Do you think men or women care more about looks?

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This may be related to his/her own appearence or the look of their partner :)

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I tend to think that both men and women care about looks, but maybe a bit differently.

Women are more into aesthetics. They like pretty things. That's why it's nice to have a woman's touch around the house. Women are also attracted to jewelry, accessories, and cute clothes. Men really appreciate the things women do to turn themselves into pretty objects.

I think a lot of women want to look youthful and pretty. They may do it to attract men, but also to feel good about themselves, get attention, and/or compete with other women. Who doesn't like to be admired and complemented?

Women are also attracted to good looking men. They love the male form. The sight of muscles can be as erotic for women as are boobs and round curves for men.

Men don't have to work as hard to be attractive. The only things they can control are fitness, grooming, clothing, and attitude. They don't have to mess with hair, makeup, choosing outfits, shoes and accessories.

In the end, men and women look different and, therefore, have different ways of looking attractive to the opposite sex.

When it comes to other aesthetics, men might think a car or a tool is beautiful. They might not even think about window treatments for their home. But they love the touches a woman can bring to a home. It's one more way to appreciate women's sense of visual aesthetics.

Women and men can equally appreciate beautiful sights like flowers, sunsets, landscapes, puppies, children, and art.

I do think that men are more visual when it comes to sexuality. I already said that women like the male form. But I think men evolved to be instantly turned on by the sight of the female form.

And during sex, men have a visual feast. They can see everything. Women, on the other hand, are a bit limited on what they can see and they are more focused on sensations. So visuals are very important to men when it comes to sexuality.

AnUglyBarnacle · Accepted Answer

Men tend to care more about their performance relative to other men, rather than their looks. This historically was because a man's abilities earned him female recognition.

Women tend to care more about their appearance relative to other women, because attractiveness was historically what caught the attention of men.

As far as partners go, my observation:

As an aggregate, men as a whole sex value a partner's appearance more than the reverse. *BUT*, the sex is so broad in terms of what we find appealing, no matter what you look like, there is probably some dude out there who thinks that you're his type. (thicc, thin, BBW, short, tall, dark-complected, light-complected, every hair color, full lips, thin lips, long hair, short. You name it.)

Women on the other hand don't value looks as much, but as a sex they're more restricted in terms of what they find attractive. This phenomenon can be observed in how the ideal male archetype is quite similar across all cultures historically: relatively big dude with broad shoulders, square jaw, beard (where the men could grow them), and well-muscled. Women may value performance or charm more than looks, but if you're not what they want physically, then you're out of luck without a lot of compensation.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Has nothing to do if it's a man or a woman. It has to do with this person's personality and values, and how they were raised.

If a man or woman has parents who complimented them when they dressed nicely or took care of themselves physically, AND stressed they develop life skills: know how to keep a bank account balanced, see their doctor regularly, shop for groceries, food, and clothes with a budget in mind, be able to cook, clean, sew on a button, use a hammer and nails, know the basics about a car and home they have, read books and magazines, watch and listen to the news to know what's happening locally, nationally and in the world, know how to get along in school and the workplace, how to pay bills and save money, how to be a good friend and partner.

The former items are a laundry list of skills to live in joy and peace. If a child is raised to trade on something as transitory as looks, something that could change with an illness or accident, in a SNAP!, they will suffer a rude awakening when those looks fizzle, either temporarily or permanently.

There is nothing so sad as to see a former prom queen or handsome Harry strut around as if they're still the 17-year-old who was a football or Mr. or Ms. popularity.

High school is over in a flash. But skills remain with you for life, and can be shared with friends, neighbors and children. Even if you are no longer able to do them, you can teach someone. Give a man a fish, he eats for a day. Teach a man to fish, he eats for a lifetime.

Therefore, teach a child to take care of their entire self, looks, skills, personality, education, friendships, job, they are ready for life. If you only stress one thing, looks, they will live out of balance.

