How can I force my mom to accept that I will never get married?

[Haha456]

I'm at the age where my mom wants me to get date and get married. She loves me very much and is afraid that I will spend the rest of my life dying alone. But I've already given up on dating and have accepted my fate of being alone for the rest of my life. Not my first choice but its an inevitable thing. Im planning on starting a family on my own without a husband or boyfriend- which I know my ultra conservative / traditional parents will never be able to accept. I haven't told this to her because I know that it will stir up a lot of drama / commotion/ arguments between us. Or should I just abandon her so she will never find out that I became a single mom?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I don’t think you need to abandon your mom for this. I can understand that it’s difficult for your traditional parents to accept change, but she’s also your mom and she just wants to see you happy with someone, which it sounds like you would prefer that too if you get the opportunity. I think maybe a better way to frame the conversation is “I don’t want to wait on a man to have a family of my own,” rather than saying you’ve given up on dating and accepted your forever alone status. You sound hopeless about the situation, and while I agree dating today is pretty much a mess, it’s not entirely hopeless. Who knows? You might find a good partner after you have kids, someone who could be a good dad to them as well as a good friend and lover for you. I’m sure your mom doesn’t want you to lose hope either, though I agree that you don’t need a man to find happiness in how you live your life.

[Tomisworthless]

My mom has actually told me that she thinks I will never get married or have kids. I asked her why and if she thinks I’m gay and she gave no response and said no that I’m not gay. But I don’t believe her as strangers out in the world think I am gay.

So I don't know I’ll probably just work pay bills and sleep till I die all alone in this suffering we call life

[Haha456]

I dont see being single as suffering

[Tomisworthless]

No friends no partner for your entire life? Just by yourself and not even being one people respect so you get laughed at and insulted? You don’t know my life

[Haha456]

friends are something that you go out of your way to make. if you want to travel with someone, join a travel club around your area to meet like minded people so you can have someone travel with you. Friends don't just show up at your door step. you need to actively go out to make them.

[Haha456]

the reason why so many adults are lonely is because they don't go out of their way to make friends. another reason is because they tend to be very picky when it comes to making friends.

[Tomisworthless]

Can I send you a pm

[Haha456]

sure. but chances are we need to add each other first.

[Haha456]

before we can message each other

[slatyb]

You can't. You can tell her that you no longer want to discuss it. Then if she brings it up, you can pointedly change the subject. If that doesn't work, then just walk away, Reneé.

[SnowedIn]

You can't. Just don't get married. Just don't tell her. Just live your life.

[Haha456]

its gonna ruin our relationship. i honestly think its better to abandon her so I don't have to get harrassed by her for the rest of my life

[SnowedIn]

I hear you. I'm sorry you're forced into making such a choice.

[chicosuave]

Nah stay single forever. Just make sure you reject every single guy in the world

[summiter]

Live your own life not your mothers