You’re seeing a man. And he does all the following:
- messages you consistently - reassures you if he’s going to be slow to reply.
- very affectionate, forehead kisses, compliments
- introduces you to his mates
- is caring and supportive, listens to you
- isn’t pressuring for sex
- makes me laugh and every day with him is fun
But he lives in his mates spare room, is working a night shift factory job, and doesn’t have much money at all. He asks to see me every weekend like ‘I’ve noticed it’s Thursday and we’ve not made plans for weekend’ he will say. But he’s never taken the initiative to plan a date himself. He says it’s because he doesn’t know what is around and feels bad just booking somewhere and me having to drive us both there
he has 4 ex girlfriends and he mentions them a lot. They pop up in conversation all the time.
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I'd be more concerned about the fact he talks about his ex's so much. 4 of them? He needs to move on.
Are you willing to carry that baggage with him? What does he say when he mentions them?
He says things like ‘oh my ex liked that too’ and when he met my friends he said to me ‘oh my ex was called that too.’ And then when I asked him in a flirty way to stop being on his phone when he’s with me, he told me I was being manipulative like his ex, and gave a sob story about how she was manipulative and how she was bad as she wouldn’t take time off work to come to a wedding with him
I'm sorry, but this just seems like a big red flag... I wouldn't continue investing in this relationship. It sounds like he still needs to heal and get over some stuff.
I dunno what’s wrong like I’m not good enough. Even on my birthday he made no effort. I planned a trip but he didn’t help me plan for my bday so I cancelled it. Went to his house instead and took me out of lunch but he didn’t offer to pay for my lunch. Opened my present and it was a vibrating sex toy, no card or anything. It upset me and I dunno if I’m selfish for being upset by that. He said his previous exes got similar gifts when they were together
Is this something really worth your time? If not, what's making you stay?
He doesn't sound like dating material to me.