M22, How can I get a girlfriend?

[Avcfhcic]

I've tried asking girls out in person, 7/7 rejection rate.
I've tried tinder and bumble on different occasions, I can't get matches let alone talk to anyone on them.
I just don't know what to do. I was convinced to go on dating apps by friends saying I look good and stuff, but the lack of likes/matches just makes my confidence take a hit and I don't feel good enough

[DaveJord]

For a man online dating is a numbers game, you might get one reply for every 10 to 20 women you message, and yes you got to be messaging like 10 to 20 women a day in the hopes one will respond. Then when they do not respond, then you got to circle back with them after week or two and say hey, I am not sure if you want to reconsider but I would love to get a chat started.

This has actually worked for me. The women have told me after the first message they were not sure... but after the second message they thought why not this guy might really be interested in me.

But trust me when come to online dating you got to message like 10 women to get on reply, and out of the ones that reply only 1 in 10 of those will result in date... and out of those who actually go on a date, only 1 in 3 will result in a second date.

So, if you do the math on that, you got to message 100 women to get one date, and then potentially 300 to get a second date. Now for some people who are actually really good at online dating like me, I get a 2nd date out of every 50... and I am just better than average not great.

But I have two serious committed relationships from online women. in last 18 mounts, one 8 month and I am currently dating someone now and we are month 4.

Out of 16 different women, I have had 6 second dates, and I have sex with 4 different women and shit ton sex with the two.

Comes down to the strength of you profile, your ability to not be creepy in text, and you in person charm.

[Avcfhcic]

I wish I could have the opportunity to match girls in the first place, that's the issue for me

[DaveJord]

They will not match you; they even reply, or they don't. You got to have thick skin to be sucessful at on line dating... it is not easy and it will test the confidence of even the most confident of men.

Most chicks on line are crazy anyway, either bat shit crazy, totally devastated from previous relationships, or from broken homes or childhoods. Divorced kids, or otherwise undatable and they do not know it. But there are a few out there worth the effort and time. But you got to be out there looking and trying 10 times harder than any other woman has to.

And just because you see woman you think is perfect for you, don't believe for a second that she is... I mean she is online for reason.

[Guy13]

www.meetup.com is all I have.

[NotTacocaT6969]

Pretend I’m one of the online dating girls.


What do you day to me if you want me to message back?


Take your time.

[Avcfhcic]

Well if I got matched with someone I'd try and match something to their profile rather than just day hey

[NotTacocaT6969]

Just saying hey is how I got my boyfriend. 🤷‍♂️

[Avcfhcic]

I need to be in the situation to get a match before knowing what to say 😂

[Avcfhcic]

But congrats to you

[NotTacocaT6969]

Are you using match. com or something?

I’d recommend using the free version of OKC.

[Avcfhcic]

I use tinder and bumble

[NotTacocaT6969]

Tinder is for hookups, not dating.

[Avcfhcic]

I just want to get experience but I'm not attractive enough for girls to even want hookups

[NotTacocaT6969]

Putting yourself on a slut website is a bad way to get experience. Just saying. Lol

[Avcfhcic]

I don't really have much else to do. It's worth trying but like I said, I'm not the attractive guy so my chances are already slim.
I just want action, preferably via a girlfriend and relationship

[RobT312]

Maybe you are doing something wrong in person. Go out with your friends more often, there is safety in numbers, they can help u ask someone out. Keep with online too…always keep all options open and be positive. It will happen when u least expect it

[gorydetails]

Go up and talk to girls. Try 100 if 7 wasn’t enough.