Best place to meet men who don't want children. EVER?

[anon1192]

I never want children.

EVER.

Men who want kids keep being into me and I want to shake this off and get men who DON'T want kids.

It turns me off a LOT when I find out a guy I'm with really wants kids. Maybe because of the awareness it draws to our relationship's expiration date? I'm not sure.

How do I meet men who don't ever want children?

How soon can I ask?

Updates

+1 y

If you are not going to answer my question and simply want to bother me about how will change or tell me how kids are so great then go away. You are not helping and it is annoying as hell.

[KERMlT]

No Kids Passions

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Childfree Personals/Dating Sites

DinkLink: "dating with no kids attached"

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LiveJournal CF Singles community:

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Childfree Smokefree Singles USA:

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Childfree Singles yahoogroup:

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I do not want kids:

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Big Kids No Kids:

This site is in English and French.

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Uncle Vern

Not just a singles site: there are travel links too.

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[djvtech]

lol wtffffff

[KERMlT]

I love Google. :D

[djvtech]

lol that's f***ed that's there's dating sites revolving around that. normal ones should just put 'do you want kids' thin on profile searches.

[ketfoen]

LMAO, I clicked to check the sites out, many of them don't exist anymore. Guess such dating sites aren't really what like minded people thought they would be. The I do not kids.com one does work, but only has one member that was online, perhaps a slow day. That uncle vern one, brings you too a real estate broker, trying to sell single people homes who don't want kids, lmao.

The yahoo group is also dead, seems the owner got a girl pregnant and forgot he didn't get the vasectomy.

[KERMlT]

Yeah, I didn't check out the validity of the sites, just did a search and cut/paste.

[ketfoen]

I think the QA didn't check them either.

[gravityguy]

i don t want kids either.. and I will avoid women who wants one nomatter how attractive she is

[Anjali090]

GAG site. I just read a question where the guy says he hates kids. You’re in the right place 👍I suggest you contact him and both of you can hate kids together. Thank you for not breeding! 😁👍

[ketfoen]

I have seen this with many close friends and even a younger sister of mine, who also had very strong thoughts about this just like you. Her feelings changed after she met her husband and she unexpectedly got pregnant, she even thought of having it removed without his consent in a marriage, which would have been a big mistake.

She went through with it and now she has 2 sons, which she can't live without. And felt terrible that she thought the way she did before.

I know your not her and no one is like you, no need to point that out.

But if you're content on finding a likewise thinking partner, then you should find a guy that has or is willing to have a vasectomy. Where you find such a person beats the sh*t out of me, you can try online dating sites with guys that reveal their health history and if they had this done.

You can also let your fallopian tubes be tied off, so you can't get pregnant as well. Do know this is a permanent form of contraception.

[SteelyMcBeam]

Online dating.

It is actually one of the items that appears on the first section of one's dating profile for most sites.

One of the big advantages of online dating is that everyone has filters and requirements when looking for dates. Be strict on the ones that are absolute no-gos and lenient on other things that you are still picky about but willing to overlook and you'll have lots of opportunities to meet mostly like-minded men.

Since I am a guy who eventually wants children I would never even give you the time of day if I saw it on your profile that you had no interest. And if someone did message you, you could check their profile and see if he wants children before responding (or ignoring).

[kethel]

Friendly, outgoing people typically want kids. If you're the type of girl who just sits there and lets guys hit on you, then picks from them - keep in mind that only friendly, outgoing guys are going to be hitting on you. The rest of us have our issues which prevent it - and which, at least in my case, prevent us from wanting children. You'll have to actively look instead of passively picking from guys who hit on you. This is very difficult for a woman, since so many guys hit on you. I know if girls were all over me left & right I would probably not go out of my way to seek out special ones, so I'm not putting you down.

[kheserthorpe]

Ask as soon as you want. Realistically, 80-90% of people do want children at some point, so anyone you are flirting with and hitting it off with, odds are its going nowhere. Based on that you might want to ask pretty soon. Some people may say they're not sure, but realistically you need men who have -also- made that decision on their own - and they are having at least as much trouble as you finding women who never want kids.

The only large group of men who don't want to produce kids is men who are divorced and have kids, and don't really want more. Most of those guys are older then you though, and I'm guessing you may not want kids in your life, period.

[JudgmentDay]

You forgot about antinatalists and childfree folks then.

[kovalinkie19]

Go to new york, find the guy who only wears suits and has intercourse with women and does not want anything other than sex. Wait til he comes around. Be prepared though his name might be off putting but then again Barney isn't so bad :)

[anon1192]

lol Robin is like my idol in life I guess, hahaha

[kovalinkie19]

I suppose not a bad idol to have, eh?

[HughR]

I don't want kids. I'm very happy with life the way it is. I'm considering getting "snipped" so it isn't even a possibility because I do enjoy the exercise that would lead to kids if I wasn't being careful :)

[JudgmentDay]

Go for it bro. Nobody needs to be born into this kind of a world.

