How long is too long to wait for someone?

[Anonymous]

My friends say to stop rushing but I feel like a year is too long for him to make up his mind on what he wants so im bouncing

[Summeroflove]

Depends on what you mean if you mean a official relationship yeah I would say a year is a long time. At the same time it’s also a red flag if someone’s rushing too fast. It should feel as if it’s going at a natural pace. Not stringing you along but also not rushing.

If you’re talking marriage. That’s WAY different that’s a MAJOR decision that you both better be ready for. Because it’s a lot harder to divorce then it is to break up or be stuck together miserably for years.

It happens where someone will waste a decade of someone’s life or more that’s the other extreme. But people can feel like they’re in love and later figure out they were too infatuated with one another. Was in love with a image of someone not the real them. It leads to issues especially if someone’s a dark personality who tricked you into thinking they’re someone they’re not. But the mask comes off when you live together.

[Bigbro69]

I'd leave that up to you

[Bigbro69]

But what if they just keep things secret among each other and get together for a good night of libmve making once in awhile

[Bigbro69]

I'd say keep it incognito, cause it's gonna be fun

[i_am_tbjxii]

A man that loves you will not make you “wait” the timing will always feel natural. Everything he will do excitement. A man should always know his expectations and the best way you can tell is through his actions. If you feel things are lacking have a talk with him but do not put your life on hold if intentions have not been communicated.

[i_am_tbjxii]

Thank you for MHO!

[DishLady]

I waited about a year for one guy to step up A LITTLE and had to call it quits, knowing we were never leaving our little "text realm". I should have stopped way earlier, but I liked our chats and thought he'd eventually come around, which he didn't.

And as soon as I let go, literally the next morning, I walked into a place and a guy gave me the once over then started chatting me up over coffee. It's not that f-ing complicated. You want the gal, have the balls to come get her.

[fuddly]

Nice one

Like you say you have to cut the ties before you gonna find someone

[DishLady]

Yes. People try to “date openly” thinking the right one will just float to the top, but the truth is that doing that numbs your heart to finding someone you can really connect with.

[rosemilk]

look at it this way. a year is another anniversary you could have had with someone else who actually appreciates you and wants you and would never make you wait.

[DannyUk2017]

Well... i can't say if 1 year is too long or too little, for me, gone through 2 marriages is too early to marry someone else, but if you had a Toxic marriage and you feel like you had enough, then 1 year is not too long at all...

[Finchie40]

A year is a long ass time to wait for someone to make up their mind , me personally wouldn’t be waiting for that someone to make up their mind for that long. Unless I like being treated like a convenience. Because that’s basically all it is. If the passion for each other isn’t there within a reasonable amount of time then it’s just a waste of time in my opinion, I like girls’ that know what they want and go for what they want without much hesitation, especially if her and I are already screwing each others brains out. I don’t mind being FWB’s with a girl as long as her and I are on the same exact page with things , with the intentions of her and I more than likely going to end up together. I won’t stay FWB’s either a girl that constantly wants to weigh her options for a long period of time. Why I prefer FWB’s with some strings attached , meaning her and I can only have sex with each other but open to date others’ if we choose to and make the promise to each other , if we end up in bed with someone else , then we end the benefit part between us and just remain friends’ , I don’t like having sex with girls’ that go and screw other men , to me that’s dirty and degrading.

[Bigbro69]

It's go nna be great

[Bigbro69]

Im gonna eat ur. pussy good

[Asker]

@Bigbro69 lol tf you talking about

[Finchie40]

LMFAO , not sure what he is talking about

[Anonymous]

I see you're between 30 and 35
So I can understand you would like to be married and starting into that committed phase of life.
Maybe you have seen your friends settle down
It happens for some and doesn't happen for others
I was 39 when I got married
I have two daughters. That side of my life is perfect. I love them. They are fantastic.
The difficulty for me is my marriage
I don't feel I get the kind of love I need from my wife. As a result I'm looking around. That side is my life is difficult. Who knows that's going to happen. Will see stay together? Will we separate?
In some ways people need to be ready for that level of uncertainty. It keeps things fresh. Many times my wife and I said we would separate. Sell the property and go our separate ways. If I'm not prepared to do that she will walk all over me and vice versa. So we have a robust relationship, stormy 🙂


It could be a phase. Now the kids reared what next? What's the next challenge? I'm coming up to retirement age. Doesn't seem very exciting🙂
And do I want to spend more time with my wife?


Can I say also, I used to date very easygoing girls. I could get my way at everything. But I rejected that for marriage. Now I wish for a girl like that who just wants to be around me.

It's funny how things change over time

[ArrowheadSW]

It depends what you want from a relationship, and how happy (or not happy) you are with the way it is right now. If you are interested in marriage and raising a family, I would not give him too much time. He needs to make up his mind if he wants that or not.

[BCRanger10]

Waiting for what? A year is entirely too long. If you ask me, if someone says they need time to figure something out (I hate, hate, HATE the phrase "figure yourself out"; it's one of the stupidest things I've ever heard), then right then and there, that's the ideal time to say that they should part ways. You can't and shouldn't put your life on hold for someone.

[Miristheiss]

Waiting for what? What is it specifically he is trying to decide?

Whether he is going to ask you out? Whether he wants to be exclusive with you? Whether he wants to legally sign a contract to pledge all of his finances to you so you can unilaterally nix the contract and leave with lots of HIS stuff... I mean, uh get married?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Case by case basis. It would be too long for me, and I would move on, if:

• I get nothing at all from waiting, no day by day enjoyment, no hopes, nothing
• I'm finding out that I'm not that interested in her, after all

It is my theoretical answer, I didn't have to face this issue you're facing.

