Do women care about looks more than men?

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I ask this question because I notice how the times have changed so much. Nowadays you regularly hear women openly talk about not being into a guy because he's not attractive/good-looking. When I was growing up the opposite was highly common: women would say that men cared more about looks than women, while women cared less about looks and more about the connection with a man. Outside of this question, I personally have always believed, even when I was young, that women care more about looks than men period. Even when it comes to other women, or else there wouldn't be any competition among them. But what does everyone else think?

Lookingforthetruth · Accepted Answer

Well women are certainly more superficial than men about looks. Both the okcupid and tinder study which looked at male/female patterns on what they find attractive supports this.

And the best thing about this study is that it used generalized social media profiles and the participants won't aware they were taking part in survey; women could not construed the result to one they believe would meet social approval.

While men have an even distribution and can appreciate the average woman as being attractive, most women consider 80% of men physically unattractive. This is why there is a large gap in terms of dating/sex experience amongst men.

With some men having multiple girlfriend's in their 20's while others are left without ever experiencing any relationships at all in their teens and 20's which make them easy marks for manipulative/ex-cock carousals that are now looking for their beta bucks.

The main difference between men and women though is a woman is willing to be with a man she has little no physical attraction toward if that male provides financial stability and resources to her wives.

This is why many women after having their fun in their 20's and failing to long term relationship/marriage a top 20% man for relationship will pick the best male amongst her male orbiters for marriage and long term relationships. She will often try to virtue signal it as her growing up and appreciating good, stable guy who is serious about love and commitment over a handsome guy who likes to play games.

To summarise. Women certainly care about looks and for vast majority will focus on this while they are at their peak in beauty. When this wanes and social pressure kicks in to focus on long term relationships many of these same girls will forgo sexual attraction for financial, stable male who she can manipulate into doing anything she wants.

DenizLikesTennis · Accepted Answer

Yes I understand. Looks are merely a pre-selection thing. and it is arguable. It doesn't matter whether it's a man or woman at this point. Both have preferences. Looks only matter in one's preferences. Which means you could be naturally 9/10, great face shape, symmetrical ripped body like Connor Murphy but there'll still be men and women who won't be attracted either way because beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

I recently created a poll/small study about this statement whether women would pick the very first date with someone with the best looks/status. Most women have stated that the confidence, attitude and vibes come in the first place WITH IT. So which means the way you talk, the way you behave, the way you take care of yourself, the way how you treat others, the way how you sound like (aggravated passive voice).

Though it is very difficult to apply all of them. The best thing what you can do is just be authentic and fix/improve what you can and accept what not.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Other women around me say they don't care about looks, I believe one of them as she got engaged with a 4-5 inch shorter guy. But the rest? Women in general don't like to look "bad" or shallow.
We are though and it would be more honest to admit it.
I care about looks as I want to be attracted to the guy sexually too. What guys don't understand is that if a woman cares about looks it doesn't mean she only wants a 6" 5, 8 packs abs male model, even if we look.
I find various types of men attractive and that's probably the main thing. For me a handsome man can still be not attractive as he doesn't look masculine, while an "uglier" guy can be very attractive looking.
Ok, what I am trying to say, I date guys I find attractive, me, my personal opinion attractive.

hanony · Accepted Answer

I do for this reason. If a guy looks like he doesn’t take care of himself (dirty hair, dirty clothes, doesn’t shower, etc.) that tells me he won’t take care of me. I also look at fingernails. If they have dirty fingernails, and they don’t work a job like construction, or farming, or something that actually gives dirty hands, it’s an automatic no.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Pretty confident women care about a man physical looks because they desire to be with a man that stands out from the rest (makes her look good socially and also he matches her physical looks) and also will reproduce good looking offsprings and genetics.

Non confident insecure women regardless if she is pretty or not tend to desire men that are average looking or less because they feel no woman will desire them (no competition), hence less chances of him cheating on her.

The reality is we all care about physical looks and what looks good but insecurity can definitely play a major role for both men and women when choosing a man or woman to be with because if you have a gorgeous looking woman or handsome man then you know good and well a lot of men and women are going to be scoping for them as well.

DaySpring · Answer

Who up keeps their look more? - Women

I think women care more but I also think men of the past are apart of the reason why that is.
If men cared more about looks they themselves would express that in their own grooming and styling. Men compared to women don't as much.

