Do you think men are more judgmental on looks or women?

[bkcutie11]

I'm curious. Are men pickier about looks or are women when dating. Your thoughts.

[Kiwedin]

According to the studies, men are more judgmental in the sense that it'll affect their behaviour towards a person they deem "unattractive". Women engage in judgmental thinking, but it's less likely to affect their treatment of a person. Statistically, women are more open to dating people considered less attractive than they are, whereas men a less likely to date people "less attractive". Also, in cases where a spouse suffers a disability, disfigurement, or illness the husband is more likely to request divorce than the wife is. Further, men are at highest risk of cheating on their spouses when she's pregnant due to sexual frustration or lack of physical attraction to their pregnant wife.

This falls in line with my own experience. I've been thin, I've been overweight and borderline obese, and I've been athletic. While women typically made less effort to become my friend when I was overweight, they still treated me with kindness and respect. Men, on the other hand... complete 180 to the point that when I was thin again I felt like I couldn't trust them to actually like me for me. I think most women who've had a "glow up" know exactly what I'm talking about.

[Asad1ONE1]

That is because women are nurtured to be "the prize". It's an insecurity thing and just part of the many reasons more women are miserable than most men.

[TenderFantasy]

Well said. I agree!

[Kiwedin]

@Asad1ONE1 Statistically speaking, single men are the unhappiest and least satisfied with their lives of the four demographics looked at (single men, single women, married men, single men). Single women tend to be the happiest and most satisfied with their lives of all those demographics. Your opinion doesn't fall in line with the empirical data. It might be worth exploring where you got the idea that women were the miserable ones from.

[Asad1ONE1]

"OVERALL"

Women are more miserable because REALITY doesn't meet their EXPECTATIONS.

[Asad1ONE1]

Also, all human beings are judgmental on anything. Looks or not. Opposite sex or not.

[Asad1ONE1]

When women go against what they truly desire (because society teaches them otherwise), why wouldn't they be miserable?

It's human nature to desire youth and beauty in a partner, something women are too afraid to openly admit, yet alone be seen in public with.

[Kiwedin]

@Asad1ONE1 Go to therapy.

[Asad1ONE1]

Exactly

[Asad1ONE1]

Imagine thinking "single women are the happiest" demographic 🤡

That competitive mindset alone is enough to be miserable. And the same goes for men that think the opposite.

[Asad1ONE1]

Bottom line is this: no matter the narratives or data, men and women equally desire one another, no more or less than the other.

[Kiwedin]

@Asad1ONE1 No, your bottom line is that evidence and reality don't matter to you if it counters your own personal, anecdotal beliefs. Your opinion is not fact. If you think otherwise, you experiencing some major cognitive dissonance. Get over yourself.

[Asad1ONE1]

I do think that women have worse experiences at the hands of men, more so than vice versa, and so for that reason single women may be happier as in "free".

But there is a difference between "experienced singles" and "singles" lol.

No amount of bad experiences can change desire.

[Asad1ONE1]

And I think you need to "Get over yourself" because you seem to have that "girls rule, boys drool" mindset.

[ShellyB]

Both in different ways, for example I think a guy might dismiss a girl with a body type he doesn't like, vs I will admit I can be judgy if a girl looks sloppy in a setting where i don't think you should look sloppy. And, I am more judgy toward girls than I am to guys about stuff like this. I know that's wrong but I am being honest.

[DoctorSex]

Yes and it's because of the dynamic of relationships. Men do the taking care of, women get taken care of.

Think of it this way, if you had to save up 10,000 💸 and you could only buy one car for the rest of your life, you'd probably compare all the cars in your price range (mileage, engine size etc)

Thats the life of men.

But if you were told you'd be given a car when you turn 18 (traditional arranged marriage) that would pay for itself and take you to where you'd like to go without any financial cost to you, you'd care less about the stats of the car or who's giving it to you, you'd just hope it's reliable.

That's the life of women.

Its not about men being worse or better, it's about the roles we play in a relationship.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

[DaveJord]

As a man I have to say men are judgmental. Seriously I have met some shallow women but by and large men care a lot more about looks. If your fat or ugly forget about it.. doesn't matter how great your personality is, you got to be at least average looking with some type of ass or tits. But women are far more forgiving of their men, as long as the man treats then right and respects them. Now one a guy is in a serious relationship with some that they truly love they less critical. But at the start the man is looking for a physical attraction just as much if not more so than the woman. But I would not say looks do not matter for women either, I just think women are more willing to give a guy a chance.

