Do you think men or women care more about looks?

[gayesblog]

This may be related to his/her own appearence or the look of their partner :)

[Screenwriter]

Has nothing to do if it's a man or a woman. It has to do with this person's personality and values, and how they were raised.

If a man or woman has parents who complimented them when they dressed nicely or took care of themselves physically, AND stressed they develop life skills: know how to keep a bank account balanced, see their doctor regularly, shop for groceries, food, and clothes with a budget in mind, be able to cook, clean, sew on a button, use a hammer and nails, know the basics about a car and home they have, read books and magazines, watch and listen to the news to know what's happening locally, nationally and in the world, know how to get along in school and the workplace, how to pay bills and save money, how to be a good friend and partner.

The former items are a laundry list of skills to live in joy and peace. If a child is raised to trade on something as transitory as looks, something that could change with an illness or accident, in a SNAP!, they will suffer a rude awakening when those looks fizzle, either temporarily or permanently.

There is nothing so sad as to see a former prom queen or handsome Harry strut around as if they're still the 17-year-old who was a football or Mr. or Ms. popularity.

High school is over in a flash. But skills remain with you for life, and can be shared with friends, neighbors and children. Even if you are no longer able to do them, you can teach someone. Give a man a fish, he eats for a day. Teach a man to fish, he eats for a lifetime.

Therefore, teach a child to take care of their entire self, looks, skills, personality, education, friendships, job, they are ready for life. If you only stress one thing, looks, they will live out of balance.

[Lliam]

I tend to think that both men and women care about looks, but maybe a bit differently.

Women are more into aesthetics. They like pretty things. That's why it's nice to have a woman's touch around the house. Women are also attracted to jewelry, accessories, and cute clothes. Men really appreciate the things women do to turn themselves into pretty objects.

I think a lot of women want to look youthful and pretty. They may do it to attract men, but also to feel good about themselves, get attention, and/or compete with other women. Who doesn't like to be admired and complemented?

Women are also attracted to good looking men. They love the male form. The sight of muscles can be as erotic for women as are boobs and round curves for men.

Men don't have to work as hard to be attractive. The only things they can control are fitness, grooming, clothing, and attitude. They don't have to mess with hair, makeup, choosing outfits, shoes and accessories.

In the end, men and women look different and, therefore, have different ways of looking attractive to the opposite sex.

When it comes to other aesthetics, men might think a car or a tool is beautiful. They might not even think about window treatments for their home. But they love the touches a woman can bring to a home. It's one more way to appreciate women's sense of visual aesthetics.

Women and men can equally appreciate beautiful sights like flowers, sunsets, landscapes, puppies, children, and art.

I do think that men are more visual when it comes to sexuality. I already said that women like the male form. But I think men evolved to be instantly turned on by the sight of the female form.

And during sex, men have a visual feast. They can see everything. Women, on the other hand, are a bit limited on what they can see and they are more focused on sensations. So visuals are very important to men when it comes to sexuality.

[AnUglyBarnacle]

Men tend to care more about their performance relative to other men, rather than their looks. This historically was because a man's abilities earned him female recognition.

Women tend to care more about their appearance relative to other women, because attractiveness was historically what caught the attention of men.

As far as partners go, my observation:

As an aggregate, men as a whole sex value a partner's appearance more than the reverse. *BUT*, the sex is so broad in terms of what we find appealing, no matter what you look like, there is probably some dude out there who thinks that you're his type. (thicc, thin, BBW, short, tall, dark-complected, light-complected, every hair color, full lips, thin lips, long hair, short. You name it.)

Women on the other hand don't value looks as much, but as a sex they're more restricted in terms of what they find attractive. This phenomenon can be observed in how the ideal male archetype is quite similar across all cultures historically: relatively big dude with broad shoulders, square jaw, beard (where the men could grow them), and well-muscled. Women may value performance or charm more than looks, but if you're not what they want physically, then you're out of luck without a lot of compensation.

[Perverted_Creep]

It's changing these days.

