I've tried tinder and bumble on different occasions, I can't get matches let alone talk to anyone on them.
I just don't know what to do. I was convinced to go on dating apps by friends saying I look good and stuff, but the lack of likes/matches just makes my confidence take a hit and I don't feel good enough
For a man online dating is a numbers game, you might get one reply for every 10 to 20 women you message, and yes you got to be messaging like 10 to 20 women a day in the hopes one will respond. Then when they do not respond, then you got to circle back with them after week or two and say hey, I am not sure if you want to reconsider but I would love to get a chat started.
This has actually worked for me. The women have told me after the first message they were not sure... but after the second message they thought why not this guy might really be interested in me.
But trust me when come to online dating you got to message like 10 women to get on reply, and out of the ones that reply only 1 in 10 of those will result in date... and out of those who actually go on a date, only 1 in 3 will result in a second date.
So, if you do the math on that, you got to message 100 women to get one date, and then potentially 300 to get a second date. Now for some people who are actually really good at online dating like me, I get a 2nd date out of every 50... and I am just better than average not great.
But I have two serious committed relationships from online women. in last 18 mounts, one 8 month and I am currently dating someone now and we are month 4.
Out of 16 different women, I have had 6 second dates, and I have sex with 4 different women and shit ton sex with the two.
Comes down to the strength of you profile, your ability to not be creepy in text, and you in person charm.
I wish I could have the opportunity to match girls in the first place, that's the issue for me
They will not match you; they even reply, or they don't. You got to have thick skin to be sucessful at on line dating... it is not easy and it will test the confidence of even the most confident of men.
Most chicks on line are crazy anyway, either bat shit crazy, totally devastated from previous relationships, or from broken homes or childhoods. Divorced kids, or otherwise undatable and they do not know it. But there are a few out there worth the effort and time. But you got to be out there looking and trying 10 times harder than any other woman has to.
And just because you see woman you think is perfect for you, don't believe for a second that she is... I mean she is online for reason.