CrazyGirl2 · Accepted Answer

it depends on the people and the location, I think men in general care more about their partner’s looks but less about their own, while women care about our own looks more than we care about our partners. But I’m from a more rural community just outside of a big city. In the city, there seems to be an epidemic of gold diggers. About 80% of women are only interested in about the top 10% of men, in terms of looks and income! That’s so sad, I’m definitely not in that 80%, as I could not care less about what a man earns, and since my dad has a fleet of exotic sports cars, they just do not impress me! I would MUCH rather have an intelligent, funny, well rounded man than just one who earns a lot of money!

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I think men are programmed to care more cause they are assessing the women’s biological fertility and suitability for children while the women are looking at the man’s invisible brain and ability to provide resources for her kids when she is at home taking care of babies and not able to work.

Summeroflove · Answer

I think it’s a mixture of both. Men want beautiful women. Many women want men a certain height etc and want at least a decent looking man.

But I seen men with options be with women who aren’t the most beautiful women in the world and some beautiful women with less looking men.

Also beauty is subjective and what different people want just depends

Guy13 · Answer

Women and their Improvements are much more noticeable than men's improvements. And guys like being the cause as well as a part of the improvement... like in person.

And in the same way, women like to help men but differently. Usually emotional development or overall evolution into a well-rounded man which usually does not register with us.

AviatorTom · Answer

In general, women are more interested in aesthetics... how things look, and that includes how they look. Guys... looks aren't as important, comfort and function rules.

BlueScorpio · Answer

Men definitely care more about looks or physical attraction sense they're the more visual sex as I've seen many men say.

coachTanthony · Answer

I think women probably but men are not far behind.

Avicenna · Answer

Women care about looks as much as guys do

Biancam13 · Answer

I don't know where this myth that women don't care about male appearance comes from. As a woman, I can't be with a man if I don't like his looks first and foremost. All of my friends also go for both looks and personality in dating. Like men, looks are what attracts us first or initially. Then someone's personality and our compatibility with them makes us want to stick around. Why else do you think good-looking guys get so much attention from women throwing themselves at them, and don't really have to approach girls first?

So I would say that both sexes care about appearance. Women probably care about their own appearance more than men do (although there are exceptions), and there's more intersexual competition with women on how they look, but I would say both men and women get attracted to good-looking members of the opposite sex.

pers0n · Answer

Both. I used to care much more about looks.

Now, (not joking or anything) I learned that most problems of unattractiveness are caused by poor health, and being brainwashed into bad habits and lifestyle.

Most people have the potential to be 7-10 so to say, attractive, if they just knew how..

All the preventable diseases.. which the... "seinnarT itanimullI" deliberately push on the masses.

In addition they thenselves are all fake, they lie about gender and destroy everything that's natural..

Which made me just appreciate regular people even more. Learning now how to spot these "unnatural" looking overlords using bone structure, they are really like my enemies now, like I have teamed up with the rest of humanity against them.. and i don't care if you have a crooked face, as long as your soul isn't crooked.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

As is proved by many questions; men are visual creatures. True for more than the majority of the gender. But focusing on looks holds many more reasons for women, than just focusing on looks for men.

I have seen women purchase dresses not because they were looking good on them, but because how would someone they know would think and comment. A constant comparison is seen when girls/women are purchasing dresses, and other cosmetic products.

It is like an internal fierce competition among women. I think that makes them focus on looks more than for men.

HighValue · Answer

Women care more about looks than men do. Me being 6' tall and strong from lifting weights, I get noticeably more attention that the other guys I have worked with. Plus there are so many men that have been rejected a lot due to their height that it obviously matters. Even search filter statistics show that men under 5' 10" are nearly doomed if they rely on dating sites/apps to find a mate.

Many men though just want a woman with at least a 5 in looks, not fat, and not covered with tattoos.

