How much are you willing to overlook in a person if you think they're hot?

Question

I've noticed something really odd with my friends if the person they just started talking to or dating is extremely attractive to them. They're willing to overlook things like personality, basic manners, sometimes even red flags or cheating. So I just wanted to know if you had to date someone, but they were a 10 in your opinion. How much would you put up with

GoodEnoughThen · Accepted Answer

Being attracted to our partners certainly makes it *easier* to ignore red flags.

Seems we all put up with red flags in our partners for various reasons, of which attractiveness is only one.

Not so much beause our partners are "hot" (well, they probly are hot to us) but rather simply that we are attracted to them as our partner, and we benefit from seeing our chosen partner in the best light despite despite red flags.

With enough red flags, we are presented with choices that come with self awareness: dump the partner, let red flags slide, or work with partner to see if changes can be made. Sometimes we just aren't ready to face the reality of these choices so we continue plod along with our attractive partners and the red flags. Ignorance is bliss. ;)

MannMitAntworten · Accepted Answer

Her attractiveness doesn’t rose up my glasses. Her looks are merely the initial attractant. I would need to be ridiculously in love with someone before I am able to overlook certain character flaws. Since that isn’t going to happen anymore it really no longer matters what they look like.

nella965 · Accepted Answer

Hun let me tell you something:

only naive people lacking in wisdom or experience would overlook flaws

just keep in mind that one day their looks will disappear and all you have will be the personality and character of the guy you married. If you have problems that you were willing to overlook in the beginning , it will only resurface later and start bothering you by then

Looks also do not define the quality of the relationship. Sure it may be super exciting during the beginning but it tends to die down shortly within the first few months. Then it’s really based on their personality which defines the rest of the relationship

aWes0MeNeSs · Accepted Answer

I pretty much have no romantic feelings anyway, lol, so I don't have to worry about it!

But, based on prior experiences, I wouldn't put up with anything I normally wouldn't. Once you start letting the little things slide, they tend to snowball into even bigger things IME, even with friends and family. I simply have been let down too many times by giving people too much of a pass, and refuse to do it anymore.

MrOracle · Answer

I appreciate beauty as much as anyone, but my tolerance of drama is much lower than average, so I'm not nearly ad likely to let those red flags slide. It's way too easy to get into big trouble that way.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Beauty fades but kindness and love is usually permanent and most of the time it’s the only stable quality because a car accident or illness or house fire could eliminate everything else

thehorriblesheikh · Answer

I think most people would ignore quite a few red flags, if the person they are looking to date is hot.

I don't think in terms of red flags though, if I come across someone who was an evil person, that wouldn't stop me from socializing with them, or befriending them. I'm a curious person, and learning human behavior is like eating cheese burgers for me. Evil people are rare, so I wouldn't get many chances to read one, I wouldn't want to risk losing any one of such chances.

I might even date an evil person, to be able to peek into their minds further. I doubt I will fall in love with one though. As for treatment, I treat most people the same, regardless of their character. The only people I am extra understanding towards are women, though that is only because they have almost always been there for me.

Anonymous · Answer

No, red flags are avoided no matter how good looking he is. But no relationship or person is going to be perfect either so realistically as long as he's not toxic your attraction to them determines wanting to put the effort in, ie you have to like his looks and personality to make it worthwhile. If you're not that attracted to them then you probably shouldn't be together anyway, so many people settle for less than what they want and some end up cheating etc. An dif they're with you juts for looks it also won't last, guarantee that.

Anonymous · Answer

I love this question! And i love the fact that you asked it. Because this poll shows how much people lie even to themselves. Look at how many people put " i won't put up with it". If that were true there'd be no G@G. lmao
How will i put up with. Well it depends how jealous my guy friends get over me being with her. I imagine it's the same for women. Honestly it's the main reason people date to begin with status and sex. Love is nothing but chemicals in your brain that trick you into thinking you care more about somebody than you do.

BigSis · Answer

A few things by accident, maybe, but not much. I'm someone people often call attractive. I don't seek attractiveness as much as I seek shared world views, for example. I don't feel like I need arm candy, because I'm already good-looking, but I think sometimes girls seek hot men to feel hotter by proxy.