[Guy13]

Women for sure. They notice things we don’t.

[jennifer_bloom]

I find men care more about looks when deciding whether to date you but not when deciding whether to respect you or hire you. I’ve had girls disrespect me by ditching me when better looking people arrived wanting their attention.

[Asad1ONE1]

Those studies are misleading because thorough research recently shows many women lie about how much they care about looks and possibly even more than men.

I was once in a situation when a woman got suddenly upset and seemed frustrated right after looking at me. She rejected herself.

Looks matter more than women admit

[suzzieQ]

@Asad1ONE1 all women do it because you were once in a situation.. yeah that’s how that works lol

[blueonblack22]

@jennifer_bloom very accurate assessment there. Yes men are admittedly very visually stimulated when it comes to dating. Women are too BUT they have all sorts of competing (and sometimes conflicting) interests on what they look for when dating. Men on the otherhand are more likely to feel intoxicated with an attractive woman and it shuts down our normally logical brains. But again that depends on a man’s experience and self control.

However outside of dating you are absolutely correct about how men really don’t care about looks. We care about getting the job done or effectively accomplishing a task. It might be easier to interact with attractive people for this but again we care about results. Women care about how people look that they interact with because whatever emotion they feel from someone’s looks (either negative or positive) impacts their feelings about a certain job, task or interaction. Men don’t care about that.

I personally got hired at 22 for a high level internship that I was under qualified for. Reason being the female manager thought I was cute. She didn’t say that of course but I could tell by how she kept smiling at me. Since she’s a woman she could get away with that bias with little or no judgment. But a male manager who did the same thing would automatically be viewed with stereotypical suspicion.

[blueonblack22]

A male manager probably would be nervous about hiring an attractive young woman for a whole host of reasons (especially nowadays). Sure he will notice her but considering if he’s focused on his job he will care only about her qualifications more than anything.

I also noticed women are more judgmental about whether or not politicians are attractive or not. Sure it’s easy to make fun of an ugly politician when you don’t like their party affiliation. But as a man I could care less if the politician looked like Frankenstein just as long as their policies align for what I want for this county and my own livelihood.

This also goes for how some women label friendly yet unattractive guys “creepy” on first encounters. Men get that negative feeling too around unattractive people but we aren’t as quick to indulge it. We usually take more time to interact with the person (in profesional settings) before giving them that very negative judgment.

[Asad1ONE1]

@suzzieQ yes she represents women and women represent her. And women represent human beings.

[Asad1ONE1]

@blueonblack22 yes women care about looks just as much as men + a lot more LOL. As a man, you should be proud to be looked at for more than just your looks.

[Asad1ONE1]

Women are much more than just their looks too, but I hope they feel that way. Perspective also matters.

[inhua]

no. men are not more judgmental on looks than women. men aren't more judgmental than women at all. women even judge over women based on their looks.

contrary to popular belief, men and women are both equally visual, the only difference is that men's visuals are a lot more broad and varied and based purely on subjectively e. g. facial aesthetics, body shape etc. whereas women's visuals are a lot more narrow and rigid and based more on objective factors e. g. shoulder width, height, angle of jawline etc.

[OfMiceandMen]

Guys when they are younger seem to focus on three things face, boobs and ass, but as they get older and go through relationships, they realize appearances can be deceiving. So they look for other qualities... or at least they should grow up and look at other qualities.

As for women, I don't claim to know much, but I assume they are very much the same. A lot of the times, gorgeous guys that are successful can be total a-holes bc they know if their girl's not treating them well they jump ship to the next one and start all over again (not all good looking guys, some have respect). So girls, do the same thing and scale back the appearance criteria to find a guy that is honest, true to them and treats them right.

[RavVid]

I think men are more basic and it revolves around do I want to have sex with her. I might want to sex with her because I am extremely horny and she's a girl. It might be she has a spectacular body. It might be because she is bright and vivacious. Or some combo of these three in varying parts. Looks are not necessarily that significant though body shape is to me. Too buxom and it is a no for me.

I tend to think girls will be more particular and less willing to compromise than a man who just wants a vagina.

[RingOfFire]

A number of animal species have one gender that is more ornamental than the other aimed at attracting a mate. Male Cardinals, for example, have the bright red color, while the females are more drab and plain looking. Presumably, the female Cardinals find this attractive and nature designed it as a way to promote procreation and therefore survival of the species.

