Is it your fault if a girl you been with have been through trauma in the past?

[mattclark242]

is it your fault if a girl you been with have been through trauma in the past? Like her ex boyfriend use to hit her. also maybe some guys just sleep with her and leave her. maybe someone did some bad sexual with her. dose that make you at fault cause she easy sleep with?

dose it make it your fault that she have money issues?

is it you fault that she mess up and she let people use her? but you do not want use her you just want her be ok? is it your fault that something make her mess up but you did not know what that thing was or someone else did something bad to her that make her the way she is?

how you help someone who is mess up but your not sure how much and what wrong with them?

[NotTacocaT6969]

What happened to her before she met you is not your fault.


However, how you handle her trauma is on you.




If I paid one woman a day to go kick you in the nuts, you would start to fear for your nuts whenever any woman approached you.


Is it a normal woman or one of the women I paid to kick you in the nuts? You have no idea.


The uncertainty and fear would ruin your ability to be approached by women.


Is it some random woman’s fault?


No, it’s my fault for paying women to kick you in the nuts and the random woman who approached you should be understanding when you drop to your knees, cover your nuts and scream “please not again!”


It’s neither her fault nor yours that you were traumatized.

[inhua]

no however trauma always finds a way from the past into the present and you'll get the brunt of the blame.