Reesep · Answer

I know there no way I will be able to put up with certain things. Like if they have a bad personality, I won't be able to look past that, ill be reminded constantly and really nothing is more unattractive than a shitty personality. I can look past a lot of other things though, but thats a big one I can't look past personality

caring__1 · Answer

Though looks may draw you in initially, they do little to hold a relationship together long-term. It would be nice if people truly looked for qualities that make a relationship special rather than these types of superficial qualities. I'm not saying it's unimportant to present the best you you can, but putting so much emphasis on things that are merely preferences and not directly tied to the quality of the relationship will only lead to future frustration and disappointment.

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

The red flags you ignore now just end up being the reason you leave later. I'll admit I used to look past a lot, but I'm working on it and I'm taking a break from dating so that when I start again, I know how to value and protect myself when I need to

mamamai · Answer

It greatly depends on what the flags are. If he is flirting with other girls, calls me by the wrong name, talks down to me, ignores me to much, keeps dating apps on his phone or anything of those nature, I’d leave in a heart beat.

if it’s he has a weird hobby, he doesn’t know how to say the right things at the right time, he forgets my birthday, or stuff more along those lines, I’m willing to ignore it

madgoat · Answer

You can overlook a lot when you're young and looking for short term fun. It gets more serious as you look to settle down when a little older.
Who wants to spend the next couple of decades with a princess who thinks her fading looks make up for a lack of personality and capability, and are an excuse for poor behaviour.

letssee89 · Answer

Really depends on what kind of "relationship" it's going to be.

One night stand or something else so considered sorry term? Damn near anything.

Something longer term? I could deal with a few things that I would consider yellow flags. Red flags should always be listened to when it comes to a longer term relationship.

MLGbreezy · Answer

Well it depends on my intentions and what I'm overlooking. Like if I just wanna have sex with there person I'm not finna overlook your hygiene habits or past sexual history if your giving it up to Dave , Jacob and Dexter all at the sane time your a dub both as a relationship interest and sexual partner. Gotta always look out for red flags but if it's sum small like she has a weird quirk than idc as long as we vibe.

Anonymous · Answer

Hahaha... I'm bitchy, spoiled, and a brat... but I'm also sweet, thoughtful, kind, giving, and pretty.. so , I tend to get away with a ton of my bad behaviors. I've been told , I'm lucky I'm pretty. Cabt help that I'm a brat.. it's the result of being raised with 6brothers and by a single dad most of my life. But I'm worth it. Have I put up with some things bc of looks a person has? Yes, but that fades quickly.

DC_Underground · Answer

The minute a girl is racist or very ignorant, I don't want to talk to her anymore, I don't care how pretty she is, I'm serious. If a girl insults my religion or my family, she's lucky she's a girl otherwise I would knock her out and give her a black eye on that pretty face.

Anonymous · Answer

I am not sure what a red flag means.
Like things you don't like about their personality? Or more extreme things like that he cheats or abuses?
Little things in their personality is fine. But the big red flags like abusing ie cheating is a no go.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I def messed up in the past and overlooked a lot of BS because he was hot. But then i tried to date someone with all the good qualities yet i couldnt stay physically attracted to them 🤣 one day i’ll find someone whos got the good looks and no flags

Kaneki05 · Answer

I am strong opinionated so not a lot. I could look over a lot if it was just sex cause then it kinda don't matter. But for an actual relationship were your supposed to like and love the person for them nope.

David92506 · Answer

I used to date a woman, who I thought was "hot" and, in my opinion, she had a serious red flag. She regularly did meth. That huge red flag generated a lot of other red flags. I ignored them all and went forward. The relationship ended badly.

BCA6010 · Answer

Honestly not much. My "red flags" are red flags for a reason, usually indicative of a person who I wouldn't get along with in the long run regardless of other circumstances. I can deal with minor things, but nothing I would consider a "red flag."

DeeToPlay · Answer

The answer to this matter is greatly dependent on the level of your superficial and shallow values about physical appearance. This is where you decide to be willing to dismiss real shit for a pretty face

SexyAshh · Answer

Im not usually attracted to conventially hot. I like the mysterious bad boy that some people like, some people dont.

Hot or not, i dont look past red flags. I just keep a tally. Bring that number up high enough, poof, im gone!

bluetoblack99 · Answer

It’s funny how an attractive guy can say overt sexual comments and it’s “cute and funny”. But if he’s unattractive it’s “harassment” and incident is #metoo worthy.

This is one of many reasons why feminism is bullshit.