In humans it is the female that is the ornamental one. Makeup, jewelry, brightly colored clothing... and the males who are the drab ones. Clearly men are more naturally prone to visual stimulation from the opposite sex than women.

But I also agree with another commenter here that women seem to pay much more attention to detail when it comes to appearance. I think men would be turned on by a pig with lipstick in a skirt. They are into looks, but not especially particular.

[Twalli]

Okay, so this is a loaded question. Physically men care a lot about weight and boob size. The former can be changed more easily than the latter, but both can be changed. Side note, only change your boob size if you want to for yourself, never do it to get or keep a guy. So while we are picky, we want things that aren't set in stone. Women are picky about height (and sometimes) dick size. Those can't be changed. So I would say women, because they don't seek things that a man can improve upon to get her, while men do in women.

[suzzieQ]

Actually they can be changed.

[Twalli]

@suzzieQ height can't be, if he's fully grown and there is no safe way to change dick size.

[suzzieQ]

There are surgeries to lengthen limbs it called Osteotomy, and Penuma is the only penis enlargement surgery cleared for commercial use under the Food and Drug Administration’s (FDA) 510(k) regulation. The device is FDA-cleared for cosmetic enhancement.

[Twalli]

@suzzieQ are they financially feasible? Boobjobs aren't pocket change, but they're doable.

[suzzieQ]

Depending on how much you want it, yeah. Less than what you could buy a new car for.

[bkcutie11]

Twalli, boob jobs are around 10,000 dollars. They also have been known to possibly cause health issues and get removed. Which cost more money. Women don't care that much about height. If your dick gets me off that's big enough. Horse cock being most desires is untrue. That's me anyway not all women.

[Twalli]

This is why you should only get boob jobs if you want them. Height is a bigger concern than women would admit, even if they don't realize it. I remember one woman saying that women don't really care about height and then proceeded to tell me how hard it was to find a man taller than her. As for dick size, I know that women don't typically want a cock that's huge, but some girls prefer a cock that's slightly longer than normal, and other girls prefer normal or slightly smaller. Very few prefer either extreme, but it's still a concern.

[bkcutie11]

5 in long is fine. Which most men are at least this big. Height, I'm 5'4 and I've dated men my Height which again most men are that or taller.

[suzzieQ]

And that is why men should only get surgery to alter their appearance if they want to. Both are determined by genetics, and both could be changed if you wanted to.

[Paulalove98]

Guys are usually because they want a skinny girl with a certain boob or butt size at least most of them.. that’s why they’re always asking for photos the second they meet a girl, at least most. Sure women care about guys looks too but not all. The guy could still be 5”7 and I’ll happily take him, he could be average weight and I could still find him hot, in fact most of my ex boyfriends were under 6ft and average looking according to society but to me super handsome and sexy.

[Asad1ONE1]

I like how you assume that women going for guys under 6' means women are less judgmental lol. Maybe because they actually find such heights attractive? More so than taller? Not to mention them caring just as much about any other physical attribute.

🤡🤡

[more_than_a_guy]

Women are more judgmental, even towards other women. Men are just happy to see a pair. You may think that because looks is the first thing we notice, for example, I approach the beautiful lady and see how her personality is. But from the start I won't approach a woman I don't think is physically attractive.

[bkcutie11]

I see that. I met find a girl not that attractive but you might think is pretty bangable

[more_than_a_guy]

Yeah, I would approach as well. Also, just like women, we can change our thinking. If I see a girl who is ok, but her behaviour is full of sex appeal, she becomes more attractive to me. And vice versa, a beautiful woman who is hot, but her behaviour is shit, no more attractive.

[Asad1ONE1]

Nah you are are lost. Men and women are equally judgmental towards both their own and opposite gender.

[Asad1ONE1]

And you actually think "men are just happy to see a pair". It speaks volumes for a rare opinion lol. Men (just like women) are picky about so many other aspects of physical and emotional attachment.

[Fireguy17]

I think generally yes.
I have seen quite a number of women with averageish guys.
yet not too often do you see a good-looking guy with averageish women.
So either they are hung like a horse, really rich or just nice guys with a sense of humor.
I'm thinking it is the last 2.

[TenderFantasy]

definitely men.

If a man doesn't find you attractive, there goes your opportunity to date him, have sex with him or marry him and have a family with him.

If a woman doesn't find you attractive, so what? They're not the ones that you have to bait in order to have a family! TRUTH!

