How long can a man wait for a woman he thinks he loves?

Question

Can he wait years or a lifetime? Is anyone like that?

nitsuj86 · Accepted Answer

Sure, some people are like that. Most men aren't for a few reasons I think.

1. It's kind of a raw deal for us.

Sure women like sex too, but men desire it MUCH more. Just look at any strip club, porn site, etc. It's more of a need for us.

During the dating phase, typically the man is paying for most things, planning most things, and doing a lot of extra "work" that women just kind of expect. Seem to not view it as that big of a deal. But men do those things because women like it, and they will get what they like, sex from that woman.

So us waiting is essential, you get all you want out of this, while I get for lack of a better term "nothing". Also, I'm sorry ladies, but most of y'all aren't worth the wait.

2. If you have let any other man sleep with you right away, your "waiting" kind of seems like bullshit to us.

Unless you are a virgin, no man is gonna wait for something other men have already had. Pretty simple. We know a lot of women sleep with some men right away, and throw out all of the rules cause they are hot. Well, how do you think he feels if you make him wait, when the guy you didn't give a fuck about got it first night?

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Depends on the guy and why he is waiting. Because she is dating someone else? Won't wait. Because she is in school 500 miles away? I'd wai as long as I knew that she was also waiting for me. Because there are other things in her life that are a higher priority at present? Very likely won't wait.

Gloree · Accepted Answer

quite long if he is sincere. I was 33 when my boyfriend noticed me. He told me that when he first saw me, he gave himself 3 years to 'woo" me because he believed I was the one. fortunately for him, he succeeded in just a couple of months. I agreed to be his with a note because at my age I was too shy to say yes openly. he still teases me about it and keeps my note sacred, saying he will show it to our future children.

I didn't like him that much at first cause of my idea of my man in my mind. I wanted tall and handsome and fair but yes he was tall and handsome but dark.

but now I'm over the moon for him and he really knows how to ask a woman out.

ariadneR · Accepted Answer

Does he think that he loves her, or does he know that he loves her. That's the difference right there.

If he knows he loves her, I'd dare say he'd be willing to wait forever. If he thinks that he loves her, a couple months?

Guy13 · Answer

Men are not good at waiting around no matter how much we may like someone. We are attracted to beauty and women are beautiful. We hunt and really do not think romantically the way women do... It is a huge waste of time for me to wait around for an unknown.

Sacha_Chudoba · Answer

Only kind of dudes that will wait like that are the ones you've friendzoned...

actual men aren't going to sit around moping after you. they'll ask you if you're into them, if you say no or play games; they're gone.

Most women nowadays try to "test" men like they see dumb tiktok women doing, if men see this kind of shit; we walk.

stoicity · Answer

Are you asking being patient or hopelessly waiting. There's a difference, of you're being patient you have dinner your math and it's mutual between you and that guy that you are going through something and once you make through the end of the tunnel then you can think about being together. This needs commitment to self and to that person and it is really important to trust your abilities and stay focus. Waiting patiently for someone with whom you just had a instant spark but not much beyond that is a waste of time. I would never wait for someone who's unsure and don't know what they want to do with their life and themselves. But i would patiently grow along with the person for things to fall in place assuming this is not love but friendship of this didn't work not over compensating and not simping priotizing myself.

Miristheiss · Answer

Define wait?

Are they in the Peace Corps and gone for two years?

Are they dating someone else?

Are you dating her and we are talking about waiting to have sex?

If the first 2 scenarios... you don't wait. You move on.

If the last scenario, a lot of guys would wait a long time (if the girl wasn't known to have hooked up quickly with others but NOW wants to wait) but other guys would not. It just depends.

Anonymous · Answer

I've waited for years for some girls. Then with those it didn't work out.

Then i found another girl who i've fallen in love with and i'm now waiting again.

I guess it depends on the individual. Some won't wait even a day or a week. I won't wait forever. If someone who i think is good for me and i love her and she loves me, i will go for her.
I can't just wait around for a chance that might never happen, unless we are in contact, and i know she loves me, but for some reason we can't be together yet

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I waited 8 years for Carol and 13 for Emily. Not that I wasn't looking for someone else, in the meantime! And, when I found her, those two were no longer on my radar. I eventually got Carol back after 35 years but I'd already spent 10 of those with girlfriend #3.

Luopio27 · Answer

Im almost 40, never had sex or was in a relationship. All of this is because Im not atracted to anything else than the looks.

Waiting forever is not q choice, its a lack of options. I did not choose who or what Im atracted to. No one chooses how we are turned on or off.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

No. He won’t wait for years.  Mine waited for 2.5 years.  Everyone is different but in the end, no one’s going to stay forever. They leave, one way or another.

boggboss · Answer

That completely depends on the person me personally no I wouldn't wait a year or a life time what a waste of a life to wait on someone who may never decide they are ready at that point

TenderFantasy · Answer

I've waited for YEARS (on and off even) for a dumb man that wasn't even worth it. That is how PATHETIC I was 😞

katiesmuff · Answer

Sure can't say I know of any guy or female for that matter who would wait anywhere near that long.

slatyb · Answer

I suppose he could, but why is it necessary to wait. It's silly to wait for a woman to make up her mind.

PinkRose24 · Answer

I think it would depend on the girl and if he thinks she's worth waiting for? Do they not see each other anymore?

ballweevil · Answer

if he truly loves her, then he will love her forever, and wait for her even then when there is no hope of her being with him, because he wants to believe that sometime, she maybe will come back to him.

Anonymous · Answer

months, a year, sure... but a lifetime? now whats the point of that? he should have moved on by then. after a year and nothing, i think anyone would move on.

kevypatyy7 · Answer

Guys do wait but the reason should also make sense. So it depends on the reason and the guys.

EaterPeter · Answer

It varies erson to person and his circumstances. I can't. I start feeling lonely soon. I don't like that about myself.

Twalli · Answer

If she's not ready for me, I move on, but if she's ready and I haven't found someone else, I am still available to her.

Danael31 · Answer

With my experience I can say that men are more loyal than women and able to wait a very long time for a woman.

PatriceONeal · Answer

The older the man, the less likely he will fall for womens bs.

OddBeMe · Answer

Real question is “should”. And the answer is never.

Alex8736 · Answer

if it's a woman he "thinks" he loves will be a lifetime then be buried BUT if it's a woman he "knows" he loves he will pursue her in an instant 😊

Monalisa77 · Answer

How long did ross wait for Rachel 😉

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Until another hole comes along.

sadgirl0210 · Answer

Yes my fiance is like that

Iron_Man · Answer

It all depends on the couple

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Why are you asking us? Why don't you ask him?

LiamJHayden · Answer

Some wait years.

Guardian45 · Answer

It depends on the person.

Dav1dTh0ma389 · Answer

If he's desp. Forever

melanieeeB · Answer

He should not wait

misogynistic_pig · Answer

Four days.

Anonymous · Answer

a lifetime or several lifetimes if need be

Zayed_ · Answer

A lifetime

In_Trance · Answer

Lol he isn't waiting

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