I'm really hung up on a guy who told me he only wants to be friends. I have been dating more but finding it hard, especially online dating. We are no longer in contact and he shows no intention of contacting ever again. Sometimes I have been tempted to reach out but I know he would only wanna meet to have sex, which isn't what I want. What's the best way for moving on from a guy you caught the feels for?
I'm really sorry. That sucks and I understand.
Time. That's not a fulfilling answer, or a happy answer, but it's the right one. That plus being very intentional about doing things in your life that make you happy and focusing on the pleasure from those things. Little stuff. Not expensive, or time intensive. Just little things: fresh cup of coffee, pet the cat, freshly cut grass on bare feet -- fill your time with as much of those little things and focus on them when you do. It will make each one step better than the other.
And, too, be mentally prepared that your feelings will smack you in the side of the head like a gut punch when you least expect it: you'll by buying Tylenol at CVS and a song will come on the radio that reminds you of him and it'll poke a sharp knife in your mental wounds. Don't live in fear of those moments but knowing they'll come prepares you and forearms you.
And, finally, it's okay to miss him. Or be sad. Or be angry. Or any hybrid of those three. Just acknowledge it (crying is okay) then be done with that and embark on your list of things that bring you pleasure.
And one day at a time.
Best wishes.
Getting over someone you feel deep affection for who doesn't want a relationship with you can be a challenging and emotional process. Here are some tips that may help you move on:
Acknowledge and accept your feelings: It's important to acknowledge and accept the emotions you're feeling, rather than trying to ignore or suppress them. This can help you process and understand what you're going through.
Focus on self-care: Engaging in activities that make you feel good, such as exercise, hobbies, or spending time with friends and family, can help boost your mood and self-esteem.
Limit contact: Reducing or eliminating contact with the person you have feelings for can help you distance yourself emotionally and reduce feelings of attachment.
Seek support: Talking to friends and family, or even a therapist, can be a great way to process your emotions and get the support you need.
Create a new narrative: Reframe your thinking about the situation and focus on the positive aspects of your life. Consider this as a learning experience and an opportunity for personal growth.
Focus on the future: Use this as a motivation to start looking towards the future and set new goals for yourself.
Remember, healing from heartbreak takes time and everyone's journey is unique. It's important to be kind and patient with yourself as you navigate this process.
I used to love a guy like that when I was your age but I never told him. i have always wanted a relationship where the guy is the one who loves me more than I love him so for that reason, I kept my heart in check cause I didn't wanna lose my Virginity to someone who don't love me.
he liked me a lot but he wasn't that into me so I refused his sexual advances until our service year was over and we returned each to our states. I deliberately forgot him.
I fell in love with another one like that and made my observations. this one was thesame so I held back.
Now, I'm with someone who is head over heels in love with me. I said yes because I liked him but now I've fallen for him as well. He is so caring. only problem is he is very protective. but its cool. He's the one im going to marry.
I suggest you guard yourself and don't let your feelings control you. it may be tough but it's not impossible.
Like I always say, women are like a desirable gold in the market. everyone wants it but only the one who really wants it pays the price to own it. Value yourself.
Find a guy online who looks exactly like him
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It takes time and just remember he only wants to be friends and is only using women to get what he wants. If he wanted you as more than a friend he would have told you and he would be chasing you so the fact that he is being honest is good that way you don't waste your time with him and you can focus on a guy who actually wants something meaningful with you. So erase everything that reminds you of him including pics, social media, number, texts because re-reading his messages makes you miss him and makes you tempted to reach out. You will be looked at as a high valued women who isn't easy to get and who will get the respect from a guy who is worthy of you and all of you.
Time. It’s never easy to get over someone you have a deep affection for. But with time, you can. Although it’s hard to remember, there are guys out there that would be attracted to you, and that you would have as deep of an affection for. It’s just about finding each other.
Although you’ve been trying and haven’t found that guy yet, with time you will.
u Same way u move on from anyone keep busy don't actively think about them
By having your mind reject your heart wanting to makes advances with the feelings you're having for a guy who isn't interested in you.
Straight up, stay busy. Catch up with family or friends. Being around people is a great distraction, you won't even realise you forgot about him.
Don't worry. You don't live forever. It'll all go away when you are dead.
I don't know. But I get the feeling that when I look at the guy I grew up with.
The best cure for a man is another man
literally learn to ignore emotions and use logic.
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