[Aiko_E_Lara]

That would be more like if a woman judge you, no matter how judgmental they get, it doesn't affect you because you don't date them anyways. That doesn't make men more judgmental. A simple "judgement" from a guy affects you more than a harsh judgement for a woman.

[suzzieQ]

@Aiko_E_Lara speak for your self

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@suzzieQ well i'm not the one here talking about opportunities to date. How about if she speaks for you?

[suzzieQ]

@Aiko_E_Lara Oh I agree with her, she is right. I dont agree with your opinion that you are trying to present as fact.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Then if you agree with her then speak for yourself as well. And as if the two of you aren't trying to present it as facts

[suzzieQ]

@Aiko_E_Lara Right because tons of people want to marry and have a family with someone, they aren't attracted to... Do you want to have sex, get married and have a family with someone you aren't attracted to?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I think you failed to see the point ofmy response (not a surprise) when did i actually say that just because someone is not attracted to them means the judge them? I am saying that a man's judgment can hurt more than a woman's judgment to a woman it's because woman just tend to care less about what other women say because they're not going to date them anyways. But you are interpreting it your way so you can't blame anyone

[suzzieQ]

@Aiko_E_Lara You didn't say it can, you said it does. You stated it as a fact not a possibility.

"A simple "judgement" from a guy affects you more than a harsh judgement for a woman."

There was no can there, now if you had said that you thought, or stated that it can or could instead of presenting your opinions as facts you might have more success conveying your point.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Then ask her why she is talking about "a man" not "some men" and she even mentioned "its a fact" herself. Unlike her i'm not generalizing women but i'm talking about her specifically because that is basically she feels. So why is it ok for her to claim her claims as if it a fact but if i do the same thing it's not ok? Because if that is there a sense of justice then i'd say it's pretty poor

[suzzieQ]

@Aiko_E_Lara do you personally know any man who has sex gets married and has a family with someone he was never attracted to?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Thats no and that same goes for women. And my answer to your question is what made my point. She thinks men are more judgmental just because we're the compatible gender for dating her. she's not taking it personally if a woman would judge her because she don't date women.

[suzzieQ]

@Aiko_E_Lara so she was correct, which is why she can make a blanket statement like such.

You’re the one making immaculate random statement about making judgements and how that affects people. No one wants to listen to some boy man splain about how being rejected makes them feel, so talk about your own experiences and opinions and how if make you feel instead of projecting that onto everyone else

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Except that's just on her is to why she or you would take men more personally than taking women more personally for making thesame judgement not the man being more judgmental. No one also likes listening to some girl womansplain about being rejected. It's like blaming anyone for your feelings and you just making poor justification "just because"

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Also she's basically saying if a guy calls you ugly, its the end of the world but if a girl calls you ugly, it's nothing because they dont mean much. I think you're just being blind on purpose to give yourself an excuse to womansplain

[Asad1ONE1]

@Aiko_E_Lara it really is a waste of time arguing over this unpopular opinion, immature opinion from a little girl. Real women don't act emotionally immature. We all know the truth. Or should know the truth: judgmental on looks isn't gender specific.

[TenderFantasy]

@Asad1ONE1 Omg why are people on my case for lol. I just stated the TRUTH to something. Just because you don't agree that the sky is blue (and you call it pink polk dot) does NOT make it untrue! Why you are HATING on my comment people what gives? ! Lol. What I've said is definitely true, at least from what I have observed and experienced in life from other people and just my personal experiences a little bit too. Why so mean and calling this an "unpopular opinion"? ! I GAVE you guys reasons as to why I think this! ... And I am NOT an immature little girl lol, where did I DISPLAY that? ! I'm 38 (going on 39 soon. Only a year younger if not less than you) so unless you're lying about your age, I've got a lot of CREDIBILITY behind what I am saying! It's from YEARS of observing both sexes!