"the ideal male archetype is quite similar across all cultures historically: relatively big dude with broad shoulders, square jaw, beard (where the men could grow them), and well-muscled."
Right, but:
If you look around nowadays, I just saw some under 18 user ask an anonymous question about this "pete davidson"
I looked them up and it's an androgynous abomination. No different from justin bieber. Or remember this model who got drunk and told the interview "I'm a tranny".. her husband Machine Gun Kelly is another one of those ultra popular celebrities that just make me upset. The top most popular woman celebrities are MTF transitioners and the most popular man celebrities are FTM transitioners, across most of the world today, they have infiltrated. It offends many but it's not my intent. Most celebrities are sinister "illuminati trannies" and one of their goals is making their followers androgynous. That's why so many people are gender confused these days.

[CrazyGirl2]

it depends on the people and the location, I think men in general care more about their partner’s looks but less about their own, while women care about our own looks more than we care about our partners. But I’m from a more rural community just outside of a big city. In the city, there seems to be an epidemic of gold diggers. About 80% of women are only interested in about the top 10% of men, in terms of looks and income! That’s so sad, I’m definitely not in that 80%, as I could not care less about what a man earns, and since my dad has a fleet of exotic sports cars, they just do not impress me! I would MUCH rather have an intelligent, funny, well rounded man than just one who earns a lot of money!

[jennifer_bloom]

I think men are programmed to care more cause they are assessing the women’s biological fertility and suitability for children while the women are looking at the man’s invisible brain and ability to provide resources for her kids when she is at home taking care of babies and not able to work.

[Summeroflove]

I think it’s a mixture of both. Men want beautiful women. Many women want men a certain height etc and want at least a decent looking man.


But I seen men with options be with women who aren’t the most beautiful women in the world and some beautiful women with less looking men.


Also beauty is subjective and what different people want just depends

[Guy13]

Women and their Improvements are much more noticeable than men's improvements. And guys like being the cause as well as a part of the improvement... like in person.

And in the same way, women like to help men but differently. Usually emotional development or overall evolution into a well-rounded man which usually does not register with us.

[AviatorTom]

In general, women are more interested in aesthetics... how things look, and that includes how they look. Guys... looks aren't as important, comfort and function rules.

[BlueScorpio]

Men definitely care more about looks or physical attraction sense they're the more visual sex as I've seen many men say.

[coachTanthony]

I think women probably but men are not far behind.

[Avicenna]

Women care about looks as much as guys do

[Biancam13]

I don't know where this myth that women don't care about male appearance comes from. As a woman, I can't be with a man if I don't like his looks first and foremost. All of my friends also go for both looks and personality in dating. Like men, looks are what attracts us first or initially. Then someone's personality and our compatibility with them makes us want to stick around. Why else do you think good-looking guys get so much attention from women throwing themselves at them, and don't really have to approach girls first?

So I would say that both sexes care about appearance. Women probably care about their own appearance more than men do (although there are exceptions), and there's more intersexual competition with women on how they look, but I would say both men and women get attracted to good-looking members of the opposite sex.

[ChiTown33]

I thinks it's an antiquated belief that has just been allowed to persist. As one woman said on here, "in the past women had to rely on men for survival. It was pretty much a forgone conclusion that a woman was EXPECTED to get married and have kids. And since a 150 years. Ago people seldom traveled further than 50 miles from home in there lifetime that really limited a person's options. Today a woman can do pretty much ANYTHING with her life. And that has allowed her to forge a life without a man if she wants (this has both positive an negative consequences for the social structure). And when you think about it this reality has only existed for about a couple generations. So we as a society (both men and women are still adjusting to it). I personally think this "confusion" is going to get worse before it gets better. Large social changes typically are accompanied bu social upheaval.

[pers0n]

Both. I used to care much more about looks.

Now, (not joking or anything) I learned that most problems of unattractiveness are caused by poor health, and being brainwashed into bad habits and lifestyle.

Most people have the potential to be 7-10 so to say, attractive, if they just knew how..

All the preventable diseases.. which the... "seinnarT itanimullI" deliberately push on the masses.

In addition they thenselves are all fake, they lie about gender and destroy everything that's natural..

Which made me just appreciate regular people even more. Learning now how to spot these "unnatural" looking overlords using bone structure, they are really like my enemies now, like I have teamed up with the rest of humanity against them.. and i don't care if you have a crooked face, as long as your soul isn't crooked.

[pers0n]

I know women who stopped in a sense "caring" about looks for this same reason.
There is nobody who doesn't care at all, and we should all care to keep ourselves looking healthy. Health should be our only physical beauty standard.

[pers0n]

Related to his own appearance and not the look of their friend's/partner's, women do.

