Hi everyone -
The title really says it all! I've (25f) been talking with this guy (24m) for the past couple of months and it has been going better than I could've ever expected. We have great chemistry, conversation and hanging out is very fluid/comfortable, and we both want very similar things in the future! This is where the problem lies; he is moving a few states away. I have absolutely no problem with moving and have wanted to for a while, so that part doesn't scare me necessarily.
Originally, we thought he was going to move in the summer which would give us about 6 months to set a solid foundation and see if distance would work out. However, he just got a job interview for a company that would require him to move in about a month & I just don't know if 2.5 months is enough time to warrant doing a LDR.
He told me he wasn't planning on entertaining anything relationship wise until he moved unless something great came along and smacked him in the face, and then he met me & it essentially knocked him out.
I've very much fallen for this guy and I know my feelings are getting stronger each day. We see each other multiple times a week & are either texting/face timing pretty much the entire day.
I'm so nervous of getting heart broken by this guy if he moves and we decide it's not going to work because I know if we only had more time in the same city this could potentially be something really great. I know with every relationship you come to a point where you have to be vulnerable with the other person and open yourself up to get hurt.
Is it worth continuing down this path knowing I could get very hurt? Has anyone ever had a similar situation work out? We've both talked and have said we want to continue to see where this goes, but I get more anxious with every passing day. I also am disappointed in myself for the fact that I've starting hoping he doesn't get this job so he won't be able to move until the summer. Please help!
I know it’s a hard choice, I had to do this with a guy who was moving for work back in 2016, and it sucked because he was pretty perfect as to what I wanted. But all of the stress and anxiety surrounding the situation just isn’t worth it. You may feel like you’ve completely fallen for this dude, but I assure you it’s just a lot of honeymooning early in and if you end things you will recover better now than you would later on.