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@TenderFantasy i simply debunked your "truth". You're comparing your notion which is just based on your experience to the notion that the sky is blue which is basically what everyone else agree with so that's like a terrible comparison. Because nobody can just speak for themselves when they say the sky is blue. You're talking about personal experience so speak for yourself

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@Asad1ONE1 the reason why i don't leave people like them alone is because they spread like virus. I have plenty of logic left so i have to make use of it

[TenderFantasy]

@Aiko_E_Lara I understand, but if you will just see it from my perspective, what I am saying also makes sense! I don't think I am the ONLY one who's observed this. It's quite NATURAL (a natural course to things) to care more about what a guy you're attracted to thinks, rather than what a girl (with whom you're NOT attracted to) thinks!.. It basically shatters your HOPE for a relationship or anything further with that person. Unlike, if just some random woman thought you were ugly, you'd care LESS because she's not a factor (or an element) to your goal! She doesn't contribute positively to your ultimate goal of having a marriage and family. And from pure NON-BIASED observation, that's what MOST women want. A husband and a baby! Otherwise, you'd see a SHARP decline in women having babies because of overpopulation (solely) however, that is NOT the case! By nature people are selfish (I've read and observed that myself), and so it only makes SENSE that people are going to go after things that SERVE them and their goals in life. If it doesn't, they could care less! As cruel as that sounds really.

[suzzieQ]

@Aiko_E_Lara truth isn’t subjective…. Something is either true or it’s false. There is no in between. But since you think that YouTube is reliable source of accurate information… I can understand why you would also believe that

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Truth isn't subjective but her truth is subject. She made it clear that it was based on her personal experience so she should be speaking it for herself and still i don't think you are even more qualified than anyone who makes educational youtube videos. You cannot even explain how it is true. You are saying it is true like how flat earther think the earth is flat and say "its objective" but since you are against youtube, maybe it's because you are one of them.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@TenderFantasy because you care more what guys think, that doesn't really make is a guy the one more judgmental because you are making those feelings up. If both genders objectively insult you the same way, none of them are more judgmental than the other.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

In other words you are blaming men for how much you care more about their opinions. And i know you're not the only one like that. Because i know there are plenty of other narcissists around who doesn't know how to take responsibilities for their feelings who just like to blame anyone for it.

[TenderFantasy]

@Aiko_E_Lara The thing with truth is it CAN be subjective, that's true. If you want to believe that the earth is flat, despite hundreds of evidence proving otherwise, then that's on you, and most people would think you were crazy and not want to deal with you. But in general what's true IS true. Someone cannot be HALF pregnant like they say. You either are or you aren't, there's no in between. You can be in DENIAL that's for sure, but that doesn't really benefit anyone in the long run. Sadly, life isn't as black and white though, that's true! You got one side competing against another side. That's how wars and politics always start. They think they are right over someone else. An ex told me there was THREE sides to a story, his side, her side and the TRUTH.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Then you have proven my point that it is subjective which is supposed to be a counter argument to @suzzieQ and i am using flat earther of an analogy and why i don't believe that the earth is flat is because, like what you said, there are hundreds of evidence proving that it isn't. And it is also just like how there are hundreds of evidence proving that your claim is false but it is just on you on what you like to believe. The question here is who is more judgmental, not who is more affected by judgment from whom. Those two questions are really different from each other. Of course life isn't black and white because there are plenty kinds of people around but there are only two genders to analyze so if you want to talk one side of the story, it so easy to talk about the other side of the story.

[suzzieQ]

@Aiko_E_Lara there is no such thing. There is only true and false. Facts are not subjective, feeling and perspective is sure, but truth is not.

[TenderFantasy]

@Aiko_E_Lara >And it is also just like how there are hundreds of evidence proving that your claim is false but it is just on you on what you like to believe. < No honey, that's not how it goes lol. I didn't MAKE ANYTHING up. It's all from what I've seen with my own eyes, have felt, and ALL of that stuff. Just like you said, what you think is true is true for YOU but what I said in my answer, it's from observing OBJECTIVELY NOT subjectively. I did NOT tell my personal story in my answer. I am like the REPORTER telling the weather. I report what I see!

And yes, maybe women can be more judgmental on looks but so what. Like I said, it matters LESS in the bigger goal of women's lives because she is NOT trying to date, marry the woman, so her point of view is mute in a way. Get it? The only way that woman would care about how another woman views her is if she had any insecurity issues or was in high school, junior high and she wanted to be a part of the in crowd/popular girls group, just like in the Mean Girls movie. Otherwise, who GIVES a fuck what another woman thinks!

[Aiko_E_Lara]

There's a reason why aren't you in with your feelings is a logical fallacy. Argumentum ad Ignorantiam its because feelings are subjective which doesn't make it a fact. Facts are not indeed subjective which has nothing to do with your arguments but feelings are. Your arguments are far from facts.

What you're giving right now are anecdotes really. Anecdotes because you are basing things on what you have seen but i can also base things on what i have seen. I can also say that i have seen more women insulting looks than men. But how exactly does that prove anything?