Lookingforthetruth · Answer

Women car more about looks than men and usually women care about things that guys have to be born with. While men often care about things that women can actively change about themselves.

For example, it's no surprise that women care a lot about height. Which men can only change by undergoing risky surgery that can leave them crippled.

Meanwhile guys care about things like a woman's weight that she can actively change about her and be met with a big boost to her attractiveness.

Now, I know some women will say that men can compensate with status/money but the woman who want men for these things isn't sexually attracted to him. She likes him for the lifestyle he can provide and his material possession but not him as a person. There is a difference between wanting someone and needing them.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Regarding their own physical appearance women care more about looks.

Regarding choosing the opposite sex men in the general sense definitely care far more about physical looks.

A woman will still be a man if he is ugly but has some sort of money he can offer a certain lifestyle to her, is very funny and has a very good personality.

Men on the other hand you can be very rich, have amazing personality etc but if the woman is ugly to him she doesn't stand a chance to get with him relationship wise. Zero.

Anonymous · Answer

Women care just as much about looks as men, but they judge men's looks more harshly.

Do you think men or women care more about looks?

But today's women also know that they have little to offer men beyond their looks and sex appeal, so women put much more emphasis on their own looks than men put on theirs, because men know they offer women a lot of things beyond physical attractiveness and sex appeal.

JennaWillow · Answer

I think it's the same amount for both men and women. What changes how much value people put on it I feel is more to do with their age, rather than their gender. The older people get, the less they care about aesthetics and more about compatibility

Novacane · Answer

Well depends on what aspects. His/Her own appearance would be women, though we are seeing a high rise in men's fashion but still not close. But when we are talking about the look of their partner then that would be men as they care more about how a girl looks to determine if they are interested.

ManOnFire · Answer

Women definitely care about looks more than men. They care not only how they themselves look, but they're focused on how other women look, and focus on how men look too. Even down to facial hygiene and how a man dresses or keeps himself neat, or not neat.

DoctorSex · Answer

Women.

There are really 2 types of men when it comes to this type of thing.

Men that will screw with pretty much anything.

Men who place priority on wife skills and will substitute looks for submission.

Women for the most part, especially when younger, are all about aesthetics.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

msmissydc · Answer

Men AND women care more about womens looks.
But to your question as this isn't really answering it. I would say men care more about their partners looks and women more about their own, or their own compared to their peer. Not as a generalization but an averaging.
All of this is based on opinions and my own experience, not facts!

BeMuse · Answer

Women obviously care more about looks. All you have to do is observe how much they pay attention to fashion and how make up. You see guys giving a fuck about any of that shit? No. Women are obsessed with visual appeal. It's the center of their world. Most of their hobbies center around looks. Men focus more on actions and ideas.

Sasha0426 · Answer

I think women care more about looks than men do. Mostly when it comes to their own. Women, as you know, we use makeup, get our hair done, etc. I mean, I don’t use makeup often or do anything special with my hair because it’s a pain in the ass. If anything, I mostly just do light makeup and brush my hair to make it look decent. Hell, I’ll even straighten it. As for men, not really. Yeah they put effort into their looks but they don’t care as much.

pupluv45 · Answer

an ugly man can still get women if he is funny. but an ugly woman will not be able to get a man if she is funny. women are more flexible with what they like.

there is a saying "women fall in love with their ears while men fall in love with their eyes"

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

I think it's pretty equal. Physical attraction is generally the first thing to happen. Difference is we tend to have a more narrow spectrum for what we find attractive whereas men typically have a much broader one

Red-Blaze · Answer

Woman for sure Many man only care the woman is a woman beyond it its a bonus I think most woman care more about there looks and picking a man that fit it, that dose not mean that its a veto eatier way

Anonymous · Answer

Both care equally about looks but lazy guys will tell you “women dont care about looks but status” so they dont have to improve their appearance and delude themselves into thinking that “game” and “status” will save them.