Hazelstar99 · Answer

I don't overlook. If I see that I'm ignoring redflags. Then I would take break from that person and then move on with my life. It hurts to be mad on yourself and I don't want to be mad on myself for making wrong choices.

triff · Answer

Well I think by the way they are presenting there interests in these girls is atrocious They are obvious players with very low moralistic minds who just want trophies and not the person

gypsy_rose · Answer

When I was less experienced, I would let a really attractive man get away with almost anything...  Now, and because of that, I would generally steer clear of them altogether.

Konabeana · Answer

Wouldn’t put up with it. Respect is number one and if they infringe that in any way, they are dead to me (lol not really but I won’t give them any more energy)

likelyOK · Answer

It depends what the things are but generally I’ll be more lean about it if the guy is really good looking, but nothing major like drugs, or cheating, or some type of major criminal past etc.

Stephrose88 · Answer

It just depends on his character and whether or not his personality compliments yours. If there are red flags, why sacrifice your happiness just for the high of being with a hottie?

Mickey9999 · Answer

Nothing. My marriage to my late husband was based on what I thought was love at the time... it has since evolved into more compatibility and a love/caring on a deeper level.

AlexanderAnttila · Answer

No, I don't do that. If red flags are waving around someone it doesn't matter how they look. There are loads of beautiful women out there with no red flags. There's no reason to have to settle.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

I don't give a fuck if they're the hottest piece of ass. My happiness and well-being is still worth more than they are to me.

winterfox10 · Answer

It wasn't because she was hot, but I overlooked a ton of red flags with my ex because I cared for her deeply and I had been made to understand that she was working towards improving. Somewhere along the lines she must have changed her mind though.

Alyssa11 · Answer

You know what they say, the red flags at the beginning of the relationship is usually the reason for you leaving at the end.

Simplismilez · Answer

Honestly I stay away from "hot" guys. I feel like they're out of my league because I am average so I dont bother. So i can't say I've ever had this happen to me.

bobalife · Answer

Never have; never will. I immediately get turn off if he’s douchey, pretentious, or not a nice person.

rxm_bxl · Answer

I hate to admit it, but a lottt. Hence i just don't talk to dangerously unbelievably hotttttt, make you wanna cry hot people.

KingdomForAKiss · Answer

I've dated less attractive men in hopes they'd have fewer red flags. Looks are not necessarily indicative of red flags though.  So, not much.

PetrovaFire92 · Answer

I would eventually leave. Fuck looks no one wants to put up with shit like that.

Ripper_E · Answer

Not at all. I don't care how good they look, if I don't like you, I don't like you.

lucas262 · Answer

Nothing, sry to say a pretty face or a man's equivalent money aren't enough anymore itll get you a ways but not far

ThiccNigro · Answer

Not much, if anything at all. In fact, I'm really picky when it comes to personality, even things that aren't red flags are enough to drive me away

RingOfFire · Answer

Let's face it girls, if the guy at work flirting with you is hot it's flirting. If he's not it's sexual harassment. We get it! ;)

mimi051998 · Answer

I won't put up with it because I know it’s not going to last.

msc545 · Answer

They become a lot less hot very quickly when you experience their shitty personality.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

No more than I would with an average girl, which is very little.

EmotionOfFear · Answer

Unfortunately... a great lot if the person matches exactly what I'm looking for in a person, at least physically.

Twenty2 · Answer

Nothing. If it was ons then I'll overlook anything but dating is something else that I won't compromise with.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Depends on the red flags. Single mom? Hell fucking no. Rude to other people. Meh. Thats their problem. Lol.

zagor · Answer

Just about the same as I would overlook in a person not so hot. OK, a little more.

clampfan101 · Answer

Maybe a thing or two, but nothing big like personality.

Iron_Man · Answer

Nothing If I don’t like your values it won’t work out

IlluminatiExposed0 · Answer

Being hot is a backstage pass and a Get Out of Jail Free Card.

Anonymous · Answer

why do girls always say really good looking guys have personality flaws or always make assumptions good looking guys all have bad personality?

u know a good looking person is just as likely to be a dick as an ugly person

rames54 · Answer

A lot in the beginning but it would wear off every super model is somebody's headache

Anonymous · Answer

Not much I'm very impatient person and rather be alone the put up with any nonsense.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe 2 things but it usually becomes an issue later

Anonymous · Answer

Red flag is a red flag. I dont need any more crazy in my life, especially from a girl i am trying to nail.

Agape93 · Answer

Hotness means little to me. So not much

AdithyaR · Answer

Zero red flag tolerance from me.

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