And no you are trying to prove my point saying that women can be more judgmental but the only thing is that it affects you less. So that doesn't really mean that men in general are just more judgmental because it affects you more so it's not a fact that men are more judgmental than women. You are talking about your own facts that's why speak for yourself

[TenderFantasy]

@Aiko_E_Lara I'm not sure I really understand what you are trying to get at. You seem to be nit picking things towards your favor. I can speak for myself that's true and I have. Where did I say that I didn't? But also, like we already agreed, I'm not alone in observing this type of behavior in women. By the way, there is NO logical fallacy in what I said because I have EVIDENCE for the things I've said. Where's YOUR evidence that what you are saying that women are more judgmental (if that IS indeed true), is the grand truth! Like well agree, life can be subjective based on what someone has experienced and observed! However, like I said, there is a general TRUTH to something! With my answer, there's been PLENTY of evidence that can back it up!

[Aiko_E_Lara]

It doesn't take a genius. The coating was a counter argument and i was mainly arguing with @suzzieQ not you. It is you admitting that it is subjective while i agree because i don't think it is objective like how suzzie believe it to be.

I'm not even saying that women are more judgmental. I'm trying to say they are about the same because neither of us have met all men and women in the world. And anecdotes are not really proof. If you like to say that what you experience is proof that i can also say that what i have experience is also proof. So if there is a general truth to something then it could be either men are more judgmental or women are more judgmental. The truth is unknown then.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

*That was a counter argument

[Asad1ONE1]

Another INCEL

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@Asad1ONE1 you talking about yourself?

[Asad1ONE1]

@Aiko_E_Lara I wasn't talking about you. I was referring to the OP

[TenderFantasy]

@Asad1ONE1 Dude what's your problem with me lol. I'm not an incel just because I just told what I have observed in BOTH sexes! An incel is someone who is angry at the opposit sex (undeservely mind you), for not CATERING to them or liking them so they get bitter at a whole gender/sex. I'm not bitter. You need to grow up and act 39 please.

[suzzieQ]

@TenderFantasy actually an incel is someone who can't get laid...

[TenderFantasy]

@suzzieQ Same thing. Maybe the person wants a relationship (or sex) or whatever, and that can only happen in a relationship, marriage, friends with benefits, ONS, etc. and if that can't even happen..

[suzzieQ]

No it's not, incel and a person angry at the opposite sex isn't the same. The can and often go together but not always

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@suzzieQ @TenderFantasy then that explains everything about how if a man judges you thesame way a woman judges you, it just angers you more because you think you lost your opportunity to get laid. You can blame anyone when you said it in the first comment

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@Asad1ONE1 You might wanna use the term "femcel" next time.

[Asad1ONE1]

I hate using the term "femcel" lol. As if it is by default applied to men. Femcel isn't even a proper acronym.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@Asad1ONE1 The word incel isn't even a proper word to begin with yet it's directed to men. But your argument is just like saying "Male" is the default that's why i don't use the word "Female"

[TenderFantasy]

@Asad1ONE1 Look, out of ALL of the answers saying practically the SAME thing as me (that men are the more judgmental sex), WHY did YOU choose my answer to rag on? ! What is your damn problem lol. Not only that, I GAVE reasons for why I thought what I said!

[Asad1ONE1]

"Human beings" may or may not be judgmental. This isn't gender specific, given that we remove "nurture" from the equation LOL. Certain women like you (thankfully rare) pretend not to care about looks because you can get away with these lies due to societal narratives. Bottom line is that human beings may or may not care about looks to varying degrees, be it man or woman.

[Asad1ONE1]

@Aiko_E_Lara I meant that an INCEL can be anyone. I hate the term FEMCEL because it sounds like females are an exception to the rule lol. I hate that society perceives INCELS to be predominantly male.

[TenderFantasy]

@Asad1ONE1 Honestly, I do think both can be very judgmental too it's not gender specific, but what I was trying to say in my answer is that, a man's judgement often times matters MORE to a woman than another woman's opinion of her, depending on if she was particularily interested in said man or is hitting the dating scene, etc not just looking for friendship. Ultimately, it DOES matter what the man thinks of her, because like I said, things often won't go forward from there, if the man doesn't deem her WORTHY of a date, or more. But yes, both can be judgmental and I've honestly been hurt from women's unfair judgements of me in the past when I was younger. They didn't make the movie "Mean Girls" for nothing!

