I've noticed the bigger his muscles, the more money he has, the taller he is, but most importantly the cockier he is the more confidence girls/women assume he has. I have been that guy where be respectful, give a girl her space/respect her boundaries, make her laugh, be civil, don't be highly sexual with your comments, have engaging conversations with her still doesn't work. I am a guy in my early 30s, in grad school and I am wondering what am I doing wrong if I have given plenty of girls a chance. Now, of course, teenage me compared to 30 yr old me is much different. Obviously I have made mistakes in the past, we all have so you can't say its 100% your fault, I can admit to my faults. All I am saying is, I wanted to change myself for the better because I believed in my heart, this is the kind of guy a girl wants to be with. But often at times, I notice girls want the muscular guys with tattoos instead. I would never get tattoos since its against my religion and I have to follow my faith for God, not for girls. But I honestly don't know what gives.
Part of me feels now to be that asshole, cocky guy and be overly sexual with my comments and hit on her because obviously being a decent, well-mannered guy isn't working. If any girls reads this and says "oh so you were pretending to be nice". No, I was not pretending but judging what most girls seems attracted to these days, it seems like the approach is now, if you can't beat em join approach.