I made the mistake of asking my boyfriend if I’m the prettiest girl he’s dated? His first reaction was immediately yes?

[Anonymous]

He said yes but went on to say that beauty is relative and if it upset me that he dated pretty girls before me. Now I feel like he doesn’t think I am the prettiest and that breaks my heart. It doesn’t matter if I’m not because he assured me he loves me more than anyone he’s been with. But now I can’t help but wonder. I also looked up his “prettiest” ex and honestly there was no competition there. So I know I hurt my own feelings but now I’m insecure af.

[NamerOfStars]

Do you remember when you first started dating him? How you saw him from across the room, thought "he's cute!", then shoved a.45 magnum underneath his chin and said that he was going to be your boyfriend now or you'd kill everyone he ever loved, letting him live just long enough to watch?

Of course not. That didn't happen, you're not fucking insane. He's with you because he chooses to be, not because you're the prettiest girl he's ever laid eyes on. Are you, objectively, the most beautiful woman in the world? No. But that's okay- really. If you're worried because knowing that makes you insecure that he'll leave you for a better-looking woman, and there's only so much you can do make yourself look better, then focus on the other aspects of what makes you a good girlfriend. Yes, appearance is the first thing people notice, and yes, guys generally put more importance on it than gals do, but it's not the only thing, and frankly, once you're close enough to see the others, it's not even the most important.

Even absolutely gorgeous women get cheated on and dumped; the only want to be sure your partner will stay is to make them WANT to.

[WaterIsland]

He said yes. That’s what you have to focus on. If you truly take a step back and focus on what he truly said (not what you’re overthinking about), he said that you’re the prettiest girl, AND that you have an amazing personality too. He basically gave you two compliments in one while also answering your question.


I know it’s really easy to get in your own head and overthink things. I’ve been there too. But taking a step back and putting aside everything else, he clearly really likes you, and thinks you’re the prettiest girl. Because that’s what he said.


It’s easy to get in our heads and make up things that weren’t actually said. But do your best to take a step back from that, and focus on what he actually said.

[Guy13]

Oh well, as you said you did ask for it. Why is it women have to seeking and creating problems when they know that they should not be asking such things.

I would be like are you trying to break us up. You must be looking for reasons to get out. I would be on guard with you now. And if he was not you are very fortunate.

[WaterIsland]

Eh. You’re right in one regard. She did ask for it. But EVERYONE has said or asked something they regret at one time or another. Can’t let one moment as minor as this define the relationship. If everyone did, no one would be in relationships.

[Guy13]

@WaterIsland Can't argur with that... Perfection is not on my List of "Woman Must Have"

[ShiftingMonke]

"Look not through a keyhole, lest ye be vexed".

It cost you nothing to ask this question, and he gave an honest answer; both the question and his answer have little to no bearing on your current relationship. Before you judge him, his answer, or your relationship: remind yourself that everything was fine until you asked a senseless thing, and it's your lack of self control that's caused any issues.

[LiamJHayden]

Guys, this question is like a two-edged sword. If you say "Yes." then a lot of women will wonder if their standards are too low and if they "settled" for you. If you say "No." she'll be offended and treat you like <BLEEP> for the next week or two or longer.

[BarryLiverstone]

You don’t need to be the prettiest. What matters is that he chooses to devote energy to you.

[Anonymous]

Lol your heart break just because he don't think you're pretty? Your heart that soft? You should asked him if he think you're not pretty than what he is doing with you?