy, spoiled, and a brat... but I'm also sweet, thoughtful, kind, giving, and pretty.. so , I tend to get away with a ton of my bad behaviors. I've been told , I'm lucky I'm pretty. Cabt help that I'm a brat.. it's the result of being raised with 6brothers and by a single dad most of my life. But I'm worth it. Have I put up with some things bc of looks a person has? Yes, but that fades quickly.
The minute a girl is racist or very ignorant, I don't want to talk to her anymore, I don't care how pretty she is, I'm serious. If a girl insults my religion or my family, she's lucky she's a girl otherwise I would knock her out and give her a black eye on that pretty face.
I am not sure what a red flag means.
Like things you don't like about their personality? Or more extreme things like that he cheats or abuses?
Little things in their personality is fine. But the big red flags like abusing ie cheating is a no go.I def messed up in the past and overlooked a lot of BS because he was hot. But then i tried to date someone with all the good qualities yet i couldnt stay physically attracted to them 🤣 one day i’ll find someone whos got the good looks and no flags
I am strong opinionated so not a lot. I could look over a lot if it was just sex cause then it kinda don't matter. But for an actual relationship were your supposed to like and love the person for them nope.
I used to date a woman, who I thought was "hot" and, in my opinion, she had a serious red flag. She regularly did meth. That huge red flag generated a lot of other red flags. I ignored them all and went forward. The relationship ended badly.
Honestly not much. My "red flags" are red flags for a reason, usually indicative of a person who I wouldn't get along with in the long run regardless of other circumstances. I can deal with minor things, but nothing I would consider a "red flag."
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