I know very few women who think that they can just start their day without spending half an hour on changing their appearance.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

As is proved by many questions; men are visual creatures. True for more than the majority of the gender. But focusing on looks holds many more reasons for women, than just focusing on looks for men.

I have seen women purchase dresses not because they were looking good on them, but because how would someone they know would think and comment. A constant comparison is seen when girls/women are purchasing dresses, and other cosmetic products.

It is like an internal fierce competition among women. I think that makes them focus on looks more than for men.

[HighValue]

Women care more about looks than men do. Me being 6' tall and strong from lifting weights, I get noticeably more attention that the other guys I have worked with. Plus there are so many men that have been rejected a lot due to their height that it obviously matters. Even search filter statistics show that men under 5' 10" are nearly doomed if they rely on dating sites/apps to find a mate.

Many men though just want a woman with at least a 5 in looks, not fat, and not covered with tattoos.

[Lookingforthetruth]

Women car more about looks than men and usually women care about things that guys have to be born with. While men often care about things that women can actively change about themselves.

For example, it's no surprise that women care a lot about height. Which men can only change by undergoing risky surgery that can leave them crippled.

Meanwhile guys care about things like a woman's weight that she can actively change about her and be met with a big boost to her attractiveness.

Now, I know some women will say that men can compensate with status/money but the woman who want men for these things isn't sexually attracted to him. She likes him for the lifestyle he can provide and his material possession but not him as a person. There is a difference between wanting someone and needing them.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Regarding their own physical appearance women care more about looks.

Regarding choosing the opposite sex men in the general sense definitely care far more about physical looks.

A woman will still be a man if he is ugly but has some sort of money he can offer a certain lifestyle to her, is very funny and has a very good personality.

Men on the other hand you can be very rich, have amazing personality etc but if the woman is ugly to him she doesn't stand a chance to get with him relationship wise. Zero.

[Anonymous]

Women care just as much about looks as men, but they judge men's looks more harshly.

But today's women also know that they have little to offer men beyond their looks and sex appeal, so women put much more emphasis on their own looks than men put on theirs, because men know they offer women a lot of things beyond physical attractiveness and sex appeal.

[MementoMori_]

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[Opinion Owner]

@MementoMori_ They didn't do the study; they just supply the raw, unaltered data.

[JennaWillow]

I think it's the same amount for both men and women. What changes how much value people put on it I feel is more to do with their age, rather than their gender. The older people get, the less they care about aesthetics and more about compatibility

[Novacane]

Well depends on what aspects. His/Her own appearance would be women, though we are seeing a high rise in men's fashion but still not close. But when we are talking about the look of their partner then that would be men as they care more about how a girl looks to determine if they are interested.

[DoctorSex]

Women.

There are really 2 types of men when it comes to this type of thing.

Men that will screw with pretty much anything.

Men who place priority on wife skills and will substitute looks for submission.

Women for the most part, especially when younger, are all about aesthetics.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

[msmissydc]

Men AND women care more about womens looks.
But to your question as this isn't really answering it. I would say men care more about their partners looks and women more about their own, or their own compared to their peer. Not as a generalization but an averaging.
All of this is based on opinions and my own experience, not facts!

[BeMuse]

Women obviously care more about looks. All you have to do is observe how much they pay attention to fashion and how make up. You see guys giving a fuck about any of that shit? No. Women are obsessed with visual appeal. It's the center of their world. Most of their hobbies center around looks. Men focus more on actions and ideas.

[BeMuse]

Ask a women what the invitations to a wedding should look like and I bet it will be a large project. As a guys and he won't give a shit. He'll probably be like just tell your friends when you see them... Maybe text or email them if you want.

[BeMuse]

Go to a guys house and there will be like a bed, a sofa with a TV, a computer table, and he's basically set. Go to a women's house and she'll focus on pills, nick knacks, curtains, or whatever because everything is about appearance for women and how other people will see them. The same is true for the men they choose to date. He's like a fashion accessory for her.

[BeMuse]

*Ask

[BeMuse]

*pillows

[BeMuse]

And after all that women lose their shit if someone judge them based on their looks. It's hilarious because that's literally what they spend most of their time on, judging looks.

[ManOnFire]

Women definitely care about looks more than men. They care not only how they themselves look, but they're focused on how other women look, and focus on how men look too. Even down to facial hygiene and how a man dresses or keeps himself neat, or not neat.