But still, you're not too nice if you're going to pick on my answer and deem it "wrong", just because you happen to disagree with it! Peace.

[Asad1ONE1]

Of course lol. And the same goes for men. Opposites attract. That is why. Men and women couldn't care more about what the other thinks.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@Asad1ONE1 yeah sure it can be anyone but however it got that reputation associated with men for a long time now just like how Karens are for women. Just like the male and female example i was talking about, it's like males are the default but females are males but "fe" implying they are not normal males.

[Asad1ONE1]

Well duh 🙄. I'm sure a woman's judgment of man would matter much more than a man's judgment. Men are not attracted to other men lol.

[Asad1ONE1]

@Aiko_E_Lara thanks to events like "Elliot Rodger" and other similar events lol. Thankfully rare though.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Which is not even different to feminists and Karens spreading their agenda.

[Anonymous]

Comes down to the person. But based on the men and women i met so far, i think men are more judgmental as more of them tend to be pickier in terms of woman’s physics. While woman prefers emotional security and would settle for an average looking man.

[menina]

I think that men are more judgmental since they care more about looks. They go after women who they find attractive and nothing more.

[Anonymous]

Women. I feel like a lot of men just see a pair of boobs and a cooch and go yay! Whereas a woman will see who he is as a person and how he presents himself and determine whether she’s interested or not.

[Asad1ONE1]

Girlfriend just proved you wrong.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh nooo what ever will I do 🤡

[Asad1ONE1]

Yup, you've definitely been cheated on. And no this ain't funny.

[Opinion Owner]

Neither of your replies make any sense. Put down the pipe you’re smoking.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

We can sit here and pretend that most of a woman’s value isn’t in her looks but shut up because it is

women are more judgmental and I know they are more judgmental they can’t handle criticism

parents ( mothers specifically ) have the supernatural ability to obliterate their child’s confidence with a simple “ Isn’t that sweater a little tight dear?”

that’s why so many women don’t like their mothers especially girls today who are much fatter than women from 40 years ago

[Vinnygraphix]

Actually no woman tend to be more judgmental reason being a guy like my self tries to get to know them and take them out on a date they are quick to tell me 1 you are too short you are too much of a nice guy and 3 I am not ready yet to be in a relationship or i don’t deserve to be loved

[test_1]

90% of women are picker than 90% of guys when it comes to looks

only top 10-5 % of guys are picky when it comes to looks because they have a lot of options as they are very attractive.

but the top 90% of girls all have options and so they are likewise very picky.

[Anonymous]

Women have much higher standard of what they find attractive in men. They see most men as below 5/10.

On the other hand they also give less important to physical appearance when choosing a partner.

The question is : do they give less importance for physical appearance because they find most men ugly or because they genuinely consider other factors as more important?

[Opinion Owner]

The idea that women are not visual often come down from the perception that women's sexuality is mich more evolved and less vulgar/simple than men's, whose sexuality is deemed superficial.

This is why you see women groping male strippers (even when having a boyfriend), hiring male strippers at their office, etc. while belittling men going to strip clubs as sexist : they defend their own behaviors as "just for fun" and not sexual.

[rienna888]

I’m very judgmental about looks of my partner but I’m usually nice to guys even not being attracted to them. But a lot of men I know will straight up be mean to a random girl because they aren’t attracted to them.

[Anonymous]

Men for the long term and women for short-term relationships care more about looks. Anyways most women don't bring anything to the table except looks and that's socially acceptable. Women can just look pretty and can marry rich guys and live comfortably. Where men have to build status earn money, approach, and carry the relationship.

[Sirenboobzilla]

I think we are the more judgmental ones. I find men tend to have a broader range of what they find attractive, whereas we tend to be more selective.

[Vegasrunner]

@Sirenboobzilla Men will lower their standards in regards to women they bang, but have higher standards when it comes to the attractiveness of a women they will commit to.

[Asad1ONE1]

@Vegasrunner that's just how it works with women lol I've literally seen women check out and creep on men and their body parts, even those I would deem stereotypically unattractive.

[Vegasrunner]

@Asad1ONE1 Lol, for starters a mans attractiveness isn't as important as a woman. You can be ugly and make up for it in other ways, an ugly woman doesn't have that luxury

[Asad1ONE1]

@Vegasrunner Any man that thinks his looks aren't as important to a woman as vice versa is a fool. Any woman that says that is a manipulative liar. And sadly, many of them are.