I think it is perceived that men care more about looks because men are very visual in terms of their sexual processes. Men just use visuals to get off; to get a high. But if they truly cared about looks wouldn't they care about their very OWN look?

I don't know I'm just typing my thoughts here.

hahahmm · Answer

Don't think so. Partly this is because she expects a man to make her feel certain things and having looks doesn't guarantee that you can do that.

Also context matters. For example a guy might seem to only be about women's looks & yet he never takes a woman who only has looks to offer seriously because deep inside he knows her looks by themselves aren't valuable enough. This is more true the more the guy has to offer too. Likewise a woman with nothing to offer guys is more likely able to be shallow than one who has a lot to offer.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

No. The focus of both sexes differs. Women focus more on genetic setup while men on current stat of girl's appearance. Most girls can be hotties with makeup and proper clothes, while in gray pullover and oversized jeans they appear invisible to men. As a man your outfit, hairstyle or beard doesn't affect your attractiveness for girls that much. If you're looking good, you could wear a pig farm worker suit and they will take you, while a short guy in Boss suit can only attract women with his wallet.

Vegasrunner · Answer

No. Men care about looks more. A eomens most important agency is her looks while a man's most important agency is his status. Plenty of ugly guys have a bunch of women while it's much harder for ugly women to keep a man.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

I'll be honest I do need to be physically attracted to him. I have had men who I don't find super attractive hit on my and I'm polite of course but I just don't get the same feeling if you know what I'm saying. I know it might sound harsh but I can't help it lol

Creampiekarl420 · Answer

Yes they do when a man has a lot going for him and is average looking ugly will be the first thing a woman calls him but it doesn’t affect us because most ugly guys know they’re ugly do you think Pete Davidson and Ed sheeran don’t know they are ugly I guarantee they do

rocksongwriter · Answer

To find out what women are actually attracted to, I recommend reading "A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World's Largest Experiment Reveals about Human Desire" by Ogi Ogas

Basically, Ogi secretly obtained the web search histories of many thousands of people and used that data to uncover what peiople are really attracted to.

SweedyPie · Answer

That's actually a good observation. It's more than looks. I think womesn have come to having a whole list of things they want and use as criteria now. But it's getting more common over time yes. However I can't say which is more than the other

CubsterShura · Answer

Women certainly have higher standards now. And yes, I do care about looks not in terms of what you are born with, but rather in terms of how you take care of your appearance. By that I mean your biological features (such as skin tone, eye color, height etc) matter less to me than how you dress, your level of fitness, how you groom your hair/beard etc, your oral hygiene... Those matter to me a lot. Men still tend to care about women's appearance based on their physical features.

Sonorous · Answer

I'd say yes. At least in terms of who they chose to be sexual with. Because of the internet, chads are more easily accessible now so it changes the game. Now, many wouldn't settle like they otherwise would have in the past.

I definitely recommend watching the video I posted in this question months back:
Which Sex Cares More About Looks?

Avicenna · Answer

Yes, they do care more about looks than men do. It’s part of hypergamy and meeting the judgements of other women.

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t know. I think when it became fashionable for woman to wear less make-up, keep a more natural look, it sort of evened out the field. Clean and trimmed and good to go for everyone. There are those in both genders who take appearance farther, as they choose to. I wouldn’t say woman cared more these days in general though. It is harder to keep a short hairstyle looking good. Most men wear their hair short. There is more effort already.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I don't think so, while it is possible, I think they tend to focus on the person, not just how they look. Remember beauty fades, dumb is forever.

Apple1996 · Answer

Personally no I don't care about looks. Other girls might tho

VikingWarLord · Answer

No just get your money right and you can have pretty much any biitch you want. You can have multiple at the same time. I speak from experience.

Shamalien · Answer

Nowadays any girl can fuck chad. Nobody can keep him, but all these girls think they are gunna get a guy like that when in reality they r gunna have to take what they can get in the aftermath...

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe women of today. I have noticed the "wanting their cake and eat it too", attitude of today's generation of women
But historically I'd say no to this. But that's ok because woman have about 30 other attributes they judge you on. So don't worry, even if you're hot you still got 30 other ways you can f*** up in a woman's mind. 🤣

Akpos · Answer

Yes, women cares about looks than men because their looks really matters inorder to be attractive to public, why men care less about their looks

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Dating apps have pretty much answered this question. In fact, women find the majority of men unattractive while men tend to find most women at least marginally attractive.

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