I asked a guy I’m seeing “would you ever date me” he said “I’m working on not self sabotaging in relationships” does this mean he never would want me?

[Anonymous]

[BrotherBane]

As a guy, I always say that to everyone as well, and the reason is exactly that - To not self-sabotage the relationship. Because I know I have some baggage to settle first before I am ready for any relationship. (and yes, sadly I have turned down too many good opportunities because of this)

[FilmGuy93]

Kind of. The more accurate way to interpret that statement is "I'm interested in you, but don't have enough faith in myself to maintain a healthy relationship."

[Ninania]

Sounds like he's aware of his own pattern of sabotaging relationships and is working on himself before dating anyone again. Emotional maturity takes time and effort, so you should step back and let him take things at his own pace. He may not be for you, if you're looking for someone to date right away, and it could also be another way for him to say he's not interested in dating you at all. Only he knows the intention behind those words.

[RavVid]

I don't see how you a seeing a guy but not dating him. I also can't interpret his statement it doesn't seem t make any sense

[Anonymous]

You are "seing" this guy but you are not dating. Does that mean you are doing all of the usual dating stuff wthout calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend?

[Hardworkingguy]

I don't know that's kind of a weird answer perhaps you should try and get it to know someone else because this person doesn't seem to know what he wants

[Anonymous]

It could be an excuse or it could actually be the truth. He might want to self reflect and get himself okay first before he is ready to date.

[TacosRAwesome]

If you're seeing him, isn't he already dating you?

[PinkRose24]

It means he's toxic. If you do or say anything wrong he'll say or do something 10 times worse.

[WTFdivorce]

You might want to explain the question better especially when it states you are already seeing him.

[WhitneySnow]

Sadly yeah that’s what it means

[Anonymous]

Id say it means he doesn't to date anyone right now.

[Dav1dTh0ma389]

I thought "seeing" was "dating"

[Anonymous]

he's full of shit