Its as basic as cutting ur nails and shaving ur neckbeard.

compare the average guy’s hands and the average girl’s hands and u will notice how fucking lazy guys are.

blackgaletiger · Answer

One gender cares about looks to look presentable for themselves. The other gender cares about looks to look presentable to others. What will others think of what i wear and how i look and if things are out of place.

serious · Answer

Of course they do. Yes but how much they care is totally subjective to the person. Some people care more and some people care less and some equally.

NathanDavis · Answer

one gender definitely spends a lot more on their own appearance, that is for sure sure... but men do care much more about the looks of their partners, that's also for sure sure

MCheetah · Answer

Women care more about looks. But both genders are highly shallow.

DaisyM23 · Answer

both care about what they look like and what they're attracted to i think, there are exceptions but i think on the whole people care a lot about appearance

icedragoom · Answer

Women care way more about looks I mean seriously when a guy dates a girl and they go out to eat the girl looks at the man and says these famous words " your gonna wearvthat to dinner?"

suckmytitties · Answer

I would say women but that’s because I do, but at the same time I would say neither guys will fuck anything and girls a lot of times like ugly guys. Still, i do feel like women have more standards then men.

Anemone978 · Answer

I think I care a lot about looks at first impressions but if you really like someone. You tend to be more lenient with how they look lol

ShellyB · Answer

I think guys and girls might care equally about looks overall, but, the looks they both care more about are girls looks in my opinion!

exitseven · Answer

I think guys care more about looks. A guy can be really ugly but if he is rich or has a really good personality he can still successfully find a girlfriend.

CindyRuns · Answer

Women for sure... there are lots of guys who obviously don't care what they look like !!!

Adam1978 · Answer

It's used to be men, but I wouldn't say it's true anylonger.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

The importance is equal between us, but women can better afford to be choosy.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

I think it depends on the person, some people are more superficial than others! But at the end of the day physical attraction is key.

Berethor · Answer

Men are strong, women are pretty trope or female hypergamy, which factor is stronger.

Downhill20 · Answer

Objectively both care about looks... It would be very rare if someone says they dont care about looks at all for a romantic partner.

RavVid · Answer

Who spends more on clothing, shoes, skin care and make up/perfumes? Oh that'd be...

annabananna · Answer

I think both men and women are both more interested in womens looks.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Their own appearance : women Their partner : men ... But it's becoming more even nowadays...

NatalieKeller95 · Answer

what does it mean if a guy has a rounder face though?

Anonymous · Answer

Women know they are judged on their looks by both men and women. Men take interest in women's looks but may or may not be as interested in their own.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Women care more about their appearance. Men care more about women's appearance.

Anonymous · Answer

Men are more judgmental till they realise they can't attract good-looking women, and then they will sleep with anyone.

AsaKyo · Answer

I think all people, regardless of gender, care about looks deep down

TheSimFans · Answer

It deponds. Some people will care and other people will not care.

msc545 · Answer

I think women care more about their own appearance, and men care more about the appearance of women.

Twalli · Answer

Women care more about how they look, and guys care more about how someone they want to date or sleep with looks.

moviedude714 · Answer

Kind of difficult to answer since women are not far behind

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Contrary to popular opinion, I think it is probably women who care more.

TotallyAlmost · Answer

Men care more by a lot. I see a lot of guys punching above their weight lookswise.

PatriceONeal · Answer

Statistics and studies highly suggest women are far more shallow than men are. Don't act surprised.

BeyondBirthday · Answer

We both care about looks, some people more than others.

Anonymous · Answer

Women care as same as men if not more. One of the reasons that the majority of women love bad boys is because they look good. If anyone is dating an ugly guy then only for stability.

Anonymous · Answer

I think woman do. Woman wouldn't want to be with a guy they themselves considered ugly.

Chthou95 · Answer

Even though men are more visual, women find 80% of men unattractive. 80/20 rule is a real thing

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