[KingsOfleon88]

I am just curious as to why you don't want kids (I don't want kids either) but if a woman said she doesn't want kids, her reason would make a big difference to me.

[anon1192]

LOTS of reasons. LOTS and LOTS and LOTS.

But basically, I've always known and have this sense.

Why don't you want kids?

[JudgmentDay]

@anon1192 One better be fine and okay that bad and horrible things could or would happen to their own kids some day. There's plenty of miseries to come around, people killing each other, robbing each other, cheating each other, rapes, horrible accidents, need I say more? If I can't live with the chances those things will or may happen, then leave it the way it is. Nobody needs to have children, nobody needs to be born. Those that says otherwise overreact like the world's gonna end because some of us choose to never have kids.

[Konnour]

Nightclub

Or... anywhere - today a lot of men, if not the most actually don't want to have children. Maybe it somehow may fix the problems with demographics... unless they wouldn't also be the white people who already are waning

[evenlift]

Lots of guys these days don't want kids. I don't personally care much either way.

It's much easier to find a guy who doesn't want kids or is undecided than to find a guy who does want kids.

[anon1192]

I guess I'd like to know how to attract this majority then. lol

[evenlift]

Pretty much anywhere. Bars, nightlclubs, etc.

[JudgmentDay]

If they already gotten a vasectomy done, then you're all set.

[Electric_Dreams]

Well I don't want children and am anxious about always being alone because of this. I don't know where you find guys like me though.

[JudgmentDay]

You can always get a pet or adopt though. The latter is a better deal in the long run if things just don't work out at all for you and you decide that you don't want to be somebody's parent or babysitter anymore. Unlike somebody that regret it later when they had biological kids.

[JudgmentDay]

Talk to my buddy @Unit1 he's one of them. Easier to find online than in real life.

[Unit1]

Here's what I (would) do.

I'd be on YesChildFree
Or on dating apps like Hot Or Not and specify in the description, that I am strictly childfree (already done)
Basically online dating seems to be the place to connect us together.

I also get turned off by women, who want kids or already have kids. Children aren't for me and we don't need any more of them.

[JudgmentDay]

@Unit1 Unfortunately, Yeschildfree is defunct. They have not been up and running for quite some time now. There needs to be more sites like that. Maybe even an Antinatalists club for every town and city in the world. Childfree clubs too. Best to meet up in groups of people that have that one thing in common first.

[Unit1]

In any case one can always put it on the description. Like minded childfree members will catch on quick.

[Racez]

Simply ask them as soon as you meet a worthy guy.

That should not waste you time.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Find an older guy whose already had a couple who live with his ex-wife.

[jacquesvol]

(Age:18 to 24)

People (men or women!) "who don't want children. EVER" can and often have a completely different opinion 10 or 20 years later. (yes, that may include you too)

NEVER say "never", certainly not at 20.

[anon1192]

NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER.

This is the one thing I know and it will be consistent through my life.

Go question yourself.

This was a terrible answer.

[jacquesvol]

I know and knew my answer isn't the one you want to read but I stand by it.

I'm not cruel or demeaning towards you. Never wanted to be.

[kheserthorpe]

He's absolutely accurate, I just didn't have the balls to say it.

I know so many people with kids now and they love it who told me 15 years ago in their 20's they didn't want them.

25 year olds are proclaiming how they'll feel in 15 years ... think how much you've changed in the LAST 15 years.

[anon1192]

To be honest, I've been pretty consistent with most things in my life.

Also, he is not answering my question at all by saying it but simply questioning my beliefs. This is just annoying and does nothing for me. What if I were to start questioning all your beliefs instead of answering a simple question? Just leave me alone! Seriously people.

[anon1192]

Additionally, you really don't know me at all so stop acting like you do.

Believe it or not, there are some people who say they'll never have kids and never actually do.

You have no idea of my reasoning or commitment to this.

[jacquesvol]

Oops, I didn't know that not wanting children is a religion. Feel free to do as you like,of course: I certainly won't try to convert you to another one.

[anon1192]

I didn't call it a religion, but call it whatever you want.

You were still questioning my decisions. And yeah, ignored the second comment. KNEW that would happen.

Done.

[jacquesvol]

I do NOT question your decision. I'm perfectly at peace with it.

I state that people change their opinions when getting a bit (or a lot) older.

[ketfoen]

I totally agree with jacque

[anon1192]

If I knew you people I'd be making a monetary bet on the topic with you both right now. lol

[jacquesvol]

Question Asker, I for one, don't want children anymore, but I'm happily married. If I don't want children, it's because of my age: how old will they be at my funeral?

[anon1192]

What does being married have to do with wanting children?

I see them as very different decisions.

And I meant a bet on mine.

[JudgmentDay]

@anon1192 If you got your tubes tied, they'd all can shut up about you changing your mind.