We're both in our 30s, we work together, and we'd become close friends over the past year. She's been seemingly avoiding me since I asked her out and she changed our date three different times but today she made a funny comment towards me in a meeting and a joke-ish goodbye when I was leaving at the end of the day
It's been the warmest she's been in weeks as she seems to have avoided eye contact with me even when standing close to each other or passing me bye, and I've been doing the same as to respect what she seemingly wants- I hope I'm reading her right..
I've been planning on waiting until she tells me she's ready or just talks to me, but I miss her, even if just as a friend. I dunno if I should try to strike a conversation with her at some point next week. We used to hang out after work and during lunch all the time but now she's always on her phone in lunch and stays in her office instead of coming to mine at the end of the day so I don't really know when to talk to her. I do see her talking with others but we mostly kept our talks private and on our own. Perhaps it's better to let her come since she *seems* to very slowly be warming up?
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Yes continue to carry on
As in continue doing what I'm doing and not talk to her unless she does?
I'm just afraid she thinks I hate her or I'm hurt. Whatever her reasons are/were I'm good, just sucks not communicating
No pursue her
After the moved our date three times and finally didn't rescheduled a third and ignored my text and began to avoid me, all plus this being at work? I don't follow I'm lost overall in these situations so maybe you have a different perspective...
Give it some more time if it doesn’t work out if she shuts you down completely then it’s time to move on
I feel she shut me down completely by not rescheduling a fourth time, ignoring my texts and avoiding me at work though, don't you think?
You have to decide how much longer you wanna put up with this or move on completely?
Would you?
I just don't want to lose her. If she just wants to be friends that's great, if she hates me ok, if she wants something but not now sure, but non communication is killing me
It depends how much you care for her follow your heart
A lot, that I know. I care about her a lot. And I think we both do. So yeah I can't just move on, but if she still wants to be friends I guess I gotta wait for her to say something. Just hope she doesn't see my silence as not wanting anything to do with her
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