[Vegasrunner]

@Asad1ONE1 That certainly is an opinion you are welcome to hold, however reality doesn't align with that. If what you were saying was true, name the physically unattractive female that is desired by men.

[Asad1ONE1]

@Vegasrunner can't believe you're FORT FIVE and are still victim to societal myths and manipulative women.

Real men know who women are.

[Vegasrunner]

@Asad1ONE1 Fortunately because of my actual experiences w/ women I'm operating on valid tangible facts. If you're still operating on myths even after being unable to present a tangible answer to a simple question the perhaps you may want to rethink your own POV. TBH your POV sounds more like a female pretending to be a man.

[misogynistic_pig]

No.

.

[misogynistic_pig]

I didn't read the question correctly. The answer is yes.

[Dkc123]

💯% NO.

Most men are working their asses of to get some average punani. They don't have any time or patience to think what other thinking or feeling about themselves.

[Anonymous]

There is no question women are more judgmental.

[bkcutie11]

I can see this being true. When come across rating, tinder or other sites. Men tend over generalize most women being attractive. Most over 6. Then again like ridiculously gorgeous ones get the same. rating. that also reminds how everyone has different preferences.

[Asad1ONE1]

@bkcutie11 "fake-up" and fashion is a thing ya know 😂. I've actually heard many women claim the opposite: more attractive men than women.

[Lucy68]

Of course men care about looks, it's a sad truth

[Anonymous]

If we're talking about HIGH QUALITY men and high quality women, then the men are probably going to be more picky about looks than the women are. Though in the mid range it may be more similar or possibly the women are pickier.

[Asad1ONE1]

Both equally judgmental on looks. More or less. Many women lie about not caring about looks because it's a power game for them. Sad but true.

[Alex8736]

most men i know are without even getting to know the person. But personally if women are like that too which I don't about i feel if they don't like what they see then don't look 😁

[Blackcupcake]

I heard men are generally more shallow but not sure about the facts behind it lol

[LiamJHayden]

Men when it comes to actual relationships. When it could to hookups, a lot of guys do not care much.

[BJP21]

The only thing Im picky on is personality and attitude. If you personality and attitude sucks, its a no go. Looks is secondary.

[loveslongnails]

Women are less picky if the guy checks off a lot of other boxes. Men are only picky until the 2nd drink kicks in.

[suzzieQ]

There is a reason dad bods are a desirable thing but mom bods aren’t

[Asad1ONE1]

There is a reason women lie and men don't 😂

[suzzieQ]

@Asad1ONE1 lol men dont lie? Really, no man has ever lied about his height or penis length? Grow up dude.

Men and women both lie, men generally lie by exaggerating and women generally lie by minimizing.

[TheSimFans]

Yep some women can be judegemetanal over attractive women.

[TheSimFans]

I'm not attracted to women.

[Hardworkingguy]

I've noticed from my experience that it's a tie both sexes are very picky when it comes to how a person looks

[PatriceONeal]

It's been scientifically proven that women are far more shallow about looks than men are. The 80/20 rule.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I thought you women do it for yourselves (because it's because you judge yourself more than men do)

[Anonymous]

Women. Because we’re not just gonna let just any simpleton f-k.

[Anonymous]

I personally judge a girl's look only if she wears boring stuff. As soon as she wears hot, sexy, girly, revealing clothing, I don't care if she has skirts or leggings.

[monalisathegreat]

I think us women definitely are. Men really are simple… they see things they like and that’s enough for them

[Asad1ONE1]

"Us" women 🤡

[Anonymous]

Its definitely women. Most men across all demographics struggle on dating apps but a fat girl can go on tinder and find a way to get laid, easily. The whole dating system is a joke.

[Anonymous]

Women. There's just so few men they find attractive that they learn to not care.

[KathrynTaylor]

I think men are.

[Amy10223]

I'm not sure, but I know I am, sadly.

[Hassan_8]

Women for sure

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I think I'd say it is us women.

[Iron_Man]

About the same

[KostasKouvalis]

Women for sure.

[HaveNoName]

Men are more visual so it has to be them.

[panerabricks]

Men are trash so who cares.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I'd say men are we're very visual creatures

[Faith18letsgo]

I feel like men are.

[Jamie05rhs]

I think women are.

[Heolurt]

Women.

[LimitedBenefits101]

Easy women.

[ballweevil]

women