Is there a dating site for people who don't want kids?

[TheSpaceGnome]

What about one for atheists?
Or people who don't drink alcohol?
Or gamers?
Or artists?

[Avicenna]

Most people on dating sites either don't want kids or don't want more kids

[Avicenna]

This is so much the case that there are some dating sites for people who DO want kids

[TheSpaceGnome]

I've had the exact opposite experience, when i filter for doesn't want kids and doesn't have kids, I get no results.

[Avicenna]

That's really interesting. I'm actually trying to find a woman to have kids with. I think what it is is that most of them have kids, but what I'm seeing a lot of, even among younger women, is that they have them but don't want more.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yeah that yields zero results for me.

[Avicenna]

What age range are you looking for?

[TheSpaceGnome]

Ideally 25-35, I put in 18 to 45 though after, and still no results.

[Avicenna]

OK, it's no secret that there are a lot of single moms on dating apps, so that is a large part of what you're seeing. I think that a lot of women might be open to having kids in the right situation but aren't going to say they won't date you if you don't want kids.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Single moms and women who "might want kids" are getting a no from me.

[Avicenna]

I definitely hear you on single moms (one of them would have to be really exceptional and want another kid or two for me to even consider her) and I'm not suggesting you date them. But the ones that are open to having kids I think you should consider, especially if they're under 38 because they generally aren't in a rush to have kids even if they are open to it. I think your dating pool will be reduced too much if you eliminate all but the women that say I don't have kids AND I never want kids. Eliminate the ones who do, but not the ones who say they might someday want kids.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Well I don't want kids ever and I want a woman who also doesn't and is certain about it.

I want a woman who knows what she wants in life, not a confused person.

[Avicenna]

It's not really confusion. I had three kids with my ex although she was adamant during our first few years together that she didn't want kids at all. Our first child was unplanned and we ended up with two more. The point is you don't always know for sure. Now, you can make that abundantly clear in your profile and again when you first meet them so they can process that. Trying to filter them out based on one vague checkbox isn't very effective.

[TheSpaceGnome]

If a person genuinely does not want any kids, they do not end up with accidental kids. they get steralized or avoid vaginal sex.

I'm aware of the failures of birth control pills, patches, IUDs, condoms, etc. I don't trust them and I won't "take a chance" with them.

Any woman I'm compatible with mentally, would feel the same about it.

[Avicenna]

If I were you, I'd get a vasectomy.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No point while single, I don't have casual sex, and with a serious partner it would be about 3 years into the friendship before dating occured, and about 1 month extra after that before sex occured, but with the health issues involved, I'm leaning toward simply no vaginal sex, and just sticking to fingerbanging her and getting handjobs/bjs (assuming she isn't already sterile).

[TheSpaceGnome]

By health issues, I mean vasectomy side effects.

[Avicenna]

How about just having sex within women over 45?

[TheSpaceGnome]

1. Those women can still get pregnant.
2. None of them are gamers, save a few playing casual phone "games".
3. Almost none of them are into sci-fi or science.
4. None of them are into anime or comicons or cosplay.
5, Very few are artists
6. Even less are atheists
7. Even less than that are women that age who don't drink any alcohol.

I have enough trouble relating to most of my own generation, most of my friends are gen z because of that. The fact that look like a teenager compounds that issue, the average 45 year old woman looks like my mother. :l

[TheSpaceGnome]

looks old enough to be my mother*

[Avicenna]

Then you need to prioritize, because you aren't going to find everything you want. Women over 45 so rarely get pregnant naturally that you can assume it won't happen.

When I date women much younger than me, they're of different races so no one thinks it's my daughter.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I'll stick to finding everything I want.

[Berethor]

Dating site for people who don't drink alcohol? LOL, but there is dating site for virgins.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Whats that one called?

[Berethor]

It used to be called YouAndMeArePure, and it seems like it had changed it's name.

[TheSpaceGnome]

It appears it has been deleted.