[236color]

If you're hoping for him to propose, that's like waiting to win the lottery, possible but not likely. Think about it, what's in it for him? He's financially responsible for you for life, even if you break up. He's not really assured sexual satisfaction. What exactly would be in the pro column for him? I understand why YOU'D want to get married, but why would HE?

[NathanDavis]

I am generous... I give one hour

but after that.. I'm leaving and going to watch something on Netflix or whatever

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

If the idea crosses your mind at all. We wait for no one. They meet you where you’re at or they fade off into the background never to be seen nor heard from again.

[MannMitAntworten]

Chances are you will get the same result with every guy that follows. Is it really that you are impatient as your friends claim or is it perhaps you want to use this as an excuse to actually remain single without looking like the reason you are single? What I do not hear is anything about actually giving a damn about this fellow in question. Just a timeline and that you want to “bounce”.

[Anonymous]

Well at your age, I don’t mean this in a disrespectful way, but yes I think you need to find someone who wants to commit. I don’t think a year is long for a man, but we’re taking about you as a female. Again the age thing comes into factor as most men are looking for younger women. Not today you wouldn’t get potential suitors, but your age now compared to when you were a little younger is different. Are you ten even dating? What’s the situation?

[Natasha1995]

A couple of months would be all I'm willing to give him. It depends on the circumstances, like a previous relationship he just got out of. If he can't make up his mind in a period of one or two months, you should move on.

[es20490446e]

Waiting for someone never worked for me.

My current attitude is: the first that comes, that has good qualities, the first to get it.

[Bigbro69]

You know that I want this, don't worry it's gonna be good

[es20490446e]

@Bigbro69 👌

[Anonymous]

It’s never too long if you’ve been forced apart by circumstances beyond your control and they’re waiting for you too. In your case, however, I think a couple months is long enough.

[exitseven]

Everyone has different life circumstances. If somebody is not settled in their career or education it may not be the right time to get married. You have your own timetable so maybe you would be better off finding somebody else.

[McLlovin]

That’s actually up to you. No one can actually tell you how long you should wait. Ask yourself are they worth waiting for or are you wasting your time based on what you have experienced so far

[SamBell]

If somebody's making you wait a year that is a loser some things sweetie is just common sense we need to use our critical thinking skills humans love to waste your life your life is too valuable to waste don't let any human waste your life

[MikeTheBartender]

A year? To date or marry?

3 hours is too long

[RingOfFire]

Depends on how much of a hurry you are in. You are in the biological clock age end zone so yes, if having a family is your goal, you can't afford to waste any time and it makes sense that if he isn't there too there is no point continuing.

[IAMRIA]

We need more details. Why are you not together? What reasons is he giving or what do you think is stopping you? Are you living in the same city?

[Screenwriter]

But what's the story? Is he living abroad? In the military? How long have you dated? What seems to be the holdup? We need details.

[anon1903]

Year seems like a lot. But if you really love the guy, it's good to wait it out

[Bigbro69]

Exactly

[Nikki1989]

5 minutes. Time-wasters are simply not worth the effort.

[slatyb]

make up his mind about what? Marrying you? A year seems about right, but no more. What do you want?

[Alex-Snow]

A year is a long time. Maybe take the initiative and ask him what he wants out of the relationship. Are you sexually involved with him?

[Flower7]

Do you mean too long to wait for a proposal?

[jshm2]

LOL, depends. Often a month or two should be enough time.

[Frida_]

A month I’m not gonna wait forever for person to be ready.

[cavedweller1973]

It becomes too long when you start doubting your self and start getting sad a lot

[Anonymous]

Depends on the effort YOU'RE putting in. Or maybe the LACK OF EFFORT you're putting in would be a better way of putting it. He's can't read your mind.

[Vegasrunner]

Its all relative to your ability to attract better.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the situation and what you are waiting for him for.

[Djaay]

As soon as u think u must just wait without actually searching , that's when there's a problem.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Let him know how you feel communication is key. Tell him and see what he says you never know he may surprise you.

[dragoblack]

1 month. If they can't figure out their feelings in 1 month, it ain't happening.

[Bloodparadise]

When you're sure about them.. personally, i would wait for a longer time like couple of years

[Anonymous]

Question doesn’t offer enough details to be able to answer.

[Anonymous]

did u ask him what u want , and did he give a clear answer?

[Kingofkings1992]

What kind of stupid question is this? This is a thing people actually do? Wow 😮

[Anonymous]

News flash HE DOESN'T WANT YOU and quite frankly i don't blame him one bit

[WonderingManII]

I agree with you. A year is long enough.

[Jeff51]

Yr is way to long. Few months is ok.

[LiaRaven]

Don’t wait for anyone even for a day

[ChicoFromThe305]

There might not be enough context here

[glennos89]

You should bounce for sure

[noohair]

A year is too long...

[Ayaan00001]

Till the time you want it

[Anonymous]

More than two decades is too long.

[RossyBoi]

I think he wants to be just friends.

[qwerty2469]

Forever is a long as time

[Anonymous]

To wait for what?

[Kelley1]

Six months.

[Anonymous]

Bye Felicia 👋🏻

[Anonymous]

A week

[Abbiii]

Depends

[Bigbro69]

Not long

[Deserter3]

I don't know mane